TTC first baby (dc1) after MC

Hi ladies, can I join please?

I’m so sorry to everyone on this thread, I hope we all get our rainbow babies very soon 🌈

I had a miscarriage on 27th Feb after going to a scan that very morning at 7+1 and seeing the heartbeat ❤️ So to miscarry that evening at home was incredibly difficult to wrap my head around it.

I’m already feel emotional today as today should have been my 12 week scan. I know that seeing pregnancy announcements around this time and watching people tell their due dates for when I should have been due will be difficult for me. But I’m trying to be positive.

I’m so glad we all have each other for support through this time. It really does make you feel less alone.

I’ve got a flashing smiley this morning 😊 so baby dance is on the cards tonight 😂

@bages1977 yeah exactly that, it feels so lonely when it happens to you. I’m noticing more “influencers” talking about it on Instagram but not sure if that is just because I’m more aware of it/Instagram algorithm working but I think it’s a good thing. The more awareness the better

@justwant2beamum you have worded that so well. It does feel like it robs you of a happy pregnancy! A family member did say to me though that after having a MC seeing your baby for the first time will be even more special than ever and I like to think about that when I get down about it

@danielleb97 it is so scary isn't it. Praying we all get there in the end. I wouldn't wish this feeling on anybody. My partner seems positive but I think men seem to accept it easier than women. I think that's partially because it has not happened in their bodies. I'm just trying to stay positive for him atm.

@MrsF111 glad it's not just me. I think from people I have spoken to around me, MC happens more often than we think but because it's rarely talked about, when it does happen it makes you feel like there's something wrong with your body.

Wishing everyone on here all the luck in the world for our future rainbow babies! 🌈❤️

@bages1977 and @danielleb97 I was so scared to get pregnant again last time, to the point of having to go to the loo at work because I would start crying if I thought about going through another MC. It’s such an awful feeling and it’s so frustrating that it steals the excitement of pregnancy from us. This time around I’m feeling less scared, just incredibly impatient!

@bages1977 so sorry for your loss. After mine the nurse at the EPU told me it can help to wait for a proper 'cycle' to start again (mostly for dating purposes), but there was no harm in trying in the meantime. I didn't even ovulate before I got my period though.

I also feel that, it's a really weird feeling. I'm scared to get pregnant again, as much as I'm scared of not being pregnant again. I'm sure we will all get through it though ❤️

@MrsF111 sorry for your loss 💐 I can't imagine how hard it must be to have 2 MMC. It's been around a year since me and my partner started TTC and I feel the same as you. Feeling especially deflated this month & it's only our second month back TTC after our loss Xxx

Hi ladies! I’m trying from baby number one, I’ve been trying a year now. I get pregnant quickly but have had two mc, both missed ones so have spent 6 months of the last year pregnant on total, first mmc had to take medical management around the 12 week mark and the second I got to the 12 week scan with no bleeding other that a little spotting at 4 weeks and was told I had had a chemical pregnancy but had absolutely no idea as my period had t come back and I still felt pregnant. Really been suffering with it and feeling down as we come to the year mark from deciding ttc. My period finally came back today. I have 38 day cycles and on my last scan was told I have polycystic ovaries but haven’t had the blood tests for PCOS however I have decided to act as if I do and have given up dairy and really cleaned up my diet, taking some supplements and trying to not stress! It’s at least helping me feel like I’m doing something. Sorry this has turned into an essay!! Nice to meet you all, sorry you are all in the same boat xxx

@TheDaydreamBelievers I see, thanks for your response. I don't actually know when my baby stopped growing because I miscarried before they scanned me, but yes I suspect it was probably earlier than you. Hope the test gives you some answers!

@AnxiousTurtle3 its through nhs. They specified that its cause the baby died that late - its unfortunately common to miscarry or find out about a MMC at 12 weeks but baby usually only grew approx 6-9 weeks. My healthboard is therefore offering testing for situation where baby died after 11 weeks. The nurse said other healthboards still dont offer it until after 3 losses, sadly.

@TheDaydreamBelievers so sorry for your loss That's interesting that you were offered the APS test because it was a late loss. Is that through the NHS or private? I also miscarried relatively late at 11 weeks but since it was "only" my second MC, the EPU said that I won't be offered any tests. I will ask my GP next week when I have an appointment though.

Thanks for your replies. I think the bleeding has stopped today. I was only 6 weeks pregnant so I don't think it's taken too long.

Just wondering now when the best time is to try again. I've heard waiting one cycle is best so I'll probably do that.

Currently trying to get my body in a good condition for it, eating well, taking my vitamins and getting out and about for walks. Trying to stay positive about next time but does everyone else just feel like they have this weight looming over you that it's going to happen again?

@TheDaydreamBelievers sorry for your loss hopefully you get some answers from the test! I was also having ridiculous cycles and it really does make things so much more annoying to track doesn’t it
@bages1977 Sorry for your loss I kept bleeding even a tiny bit up until my AF and that seemed to tmi clear my body out

Btw guys I’m completely thrown now, what day do you start doing OPKs? I was doing them every day before my last AF but I’m running out and don’t want to waste them? I’m on day 12 of this cycle according to my app and finished AF about a week ago? X

@bages1977 I was told no more than 3 weeks x

Hi everyone

Sorry for all of your losses. I found out last week on my birthday that I was having a miscarriage and it was so awful. Hoping to try again once I've had a natural period.

Does anyone know how long you bleed for on average? I just want the bleeding to be over now as it will feel like closure and a fresh start. Felt like I had pregnancy anxiety before the MC but can't imagine how bad it will be if we get pregnant again.

Hopefully we will all get there soon ❤️

@AnxiousTurtle3
Thank you for your response. It s so very kind of you!

Id like to join.

31yo, came off pill March 2020. Huge irregular cycles (141 days longest one). Pregnant Sept 2020, had a scan at 10 weeks, looking great. 12 week scan showed MMC with fetal death at 11weeks. ERPC at end of November. Cycles are still nonsense long.

Awaiting test results for APS (because fetal death was so late). Hopefully results back next week then can TTC again.

Anxious Turtle Im so sorry about two back to back. That’s awful Personally I waited a month because I wanted to give my lining a chance to recover - and I drank pomegranate juice as had read it measurably thickened the linings of women going through IVF. Don’t know if it will help, but it made me feel better in terms of having tried to get my body healthier again.
Also I took soy isoflavones this month, because I wasn’t having strong ovulation, it was later than before, and my cycle was shorter- so far it brought my ovulation forward by more than a week, and the opks clearly picked it up. So might be worth a go if your cycles haven’t come back properly x

Hi! Sorry I missed your post @justwant2beamum, my period came late at night on the 26th! Still regular cycles so some positive to take away I guess but still so devastating, our 2nd cycle back trying after the loss and I’ve lost all motivation already. 😅

Also my partner tested positive for Covid on Monday and I have it too 🤒 definitely not ideal.

Welcome to everyone else that’s joined & I’m so sorry to hear about your losses 💐

@justwant2beamum and @Notabs thanks for your responses. I did another test this morning and no line!

@lucerito thanks so much for your prayers and encouragement! I didn't have any indication that anything was wrong until I started spotting at 11+2. But I didn't have an early scan and I miscarried at home before they scanned me at the EPU so I don't actually know when the baby stopped growing. Sorry if this is tmi but from what I saw I think the baby died a few weeks earlier, it was too small for 11 weeks. I think with you seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks your chances are very good now! I know it's hard but try not to worry!

@AnxiousTurtle3
Wow, so sad! You are too strong to be sharing your stories here 🥺 Two MCS back to back. I'm praying you will heal both physically and emotionally. I know sharing is a big part of it.
Was everything going ok in the second pregnancy and one day it wasn't? Or were there sings? You don't have to answer, of course! I guess I look for assurance too 😭🌈😍

Hi all,
I think I got on here by "mistake" because I am pregnant, but maybe I just happened to get on here to give you some hope.

After having a MMC in June last year and the D&C procedure done in July (2020), my body was so confused, I didn't bleed, I didn't get a period, I didn't feel pain. It was like my reproductive system had gone on a trip far away... I think I only got a regular period like 5 months later, and it became very regular as I had always been only by December.

I didn't even want to try and conceive, I was too afraid, plus this world seems a bit more crazy and scary than per usual.
But when my body went back to normal, my mind el started wanting to try again.

And then I got pregnant right away.

I know we are all different, but we all need time to heal, both physically and emotionally.
Try to be genuinely happy for others and believe that you will get that blessing too. And that even if you don't you will have a life filled with joy.
Be kind to yourselves.
Praying for you ladies,
Looking forward to hearing good reports!

(Had my first scan yesterday 🥺 8 weeks, strong heart beat)
Hope for that rainbow 🌈