TTC first baby (dc1) after MC

Hi @lena21 sorry to hear you had 2 mc, that is the same as me, I’ve had my first period after the second misscarraige now and just a week away from ovulation I think, I have long cycles!

@clcmuminprogress it’s so cruel getting to the scan and finding out, I hear about lots of people that get pregnant quickly afterwards so hopefully you will be one of them, I’m in my first cycle following my second mc so I’m hoping I am too!

@EsseKey its funny how glad we are for AF after a mc when we spend the rest of the time hoping she won’t turn up! Glad you have a fresh start now. Hopefully this is the month!

@EsseKey - a fresh start that's always nice, first two weeks are always the best, lots of energy and great mood. I know timing dtd can be stressful, all the spontaneity is gone and it just becomes a chore but there's no other way too... despite telling my DH hun it's my fertile week he always forgets and the tension oh my my ... I really want to move past this phase and move on ...

@lena21 I got my first period after mc just yesterday...
I'm in that crazy phase of planning when to dtd in the next couple of weeks (assuming I am still ovulating on cd15 as it was before mc...which might not be!)
Not sure yet whether I want to tell my boyfriend or not that we will have to dtd on those days...I mean I am sure he gets it 100% and would be on board with that, but I also know he might get nervous knowing he has to 'perform' on a schedule (it happened before!)... on the other hand we only see each other during weekends because of his work so we will need to make the extra effort and do the longer commute every other day for the next couple of weeks...so he should know I think! ughhh that's hard - not at all how I would have liked my baby to be conceived! :(

Read ur story, sorry to hear about ur mc, I feel ur pain. My DH was the same.. it took a while to align, all the tracking, DTD is so hard .. where are u in ur current cycle?

Hi @lena21 sorry to hear that you had 2 miscarriages...must have been so difficult to experience it twice! How are you doing now? 3 dpo is an exciting time, let's hope you will be lucky this time - just a few more days to go before you find out! :)

Hey Ladies, can I join this thread?

Ttc our first baby, had 2 miscarriages... sadly both in first trimester. Don't know when I will graduate finally !! Just want to get pregnant already.. currently 3dpo I think 🤞🤞

Yeah I know, a lot of people are - and rightfully so....although the % of people experiencing mc or infertility or other issues is very high, still the majority goes through ttc and pregnancy relatively smoothly :(
I am normally a pessimist so I was extremely aware (maybe too much I must admit) of everything that could go wrong, from taking a long time to conceive to not being able to sustain a pregnancy. Now I feel just so unlucky to have been among those that had this problem, but as you can see we really are a huge group! and none of it is our fault, it just happens.

Let's keep each other updated, who knows that we can have both another simultaneous conception

@EsseKey - I'm really sorry to hear of yours too! Yes I'm hoping it'll happen for both of us - regardless of a bumpy start to the year I'm determined to think this year will will get better
Will keep you updated on my journey and sending love to everyone going through this. I honestly was no naïve before this process as to how difficult TTC can be.

@clcmuminprogress
so sad to hear your story :( my timings were similar to yours (ttc november, conceived in january). I also had absolutely no alarming symptoms until the day of mc so when we found out at the first scan that baby did not grow and I was probably going to miscarry, it was a shock and I had the worst 2 weeks of my life waiting for it to happen.
Unfortunately I don't have a personal success story to share with you, I hear anecdotally of many people for whom it happens so I hope it will happen for us too!
I perfectly understand your desperation and crazy googling and spotting every possible symptom, you are not alone! I hope you can get pregnant soon or at least find some inner peace to deal with the process in the best possible way!

Hi All - New to this thread but having read your comments it looks like I'm in the right place...
So my husband and I started TTC November last year and finally had the news end of January that I was pregnant with our first child and we were over the moon and couldn't believe our luck. Everything had been going fine, I had the usual pregnancy symptoms including 3 weeks of extreme nausea and sickness but no pains or spotting etc so leading up to the 12 week scan we were both really optimistic that everything would be fine.
What should have been a wonderful day turned into our worst nightmare as I'm lying on the bed being scanned and the overwhelming silence from the nurse which felt like an eternity until she finally said 'I'm sorry but there's no heartbeat'. Unfortunately we were only measuring 8+7 and I had suffered a 'silent miscarriage'.
I had booked in for a D&C 2 days later and the EPU team were really supportive and put me at ease.
We were both devastated and heartbroken and I personally felt 'defective' knowing that all other women from both sides of our families had flown through pregnancy with no problems so why was my body letting me down and not even giving me a sign of what was to come?

We told close friends and family and we both decided to let some colleagues know in work so we didn't have the awkwardness of explaining a sudden absence from work and re-living the process. I was so overwhelmed by the support we received and the experiences shared by others knowing that miscarriage actually seemed to happen more often than I ever could imagine.
I had a few friends that didn't really understand the term silent/ missed miscarriage and didn't understand why I was needing surgery.

I'm still trying to come to terms with what has happened but both my husband and I agreed we would like to start trying again straight away. (we waited 2 weeks to avoid any risk of infection) - I'm now 3 weeks in after the D&C, my hormones have all but gone and now have the dreaded wait until AF is due.

I'm now torturing myself with the daily searches of 'how long does it take to get pregnant after miscarriage' & wondering if every little twinge, niggle and cramp is a sign of pregnancy or possibly ovulation or implantation or is my body just playing tricks on me because I'm so desperate to become pregnant.

Has anyone had any successful experiences of pregnancy early after a miscarriage?

Hi ladies
I finally got my AF after mc, it took 5 weeks but it's finally here.
I was hoping to be lucky enough to be pregnant again immediately but I was not putting too much expectations on that.
It's good to have AF back so that I can start fresh - I feel a bit anxious and excited at the same time...but scared to not be able to get pregnant again soon. I realised that one of the best parts of being pregnant was not having to worry about getting pregnant...funny eh?!

@justwant2beamum ah I'm sorry to hear that. Will you be testing early or do you think you'll just wait to see if af turns up?

I'm CD26 out of a 28/29 day cycle, not feeling too optimistic myself x

How is everyone doing? X

@AnxiousTurtle3 ive got the inositol and folate supplement and also cut dairy for possible PCOS (i have 35 day cycles and found PCO on a scan but not had PCOS diagnosed)
Finding the book really interesting though - thinking about ordering the CoQ10 and also getting a water purifier for the tap. But like you it just helps to feel like im doing something

@MrsF111 I've also just read that book following my second MC. I've now switched to a prenatal with methylfolate and am taking myo-inositol to help with my PCOS. It's been 24 days since my MC and no sign of ovulation yet... I find TTC with irregular cycles really tough so I'm hoping the myo-inositol will help regulate my cycles. Also made some changes to my diet and got rid of most plastics in the kitchen. To be honest I don't know how much these things will help, but it makes me feel like I'm doing something, and I guess they can't hurt. Hope it helps us both get our rainbow babies soon!

Time to start swotting up

@EsseKey yeah that's my issue with lockdown too. I have a friend who had a baby last April and a friend who is currently pregnant. She also had a miscarriage with her first so she is good support but I can't lie, it pains me to see her with her bump and to hear how it's going. Obviously I'm so pleased for her but it also reminds me of my own pain.

Yep I guess we've just got to pick ourselves up and carry on! I believe well all get there one day we just have to be patient!

@bages1977 oh I totally feel your pain. I am also scared of lockdown easing, I mean I would love to get around a bit more but at the same time I am kind of scared to meet my friends who recently had babies. The funny thing is that when I know that when I meet them I will be so happy and I love playing with the babies and hear all their mum stories...but when I am alone afterwards I am just full of sadness and resentment and all mixed up emotions! not nice...

I am lucky that my boyfriend is super keen to try again, probably much more than the first time - but I am also sure he doesn't 100% get the emotional rollercoaster I am going through, he keeps saying yes let's have sex and everything will be fine (he does it because it makes me laugh but after a while I am really frustrated that ughhh that's not enough for everything to be ok!).

Sorry to hear that you feel terrified about trying again...it happened to me while I was miscarrying, the pain was definitely too much and I was thinking that I didn't want to ever be pregnant again - but now I am 100% all in with ttc

I am really keeping my fingers super crossed for our bpf to show up again!

@EsseKey I feel I'm in a similar situation to you age wise. I turned 32 on the day of my miscarriage (lovely birthday present) and me and my partner feel now that we was a bit naive about pregnancy and how long it could take.

I came off the pill mid January and got pregnant in early March. We felt so lucky to conceive so fast as we were only seeing each other at weekends and had only done the deed about 4 times! (moved in with mum to help her after an operation). We were so happy when we got the positive but unfortunately lost the baby at 6 weeks. It just floored us both.

I think I'm just terrified now to try again but also secretly want to get pregnant instantly! I think it's natural to feel that way. I think my partner is still a bit naive and I feel like I just put a downer on any discussion about it but I can't let myself get excited about pregnancy ever again.

I've found these discussions so helpful in terms of support but part of me keeps telling myself to delete this app as I can't help but read stories of so many recurring miscarriages and it just fills me with anxiety about trying again. I think the thought of lockdown ending too is getting me down as I feel everyone else is going back to normal yet I'm not drinking alcohol and watching what I'm eating...just feels like there's nothing to look forward too and it's lonely

Hopefully the next positives will come soon for us all and we can spread some joyful news instead!

Hi all!
I have been following another threat about ttc after mc, but I just found this one and I like that we are all ttc first baby after mc! I mean I don't like it, but we are all in the same boat and it is a bit comforting so I hope you don't mind me joining in.

My story (skip if boring ):
I am 31 yo and I started my ttc journey a bit frustrated because I couldn't get my boyfriend understand that even if we were ok with having first baby in our early 30s, there are so many things that could go wrong that we shouldn't have waited that long to start trying...
Like all men he was convinced it was enough just stop using protections et voila' we would have had a baby after 9 months .
I got pregnant in january 2021 after 2-3 cycles (he says the first time we tried didn't count, don't ask me why!), so I was happy and he was all cocky and saying "I told you so, it didn't take that long!". Unfortunately when we went for an early scan at 8+5, they saw a 6wk embryo with faint heartbeat. I knew from the moment she put the probe on my belly that it was not looking great. They told us I was almost 100% going to miscarry soon, so I began phoning doctors and hospitals and whoever I could think of to try and have this miscarriage going as soon as possible. Unfortunately they all said that as long as there is a heartbeat they can't do anything….even going for a voluntary pregnancy interruption (which felt cruel but the only option remaining) seemed to be so difficult and I don't understand why. So I had to wait more than 2 weeks, I was feeling good physically but with a baby/non baby inside me, just waiting for it to stop living. That was cruel and frustrating and horrible.

The mc itself has been the most painful thing I had in my life. When I was having the heavy contractions I was thinking f**k it I don't want to be pregnant ever again...all gone within a few hours, and I stopped bleeding/spotting after few days.
Now it is exactly 3 weeks after I had the mc, and 1 week after I got my first negative pregnancy test. I am secretly hoping to get pregnant again before next AF but I know this is very unlikely, and I am doing opk just to check whether something is moving with my hormones…I would be happy just to have AF soon…
So far I only got negatives opk a part for 1 morning when I saw EWCM and something like a borderline positive - everything was gone within a few hours so I am not even sure that really happened

I found the strenght to tell a few people about it (although not my mum...she doesn't even know I was pregnant), and everyone either went through it themselves or know someone who had a mc. So I am thinking wtf why is everyone not talking about it? I mean yes you can find online and social media stuff about this, you know it's very common etc, but I never ever talked about anything like this with my friends. And we talked pretty much about everything. I know it's a sensitive topic but at the same time it needs to be normalised in my opinion, it will make everything easier to deal with when it actually happens to you. do you agree?

Sending you ladies all my thoughts, it's sad but it's comforting to know that we are not alone. Sorry for the long post!

Hi @acupofteamakeseverythingbetter. That sounds so awful I’m sorry. It really is a kicker seeing all the announcements and then getting closer to a due date and thinking of the milestones. I always find I feel better after a good cry so I just go with it whenever I’m feeling sad, take myself off, cry and complain about how unfair life is and usually it helps me feel better