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Would I take this as ovulation?🤞

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Skl2021 · 08/03/2021 10:16

Would you say the 3rd test down was my peak? Seems to be getting lighter top one was today. These were alot brighter irl. The picture of one on its own was the third test down before it dryed. How many more days should I DTD? And when would I class 1dpo? Thanks 😁

Would I take this as ovulation?🤞
Would I take this as ovulation?🤞
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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 15:28

@Confused678866 I thought that too but I don't know if it's true 🤔 I think the rate of another miscarriage is lower if you fall pregnant within 6 months of miscarriage. So much information out there so much to take in. Something I have never read about as it's never Happened. Can't believe how common it is and how it's hardly spoke off. X

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 15:25

@Skl2021 Hopefully not too much longer for you then 🤞🏻 not a nice thing is it to be constantly reminded.
Oh yeah I've read that too.. and you're more fertile etc aren't you xx

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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 15:13

@Confused678866 they said it can be a couple of weeks and should start to get lighter. I have read stories online were people have bled for weeks so guess it's just wait and see. I had heavy periods anyway so hoping I'm over the worst. Just hope my periods come back soon and I'm not waiting months. They were very unpredictable before 🙈 so probably worse now! I have also read that u can ovulate around 2 weeks after miscarriage before your next period so have to be careful if you don't want to get pregnant straight away xx

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 14:58

@Skl2021 Yes it's not fair at all, very cruel. That's why I don't think it should be doing to you, I think it should be done at hospital as part of the after care. I hope it stops for you too 🤞🏻❤️ did they say how long it can last for? Xx

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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 14:28

@Confused678866 yes now I need to buy pregnancy tests! Not something I thought I would be doing again. Crazy how the one time u actually want to see the pregnancy test get lighter or be negative. Horrible seeing it positive now. Even though u have spent months desperate for the positive 😩 such a cruel game. I'm hoping the bleeding stops soon and I can move on a bit without being reminded every time I go to the toilet xx

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 14:23

@Skl2021 Oh wow, that's so bad 😞
I've gets this before that you're just expected to get on with it and that life goes on etc etc.. it's unfair. Maybe you could ask your GP about talking to someone and explain what you feel you need. It's worth a try and it could really help you.
I don't think they should be telling people to try a test in 2 weeks, that's cruel. You should be called back to the hospital for a follow up and they should do it!!!! 😣 xx

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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 14:17

@Confused678866 no that's the thing I'm really angry about. They send u home and basically tell you to get on with it. And that's that haven't heard from my midwife. I don't know who your meant to talk to. I was not prepared for the torture of actually seeing the baby or what your meant to do with it. They said try a pregnancy test in 2 weeks and see if it's negative. If it keeps coming back positive then I will have to go for a scan to see if I haven't passed everything. So if they go negative then that's it no follow up no asking how you are. Just get on with your life. It's crazy. The after care for miscarriage is terrible when your feeling your lowest where do you go unless it's a medical emergency. I want someone to talk to me and tell me if there's anything I could do if I try again or if it's safe to etc etc. I'm sad and angry and numb from everything. Sorry for the rant xx

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 14:11

@Skl2021 Yes, rest is definitely what you need... and to take it day by day and be kind to yourself. Do you have to have any follow up appointments or anything? Xx

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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 13:55

@Confused678866 yes I just have to take it day by day nothing else I can do now. It's such a weird place to be in. I need rest I'm exhausted. Just been one big whirlwind doesn't feel real xx

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 13:11

@Skl2021 Yes I get that.. it must be very scary! Life can be very cruel can't it 😞
Just give yourself time to heal though as that's the best thing at the moment - I know it probably doesn't feel that way at all though.
Bless him, it must be very hard for the both of you. My heart really does go out to you ❤️ xx

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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 13:08

@Confused678866 with everything we went through with our little boy then this happening it's just so much trauma. How much more can we go through. My body is desperate for another baby but I am petrified of something happening and going through this again 😭 it's just like one big cruel joke. Hes doing ok he's holding it together for me but I know he's broken too. It's such a dark place to be in xx

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 13:01

@Skl2021 Oh gosh 😢 it sounds so awful. I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this 😔
I can't even imagine. Just try and give yourself some time to heal.. I know that's easier for me to say but just take the time you need. How is your partner? Xx

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Skl2021 · 22/10/2021 12:54

@Confused678866 hi. Thanks for checking in. My head is all over the place. I'm so broken and lonely. I passed the baby on Wednesday. Such a perfect tiny little angel. Something u never think wil happen to yourself. Its now just like a very heavy period and some pains. However emotionally I think it's just hitting me. I just want to be pregnant again. And I'm so scared. I just find myself crying and not being able to stop. 😭 I can't believe your just sent home and left to deal with this. It's traumatic. Xx

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Confused678866 · 22/10/2021 12:51

@Skl2021 Hey, don't expect a reply but just checking in and hope you're doing okay ❤️ xx

Confused678866 · 18/10/2021 19:11

@Skl2021 No worries at all, always here to talk if you need to ❤️ look after yourself xx

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Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 18:48

@Confused678866 thanks for the support it means alot 💕 I will just take it day by day and hope this nightmare ends soon 🤞 u and bump keep safe 💞 I will keep checking in when I feel a bit better or if I need advise and I'm freaking out 🙈 xx

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Confused678866 · 18/10/2021 18:33

@Skl2021 Oh it must just be awful, I don't even know what to say. I really hope you don't suffer with it and it's over as quickly as possible for you. Really hope you're okay, and your partner too 🙏🏻 xx

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Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 18:09

@Confused678866 yes bleeding has been on and off all weekend but I'm also getting period pains 😩 so knew something wasn't right. Did get pains with previous bleeding. Midwife think It Wil happy naturally as I'm already starting to bleed. I'm just scared incase it's really bad and painful I don't know what to expect. But I also don't want to be stuck in limbo to long waiting for it to happen. Want it over with as soon as possible 😭 xx

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Confused678866 · 18/10/2021 17:25

@Skl2021 Oh gosh bless you 😥 yes I know what you mean about not wanting to be on your own, I don't blame you.
Did you continue to bleed and then had to have a scan then? God I'm so sorry for you 💔 xx

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Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 17:21

@Confused678866 I'm at home I chose to try and do it naturally. I didn't want to be on my own in there. I don't know what the best choice was it was all so much information at once. I'm so scared it's going to be agony. If it hasn't happened within the next 2 weeks then I have to go in and have tablets or the operation 😭 now I'm just here waiting can't go to far incase it starts and I'm scared to go to the toilet. It's torture xx

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Confused678866 · 18/10/2021 17:08

@Skl2021 My heart really goes out to you 😞 are you at home or in hospital?? Xx

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Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 17:02

@Confused678866 thankyou it's ok no one knows what to say or do in these situation. I wasn't expecting it so I have been a bit of a mess today 💔 I'm just absolutely petrified of what I'm about to go through 😭 can't believe it's really happening xx

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Confused678866 · 18/10/2021 16:59

@Skl2021 Oh my god I am so so sorry 😥😞 I really don't know what to say to you, I'm rubbish in these situations. Please remember you can talk to me whenever you need to. I'm heartbroken for you 💔😥 xx

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Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 12:21

@Confused678866 we have lost the baby at 10 weeks. We are heartbroken 😭 xx

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Confused678866 · 17/10/2021 07:18

@Skl2021 Yes I really hated the sweeps, I used to get so anxious beforehand!
Hahaha I did all of those things apart from sex! 😂 honestly, the thought of it I was just like no way 👀😂
Hahaha spellcheck!! Yes I meant pessary 🤣🤣
Yeah they're rubbish aren't they! I wasn't allowed the drip because you can only have that if you've started to dilate or you've started to contract a little.. I just didn't dilate! So I was like a none-pregnant woman 🤷🏼‍♀️
I'm quite nervous for birth this time if I'm honest because if it's natural, I don't know what to expect but if it's a section, I can't help but think of last time! Mum guilt has already set in too which is killing me lately! 🙄
Yeah hopefully you can avoid it next time too and end up with a natural birth! Will you be booking a private scan to find out gender? Xx