Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

Hi all, I hope it is okay if I join in too?
I am so sorry we are all having to go through this :(
We had what was supposed to be our 12 week scan last Tuesday but sadly found out the baby had stopped growing at 7+4. I have never been so heartbroken. I started medical management on Saturday (so i am still currently going through the miscarriage).. Hoping to start TTC as soon as the bleeding stops and i get a negative test. I intend to start using OPK's but i know it might take weeks or months for my body to get back to normal. It took 6 months for my cycle to sort itself out when i came off the pill... I really hope it doesn't take too long.
I hope we all get some positive news soon

Hi can I join🤗 I learnt of my MMC on 31st Dec 😔 I’ve had my first AF (post MVA procedure) recently and ovulated 3 days after according to OPKs and the worst ovulation pains ever which was strange... DTD a lot so will see what happens 🙏 sorry to see others in the same boat after MCs but hope we all receive some good news soon!

@Ralala no mine is very light spotting. So last cycle is was pink mixed with CM for a day or two, then brown for around 3 days, then full flow heavy AF for 4 days. Then spotting mixed with CM right up to Ovulation. Spotting then stopped completely then I had some spotting yesterday lunchtime. Now just cramps. I'm only 7DPO so hoping AF holds off another few days. Next cycle I'm going to take B6 vitamins in my LP to try and stop the spotting. I'm hoping I get less spotting in the follicular phase in the next cycle but who knows 🤷‍♀️ I havent had any tests yet, I'm going to give me body a chance to reset before I follow up with GP xx

@dippyegg32 I'm 18 DPO I think /4 weeks 4 days. My GP has always been good just saying yes to those sorts of things. Does mean a bit of a stomach churning wait but I suppose that's going to be the way it is anyway. With dd the HCG climbing really reassured me so that's what I'm seeking I guess.

Good luck and everything crossed for darker lines today!!! Let us know xx

Hi ladies , how are we all? Cd20 for me. Ewcm this morning. No idea if I have or haven’t ovulated so we are just going to keep DTD for now.

@AMS19 sorry about AF. Is it full blown AF of brown discharge / spotting ? Sorry for the personal question but before I had my little one (which took 2.5 years ttc) I used to get brown discharge from 6/7dpo. It was like a light period but didn’t turn red until 12dpo and I would then have my classic period for 5 days. Lots of investigations never figured out why. I had bloods done to check prostegeron levels and all was fine. I appreciate your situation may be different by day 3 and day 21 bloods by your GP may be an idea? Xxx

How many dpo are you @glowingtwig? My gp wouldn't offer hcg bloods last time they were all through my gp.the cramping is pretty bad tbh so I'm really not confident though my temp continues to climb each day. I was at 37.14 today I'll grab another frer after work as my last test because they're driving me nuts. If the lines are darker it'll be a miracle; I'm sure I'm heading for a chemical and prepared for them to be lighter today.

I'm so sorry @yepstilltrying you're in the right place here with us to chat to. The dread of chemicals is so awful- I'm in this now, not testing any more as I can't bear it and waiting for the lines makes me go all shaky.

Sending loads of luck for this next cycle.

@SuzieDeLaTour @wag1987 I was thinking this the other day too... I stopped all the notification but my due date for the lost pregnancy in August is coming up- April the 14th. Crazy to think I could be just a month away from another baby if it had worked out.

Now I'm trying not to think too far ahead with this one. It's so hard though, thinking about if I'll be wearing maternity dresses in the summer and things. @dippyegg32 I've had some mild cramps today but trying not to worry as I don't really get AF cramps ever, it just starts. Hoping it's just everything starting to stretch. Maybe the case for you too?

Well ladies, I had my first beta HCGs done today. Aimed for exactly the same cycle day as I had them done with DD so I'll only be happy if they are similar or higher numbers. Then another one Thursday where I'll be hoping they've gone up the right amount. My GP said she would do progesterone too if I wanted on Thursday but I'm unsure... if it's nice and high obviously that's great and indicates all is progressing well, but if it's on the low side it doesn't necessarily mean a failing pregnancy but then obviously I'll be really stressed.

What do I do..? Go with the progesterone or just stick to the beta HCG? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hi everyone. I hope it's ok to join this thread. I got pregnant this time last year and had a miscarriage in June that took FOREVER to sort itself out. Couldn't start trying again until January and then had two chemicals in a row. Trying to conceive again this month so really hopeful it might work out but dreading the lines getting lighter and another chemical :-(

Ps you girlies have made me desperate for a foot rub!! X

@wag1987 oh I had that thought too - I would be 19 weeks today gearing up for my scan 😔 fingers crossed this is our lucky month!
@AMS19 oh love I hope the head is ok this morning! Waking up from drunken naps is hideous, the hangover starts there and then. I’m so impressed you managed your yoghurt and seeds this morning, I would have been loading up on stodgy carbs from the moment I opened my eyes!
I’m not saying anything new here but just wanted to say I agree with the other girlies - your body has been through so much and we all take different amounts of time to recover. I think planning stuff is a great approach, will give you something to look forward to and it’s healthy to focus on something other than TTC (says she counting down the hours until AF is due!!🤦‍♀️) we are all here for you xx
@Mellous oh my love, it’s so tough 😢 I know I’ll be exactly the same if this month doesn’t work out. It all seems so unfair but I’m just holding on to the hope that it might be a bumpy journey but we will all get there in the end! Xx

Morning ladies, I am so crap at keeping track on here 😕
Today is three weeks since I had my scan where I found out about my MMC, so a crap day already. I took a pregnancy test this morning (I've been taking them every day since last Tuesday) and it's finally negative. I had squinters on Saturday and Sunday but still enough to class as faint positive I think. I'm relieved that it's finally negative but feel sad as well. I've had positive opks since Tuesday as well, it was 200% Tuesday and has been in double figures all week. Today it's still peak but at 92% now so I have no idea if I have already ovulated, if they were high due to still not having a negative pregnancy test or if I'm still in with a chance.
We haven't dtd yet, I've not felt like it, plus I've still had brown spotting, but I don't appear to have any today which I guess makes sense if I've had a negative test.

@DMT1982 a blow out was definitely needed. I'm working from bed today eating hula hoops 😂😂 I really should try and act like a mature 33 year old woman more often! Also... reflexology is amazing! I love having my feet rubbed too! Xx

Thanks @gizmo167 really hoping for get a good period to clear everything out for you!

@dippyegg32 I'm so crampy too...it's just the worst! I've got everything crossed for you

Ps acupuncture sounds brilliant and if it makes you feel lighter then it’s doing something and at a fraction of the price of the fertility one, even better.

I have a massage booked in today so looking forward to that. I went running twice over the weekend so need it. I am going to look into reflexology as having pressure applied to my feet I find really relaxing although my hubby moans that it hurts his hands!! Xx

@AMS19 I definitely think planning stuff without pregnancy in mind is a good thing otherwise you just won’t make plans and a lot of pregnancies can happen when you’re not thinking about it which I appreciate isn’t easy because it’s always on our minds however if planning things and doing things takes priority and pregnancy takes a back seat you may well find you fall pregnant as your mind is on other things.

It won’t be long before we are able to start socialising again even if just outside to begin with it’s better than nothing. You’ll still be taking all your vitamins and remember the 20/80 approach so don’t kick yourself if you have a couple of days off with your head in a box of wine and filthy food, it won’t do you any harm or your eggs any harm.

Thinking of you xxx

Glad to hear you're sounding so pragmatic @AMS19 great about the acupuncture!!

I keep running to the loo assuming af has started as I'm cramping badly. I just want it to blinking start if it's going to. I can't bare the limbo. Faint but not a squinter yesterday and now cramping. Can't deal with it all!

@AMS19 big hugs hun, its rubbish isnt it not knowing what our bodies are doing, mc are just so traumatic without all the fallout, really isnt fair!!

CD30 for me today, not sure where I am tbh, just waiting on AF, hate this part! A tiny bit of cramping but absolutely no sore boobs and no skin breakouts at all that I would usually get before AF, happened after the first mc too with the boobs etc, I've no idea if or when I would have ov'd, I dont temp or anything, trying to take a relaxed approach to it all, I got my bfp on this day last cycle but I had implantation bleed that one and had all the preg symptoms of the day so definitely 100% sure its not going to happen this one!

@glowingtwig Thankyou !

This sounds like a plan 🤞🏻 x

Thanks @PlantMummy87

Ha @Neady1980 I feel your pain. My mum and I had 2 bottles of prosecco and a bottle of wine between us 🤢 I feel pretty terrible! Having my yoghurt and seeds for breakfast though because I've done enough damage for one weekend 😂😂

@AMS19 hope your feeling better today, I had a bottle of prosecco and a Chinese last night followed by a karaoke with my mam and SIL 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I really enjoyed it. Paying for it now though

Oh @AMS19 lovely, it sounds like yesterday was really hard for you. I hope you are feeling ok today and not too hungover. As the other ladies have said, your body has been through a lot and it's completely normal for it to take a moment to stabilise again. I think there is so much pressure for everything to snap back to normal after a mc but often our bodies don't get that memo. I've also heard vitamin B helps with lengthening the LP. But if you do want/need to take a break from TTC or here we also completely understand and as @DMT1982 said we will be here for you when you come back if you needed a break. Sending you lots of love 💕

@Mellous I'm so sorry you had a hard day too yesterday. How are you feeling today?

Morning @dippyegg32 @dmt1982 @glowingtwig. Thanks for the messages this morning and sorry for being such a Debbie downer last night! I've ordered lots of B6 vitamins for next cycle. I think you're definitely right @dmt1982 about stepping away from things for a bit. I do like watching everyone's journey as it gives me hope. Just need my body to play ball. But maybe I'll take some space from it all for a bit. I'm filling my summer up with lots of trips and plans, of which pregnancy wouldn't be ideal, so I'm giving myself a silver lining and assuming it won't happen. If my body needs time to repair so be it.

On other news, I had more acupuncture yesterday and found it a lot more effective than the previous one. She said it was only a light one because of where I was in my cycle but definitely felt quite light afterwards!

Hope everyone has a good week xx

I'm so sorry you're feeling so rubbish @AMS19 , you've been such a huge support to us- it's not fair! Don't forget that with AF comes a huge hormone crash which will make you feel worse and even though your body isn't back to normal yet, it will be soon I promise. Get some salt n vinegar chipsticks for the prosecco hangover!

@jodielouise26 I have a friend who took 18 months to fall pregnant after relying on apps that indicated her ovulation time incorrectly. As soon as she used opks she got pregnant.

I would have sex every two/three days until you get into that window and then daily opks til you see your surge. Then have sex every other day as they get darker, the day and then the day after they are positive, wait a day and have sex once more. It's sort of a version of the SMEP plan and seems to work for us.

@dippyegg32 I can definitely see a line on the bottom one! 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@SuzieDeLaTour you're one day closer now... it goes so slowly doesn't it?!

@dippyegg32 those emails go into my spam luckily and I found a few the other day by accident. They really hurt when you see how far along you would have been ☹️ Xxx