TTC 35+ Thread 7

@Marvellouslymadmum that’s really interesting, do you mind me asking what other tests they are sending you for? X

Thank you all 🥰

So this may sound like the stupidest of questions and sure I’m about to make myself sound like a total fool but here goes....if you’re ovulating normally DTD at the right time, what’s the chances of becoming pregnant? Or why has pregnancy not happened if sperm meets egg? I’ve tried to prevent pregnancy for so long because I was under the impression that the chances of becoming pregnant were so high if said above happened?!

@climbershell if I were you I'd keep going with the opk's and dtd every other day until cd21. My cycles are nearly always 25-28 days, with ov on cd13-16 (12 day luteal phase). However in December for no explicable reason I didn't ov until cd20 and had a random 32 day cycle. Not wanting to add extra stress, but you could also consider temping next cycle? It's useful for confirming that ovulation has happened.

@Loladoodle yep here I am on CD1! AF was trying yesterday but I guess it was waiting for you 🤣 First proper day today.

Hello newbies! Welcome! The more the merrier! 🥰

@climbershell that's exactly what I found with the strips it was so confusing I felt it was worse than guessing!

@WrongendoftheSTIX yeah maybe they aren't sensitive enough for me, I'm even doing with fmu too.

The thing is I have no idea if I've ovulated or not, which is leaving me feeling so up in the air. No real noticeable cm this month to guide me (have been dehydrated some days which doesn't help and I never have loads anyway), no real pain. V v minimal cramps yesterday & tiny bit left side today but not enough for me to think it was ov

I mean I guess spotting yesterday/today, on one wipe, could be ovulation potentially

So now I don't know if we need to try to successfully dtd tonight or not and in 2 days or not. If I hadn't been opk-ing I'd have guessed ov cd13-16 based on past cm and app history

If not successful this month I will try the clear blue definitely, coz this is more stressful than not opking!

@Twelvestars yes that's right, sorry if I wasn't clear. I believe some ivf clinics in this country have a cut off of about 45 some higher plus other countries it's higher but I feel I probably wouldn't go on passed that anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

It's like a rollercoaster of emotions each month isn't it?!
Af - ho hum, here we are again, sulking and then excitement at another month!
fw - woohoo dtd here we come, let's try, AGAIN to make a baby! I'm knackered 😂
Ov - omg I hope we've done it this month and we are lucky
Tww - I'm not going to test, I'm not going to test, I'm not going to - ooh google said my twitchy eye may mean I'm pregnant! maybe have been lucky this month let's test early and find out! Bfn oh maybe it's to early, bfn bfn bfn bfn af
Af - 😔 and here we go again!

@Marvellouslymadmum correct me if I’m wrong but I understand from what you’re saying is that you’re not eligible for IVF on the NHS. But if you wanted to go private, you could still undergoe IVF?

Hahaha I know the feeling about being done with AF and excited about dtd 🤣 it’s a joyous, albeit tiring, time. Enjoy it and hope it’s a BFP month for you.

@Twelvestars I am currently cd7 so coming up for dtd stage woohoo lol I'm thinking the app for them should come through soon but don't know how far away the actual appointment will be. We are not eligible for two reasons - I'm going to be 42 in a week and the cut of here is 40 but also we both have children from previous relationships (all grumpy stroppy teenagers now) but none together

@KG1145 any updates? Hope you’re doing well.

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks love! Where are you now in your cycle? When do you expect your appointments for the fertility referrals and SA? And also you mentioned you’re not eligible for IVF, why is that?

@JessWi welcome on board! I know what you mean about ttc feeling like forever. It does!

@lemonade83 welcome and congrats on your covid wedding. We are in exceptional times... I’m also 37 and ttc #1 for 3 months now. Btw I love your handle name! I love lemons and lemonade. I literally squeeze lemons into most of my food. You name it.

@Lexber hahaha when I was a mumsnet lurker (cause wasn’t yet in the groove of ttc) I always felt like I was reading a new language or method of communication that I had to pick up. Sometimes I still find myself stopping at certain terminology. This link should help:
www.mumsnet.com/info/acronyms

Good luck @Twelvestars 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Ok ladies. I am 1 dpo as of today. I had the worst ovulation pains last night for like a good 4 hours. Anyways I’m feeling good today and no pain. Let’s see if this month any happens!

@JessWi hi, you should still be able to get a referral to fertility from your gp. My gp did the same to me, took day 21 bloods said everything's fine you're ovulating off you pop, no referral etc as you have children. I didn't take no for an answer as yes I have children from a previous relationship but none with my partner and I'm almost 42, so rang and spoke to a different gp explained that yes I ovulated this month from the tests she took but i know that's not always the case plus with my age I need to make sure everything's working properly, I knew I wouldn't be eligible for ivf but thought there were more checks that can be done and she completely understood and agreed and referred me to fertility and oh for an sa we are just waiting for the appointments now

Hi @lemonade83 welcome, hopefully you'll get your bfp soon

Anyone not understand any abbreviations please feel free to ask 😊

@WrongendoftheSTIX it usually chooses peak based on temp more than opk and as it's 24-48 hours after peak that you ov could've been cd12 or 13

As for me - cd7 here low on opk then later on a big blob of ewcm so all confused here!

Welcome newbies! Don’t worry about the abbreviations etc @JessWi I am in a similar situation. Trying for almost a year now but with short cycles I am now on cycle 14 (as of today- full flow has arrived 🧙‍♀️). I have two children also from previous marriage and we have no plans to do tests or ivf - just hoping for the best really that it happens before the end of this year or I think we will be moving on with our lives without a baby.

@selina37 are you cd1 also?

We didn't manage on Ov day due to surprise early peak and tbh 3 days in a row was enough 😳

This thread has been moving apace! I've been quietly reading it all as I haven't had much to offer this month.
@climbershell the green cheapie OPKs never work for me. I used Clearblue got peak and completely blank cheapie OPKs 🤷‍♀️

This month I got peak on cycle day 10 & 11 (v early for me) followed by a clear temp dip on CD12 but FF has set ovulation at CD 13. I am counting it as 12 as that matches my temps and the Ov sticks. Temp rose today looks promising but we did DTD on ov day so wait and see...

Thanks @climbershell I'd figured those ones 😊 it's more when chat goes to tests and things like that I get confused xx

On the plus not my bleeding seemed to ease last night and I dtd for the first time post coil removal!!! Not expecting anything as no clue where I am in cycles but I was just pleased to actually get some 🤣🤣
Hoping it holds off now and then I can start testing to see how my cycle sits 🤞🏼

Was quite scary to think it's the first time EVER I have had unprotected sex without birth control... ever!! Lol shit just got real... xx

@Lexber dtd - do the deed (sex), cd15 cycle day 15, 6dpo 6 days post ovulation, sa sperm analysis, opk ovulation predictor kit. Ewcm egg whites cervical mucus, bd baby dance (sex) . They're the main ones

Hi @JessWi I'm quite new also and still don't understand half the conversations 🤦🏽‍♀️ so I tend to try and follow where I can.. you will find you pick up bits as you go along! Xx

Well we just attempted to dtd. He wanted a quickie, fair enough I wasn't in the mood either & don't care about climax, just sperm so conceive plus lubed up lol. Handful of positions, both in pain with hips/back, terrible all around and he couldn't cum! Argh. Only dtd every other day too, v frustrating.

I had a teeny bit of brown spotting on one wipe yesterday, tho strangely about 4 v v v v tiny bright red spots. Tiny bit brown spotting today. My body is being very strange this cycle!

@JessWi maybe it's just a case of age so it'll take longer this time around & nothing to worry about

@climbershell thank you. Yes still with the same partner (we were young at the time!) he’s got a little rounder over the years but still in pretty good nick! We are actually getting married next year, should have been this September but good old COVID put that back, so we have a lot of good things going on, we both are keen to try and have a baby before the wedding now but can’t really see that happening as would need to be pregnant within the next 2 months 😳