TTC 35+ Thread 7

@thislittlebird I'm due on Monday. My temp was still elevated this morning, so I'm clinging on to a tiny sliver of hope, but I'm still expecting it to drop tomorrow in anticipation of AF.

@DorisX welcome to the group! How you are feeling is completely normal, TTC is an emotional rollercoaster and you are going to experience every feeling over the next wee while. Your heart will swell with hope and shatter with disappointment, often within the same day! But the ladies here on this forum will be here to support you all the way :)

Hey @thislittlebird yes I'm on on B6 over here!

Have just started TWW so will see how this one pans out on the B6. I had some spotting today but I generally get that immediately after ovulation. (I think it's something to do with the oestrogen drop.)

Hi @DorisX I had grand plans to lose a couple stones as well and then covid hit. I feel like because it’s not accidentally happened there’s something wrong with me. I was looking at those vitamins too until I read the reviews. I’m the last in my family to have kids as well.

Thank you ladies, it’s reassuring to have other ladies agree with me that it is pointless waiting at this age. I know it’s kooky but I’m seriously considering ordering a bag of fertility crystals. I have nothing to lose haha.

Hi @DorisX, welcome! I don't think you're alone in that feeling. I've thought similar things, like I'll get the short childless straw because my sisters have loads, or we'll be the couple with infertility out of our friend group because it's 1 in 6 or 1 in 7 and there's about that many of us. Sometimes I worry about the part where I finally get a bfp, but haven't reached that stage yet. You aren't alone in the thinking the worst, I'm sure.

I think the multivitamins can effect some people yeah, but seven seas have been fine for me so far. Although I've generally upped the additional supplements this month so will see if that messes mine up at all. Your selection sounds like a good start, I guess the only thing I can think off for just starting out would be to avoid regular lubes and get one of the sperm friendly ttc brands.

Yeah it's annoying @climbershell

Who else here started taking B6? I think @selina37 was. I'm really pleased that I've finally got tender boobs again, which I remember @Kitekat81 said was a symptom of progesterone. I haven't had them in months and months and I think it must be the B6.

Welcome @DorisX! This is a lovely supportive thread - lots of similar and yet different stories! Sounds like you’re taking lots of the right stuff. Other ladies on here would recommend ubiquinol for egg quality. Disclaimer - I don’t take this...yet.

I think it’s normal nerves but also it’s possible/maybe even likely that at least one of your friends or family have had struggles in some way. I thought I was the first one I knew to have a MC but turned out afterwards that one my friends had too. But you do have better odds of not having issues. So keep that positive thought in mind!

One of the most annoying things about not succeeding in a cycle is the week of over a week to the fertile window!!

Planning on day 8,10,11,13-16 unless opk tell me anything different..

Hi all,

DH are going to start TTC from the end of April, so I'm just checking in to say hello. I'm 38 and he is 41... would loved to have started a family sooner but for various reasons we just haven't been in a position to do so, but it's coming up to 'now or never!'

To be honest it's quite a terrifying thought! I work in a healthcare-related profession and see what happens when things don't go as they should, and I am just convinced that it will all go wrong for us. I don't know if it's the done thing to say but I have seen all my friends and other family members have these lovely pregnancies and healthy babies and I just think we will be the ones for whom it all goes wrong. Maybe this is normal nerves, I don't know?

We are the last ones in our friends and family groups to TTC and I am sure our parents have given up hope in us .

I had grand ideas of losing a couple of stone before TTCing but of course the pandemic has put paid to that. I looked into Pregnacare capsules but was horrified to see on the box and read the reviews/threads on MN about how they can lengthen or change the menstrual cycle - shocking! So instead I am taking four individual tablets: Folic acid, Vitamin D, Magnesium & Calcium, Vitamin C and Zinc. DH is having a multivitamin. I don't know if there's anything else we should be doing?!

Yeah agree, good to get started @Katiekattty in case there’s any obstacles.

@Kitekat81 other people really do make it look easy, it’s such a contrast. Is your AF due tomorrow? Mine is possibly Tuesday if my LP remains the same, otherwise later I guess.

@Kitekat81 I don’t know, it’s very frustrating and ridiculously unfair ☹️

Hi @Katiekattty👋🏻 Definitely a good idea to crack on as if you wait and then it takes a while you would really regret wasting this time. Post 35 we can’t just assume it’ll happen whenever we want unfort!! 🙃

@Misty84 @thislittlebird I feel exactly the same, it feels like some kind of impossible dream now that I might one day see a positive pregnancy test. How do other people make it look so easy?!

@Katiekattty fingers crossed that you won't have as long a wait as some of us on here, but I think you've made the right decision to crack on and not put it off any longer, as you never know how long it will take. I use the Easy@Home OPKs as well, and the Premom app, I've been pretty happy with it so far :)

Yeah I wondered about egg freezing too @climbershell. Not sure how it all works really but I guess if I go ahead with ivf later this year some will hopefully be frozen in the process.

Same @Misty84, surreal is about right. I was reading Paloma Faith’s twitter (she struggled, I think she had something like 9 rounds of ivf for this second baby) and she was talking openly and honestly about how hard it can be. And it’s just so difficult for me to imagine being in her that position right now.

@thislittlebird yeah I guess will keep trying for another year naturally anyway. Tho keen for tests and potentially freezing a few eggs depending on findings, to have the backup

@thislittlebird I know, I think I’ve become so used to it not happening that it feels like some sort of surreal, impossible dream!

@Misty84 I kind of don’t expect it slash dread it slash can’t imagine it. It’s a weird feeling, wish I could be more confident it’ll happen.

@thislittlebird Same. Think we will collapse from shock when we finally get a BFP!

@Misty84 a few weeks ago I had a mild panic about having an only child and then I had to talk myself down like???? What are you doing, you haven’t even had a bfp in your life lmao. Trying to go one week a time over here

And yeah they have no idea. I can’t face seeing these friends in a few months with their new babies, I really can’t.

@climbershell I downloaded Premom it does the photo thing with the OPK strips.

@climbershell I’d also like 2, but struggling enough to make 1 doesn’t fill me with confidence haha! Would be amazing if it happened though. I would never ask for a single thing again!

@thislittlebird Couldn’t agree more with how upsetting and unfair it is to see friends get pregnant easily. What’s worse is they have absolutely no comprehension or understanding of what we’re going through.

@climbershell there are loads of apps! I use flo, clue, glow, Femometer &fertility friend some of them take a pic of the ovulation strip for you (glow and Femometer) but I still didn't get anywhere with the strips had to go with the clearblue advanced digital to get more of an idea

@Katiekattty an app for opk? No I didn't know there was an app. Thought it was just test 1-2 times a day and when gets darkest you are v close to ovulation?

@thislittlebird it's given me nothing so far! Just a very jagged chart lol

@Katiekattty good luck, hopefully it will happen soon for you!

@Kitekat81 we’ve only started trying last month. I’ve been putting it off because I was bit worried about Covid but that’s not going away anytime soon. 🙄🙄🙄 My OH wanted to put it off until next year when we move house bla bla because it’s so easy to get to pregnant. When I broke down the costs of me ageing out of NHS help and IVF costs he changed his mind really quickly.

@climbershell I’m CD1 so I’m assuming around the same time. Mine should come on Monday, have you downloaded the app?

@Marvellouslymadmum we started trying last month.

@thislittlebird I’m 38 in August. I’m hoping to have two so hopefully it will happen soon.

@Marvellouslymadmum does ff give you an o date?

It really is frustrating @Kitekat81. I shouldn’t be bitter but I do feel quite bitter when I look around me and everyone else has just managed to conceive without too much issue. It doesn’t feel fair, and that’s before you get to the stage where you’re paying thousands for what they managed to just do.

I was never a great saver but my DH is so I pay all the bills and he saves, it works well but we have some stuff to pay for really. The car needs some cosmetic work (because I keep driving into things), the house needs some decorating done because I’ve had testers in the hallway for years now and I’m sick of them, just bought a new MacBook, stuff like that. All of this can be delayed (except the computer probably) but I want to just get some of it done I think, it’s not helping my feeling of stagnation and treading water. Thinking we’re going to dip into the ivf slash general savings fund and then rebuild it again.

I think our plan will be similar though, maybe give it 18 to 24 months and then bite the ivf bullet. Sigh.

I’ve learned that too @Misty84 . It absolutely does my head in that my body is so unpredictable. I’ve found ff useful, being able to look and say “oh yeah I had food cravings at 11dpo last month and this month” is really helpful. Still can’t believe I have nothing weird this month though after months of period nonsense.

@climbershell I think at 35 you can easily give it another year before worrying, it’s hard if you want two but I just had to tell myself I can’t think about that because I don’t know how one will go yet lolol. The feeling of ageing and time being against us is the worst. I can’t stand it. My friend got pregnant fast at 39 and I doubt it really crossed her mind she was 39.

Welcome to the thread @Katiekattty! I’m 38 in May and ttc number 1, when are you 38? If it helps I think I’ve lost it too, a few of us might have