The Good Husband of TTC Drive (No1 Babies Detective Agency pt5)

thats good nomore and yes. lets hope treatment is that quick and easy!

i am working on assignments today. arse. have 3 to hand in before i have Millie; am going to just knock them out in a couple of weeks and then rest before B-DAY!

That's good news Nomore - good that there isn't too long to wait. A bit at there being an 'introduction' evening - we just bumped along from one appointment to the next when we were going through this sort of thing, although we did end up with a very good consultant - and it was really helpful that was already 'under' him when had all the mp problems.

We've missed another month - me washed out after A&E episode and dh has a man cold so apparently not up for anything !

Its really silly isn't it - you're going for tests as a couple, you go to appointments as a couple, but you can't get the test results for each other when its more convenient to do that...

Gosh - not had a chance to pop on for a few days and looks like I've missed a fair bit. Ready If you're reading this, sending you big hugs - you've been so positive and supportive for everyone else on here. Hope you take the time out you need.

Scorpio I remember lurking on some of these threads last year and seeing you get your BFP - I can't believe how quickly the time has gone.

Gilly Thanks for sharing about your appointment with the specialist. It's good to know what to expect if we go down that route. I have an appointment with the GP tomorrow to follow up my Day 21 test - not quite sure whether that will lead straight to a referral. In theory, DH should be able to get the results of his semen analysis this afternoon which would be useful to know but not sure he'll have a chance to ring and get them and I know they won't disclose them to me which is a bit of a pain.

Big wave to everyone else.

Thanks guys - Ready sometimes a break can be good. I have decided to have this HSG done and then have three months off. Am alittle sick of blood tests and appointments just want to feel 'normal' again. It is so difficult when ttc as in RL we cont with this everythings ok yet your body is aching to have a BFP and it seems to spring into your mind all the time.

Had to listen to people at work moaning about their lack of sleep today, was very sympathetic but part of me was sad as their youngest child was due same week as mine. They always think I'm so carefree and always meeting friends for lunch and going out. It is good to have mn to voice the other side.

Hope everyone is ok - weather tends to help everyone feeling

Big hugs ready - take as long as you need (I couldn't face MN for months when I hit my bleak period..)

.. sorry I haven't had time to catch up yet - work are working me to the bone at the moment - promise to catch up properly soon..

(((hugs for Ready))). Its OK to be down here - I find it a good way of being OK in RL. Hope you're feeling more your usual self soon.

I've got no idea re blood tests - except they take a heck of a lot when you go to recurrent mc unit (have another appointment come through for April - tests can take 6 weeks to come back). Its really awkward when you have to have 'timed' events or have things done at specific times isn't it. When I was having mp treatment I had to have an injection every other day for 7 days then 7 days off - to start with I had to travel to Sheffield every time, but managed to persuade them to let me take away 3x injections back to home and take them in to the Doctors. This meant that I had to do a series of bookings for the Doctors (this was when they had a Saturday morning emergency surgery so were in then anyway) - trying to get the receptionists to make lots of appointments like this was a nightmare - they couldn't understand that I needed a series every 2 days early on in the day including Saturday morning. It was a lot less hassle than travelling down to Sheffield each time though.

Whoops just wrote long post and lost it rubbish!!!

Ready I totally understand how you are feeling sometimes alittle time away from mn can help forget about things, sending you a big hug

Hobnobs Good to know we all shed a few tears. I am surprisingly upbeat when talking with people only with mn am I alittle down

Mistle Thanks for giving me insight to the other side of things. Spoke to DH who thinks BF was just trying to make me feel better by trying to convince me that I have nothing wrong and is normal to ttc for this amount of time. He is probably right. Just me being pre-menstral

Gilly Glad to hear they got so much done at the clinic. If they think it is going to take a long time to see the consultant you could try and pay for a private consultation. I did this for a dermatology appointment a few years ago and bypassed a 6 month waiting list. I had all the treatment done on NHS it was worth it

Does anyone know if it is ok to have you fsh done on day 1. AF arrived today and so I had to postpone my HSG by two weeks! BOO! But since having my day 1 test I have done some web searching and it seems day 3 is the best day to have it done on. Now I'm alittle worried that my results will come back really bad and I'll have to cancel HSG again!! Does anyone know if they vary that much between day 1-3????

Ready

I hope that you are OK and just a little bit sad, not big sad iyswim?

Take care and look after yourself, and have some chocolate tonight.

Ok... please forgive me, but I am not going to catch up properly

I feel drained and heart-broken at the moment. I feel distinctly pre-menstrual (spotty chin, moody, crampy) and my temp dipped again - which confirms that CD1 will be tomorrow or the next. Sigh. I just cannot face another cycle of disappointment

I might not be on the thread for a little while, well, at least not in my usual perky way - I guess I am having one of those phases when I just need to shut myself away - I am sure you all understand.

So anyway... sorry for being crap, and not catching up with everyone (and for copying and pasting this all from ttc forever thread) , but I am going to go and lay on the sofa and do as little as possible for the evening.

I will be thinking of you all. Back soon, I promise

Good - sorry that you've still got cramp though - hope it clears up soon.

Still feeling rather washed-out - not able to do much over the weekend, and kept on zoning out on the sofa, much to dh's annoyance (he had to look after ds some of the time!)

Hi MT - going ok! Still got the cramp but it seems to have stuck so far - long way to go yet though.. still just crossing everything!

How are you feeling after your hospital dash? Sounds terrible!

Hi Toomuch - how's it going?

Hi guys - I'm back at a computer .. need to catch up as you've been very busy - but just wanted to say hello!

Gilly I know what you mean - when I was pregnant and doing some sorting out, (at about 7mo) I found a pregnancy test - it was out of date. I found myself thinking that the test I'd done must have been wrong and that I couldn't be pregnant - this despite the bump, the kicking and the scans... That's why I left every thing as late as possible.

Good to see the tests etc progressing well. Hope that you get up the lists quickly!

i didn't get anything for Millie until the 20 week scan was OK - have slight issues in this pg that i have never had before so wanted to go-ahead iyswim? (placental lakes, bleeding inside that never came out, possible fibroid and my membranes seperated from my uterus wall at one point) All ok and resolved at scan though - fibroid small, placental lakes still there but OK and no more internal blood stuff.

Hope everyone is well? DH has bee naway since 5am saturday so feeling very lonely; he will back 11pm tomorrow.

Nomore - don't feel like that, and I wasn't meaning you - I was thinking of one friend in particular who, even if she was married, wouldn't want children - just not ever got to the broody stage and not found the right bloke yet either. I wouldn't want our friendship to stop just because of ds. (although we didn't thank her when she gave ds a 'when you're happy and you know it) sing along book that allows you to restart whenever you press the button....)

Hobnobs - its interesting about the no decorating since you moved for nursery - ds's room was the only room that we have decorated, even though it was a room for a small boy - it was an insipid green with a border right at the top of the room - now much warmer and brighter, even though it hasn't got the border.

Its also really interesting about the shopping - the first time I was pregnant I got a jacket in Formes in the sale quite early on - it then skulked in the cupboard for another 2 years. It meant that I was really cautious about buying anything. I didn't buy anything for the baby until I was 6mo, and then only because it was the sales so cost effective. My parents came and decorated the nursery about 2wks before dc was due as I had not wanted to 'commit' to doing it when I could, then became too large to do anything about it!

Well, having said it was quiet on here on Thursday, it looks like I then missed a flurry of activity.

A little late to the discussion but I don't think I'd want to know the baby's sex, though that might be because that's the way it worked with family when I was growing up. We have a room which would be suitable for either sex (was used as a nursery by the people who lived here before us) although I'd have to clear out some of the furniture - am probably too lazy to re-decorate and quite like it as it is. To be honest, I'm not very good at focussing on a lot of this stuff (not much good at fantasy shopping either) until (??) I'm pregnant. Not sure if that's symptomatic of a fear of will it ever happen...? I suspect that if / once I get that magical BFP, there'll be no stopping me!

Mistlethrush Sorry to hear about your experience on Wednesday night - sounds horrendous. Hope you've had a relaxing weekend and are fully recovered.

Poppy Glad you're feeling a bit more positive. I sympathise about your experience with your friends. To be honest, I haven't really talked about TTC problems much in RL - partly because I don't want people to keep asking me about it. Might be easier if I knew what the problem was (if there is one). We have been married a while and I suspect that some people (admittedly not close friends) think that we can't or have chosen not to have children and I'm not keen to get into too much of a discussion about it. Am always delighted when friends and relations ring to tell me they're expecting but that usually gives way to a tear or two once I've put the phone down!

Poppy I've made a number of new friends since having ds - but I agree, the number of non children friends was a problem (although not that good at making really good friends in the first place, I probably take after my father, although the friends I do have are really good and lasting). I think that it can be quite difficult for those with children to keep a good realtionship with those that don't have them (speaking from experience) - I make a particular effort to ensure that I keep good friends with one - we make sure that we invite her around to supper on a regular basis - and we don't expect to return to hers on the basis that it is so much easier to have her here - ds will go to sleep and that's it for the evening. Just bear it in mind if you do have any childless friends when you do become a mother - its really nice to keep them, and some of them make really good additional 'aunties'/godparents which can be really useful.