Me any my boyfriend want to have a baby, but the problem is that we both don't really like sex.

I remember reading a Guardian article about babies being conceived this way. I don't have much interest in sex and certainly couldn't "just have sex" as some have suggested on here. I wish I had been brave enough to go down this route. I only have one child and I would have loved more but when you have zero or little interest in sex you can't always just "do it".
Go for it OP. And good luck.

Hi OP! There's lots of people in your situation in heterosexual and also lesbian relationships using sperm donors. I would look to the infertility boards on here and post there and there's a Facebook private group which will have some good info (attached photo). Lots of people get pregnant this way and if timed correctly no reason why it shouldn't work!
I would avoid medical IUI And give the home method a go first as you'll have many many more sperm that way. IUI sperm has to be "washed" and limited to how much you can put in so you end up losing millions of swimmers plus it's expensive just for 1 shot a cycle but at home you could have 2 or 3 goes over your fertile window.
Get yourself some ovulation sticks and track your cycle and try and do it around your peak fertile time. Good luck!

I didn't expect such rude and judgmental responses questioning whether we love each other

That's MN for you. Plenty of rude and intrusive people available to jump on peoples posts at the drop of a hat. Welcome!

@jackieweaverforpm oh bore off, do people like you only use this app to judge and question other people? Seriously what is wrong with you? The poor girl was asking for fertility advise, not relationship advise. People like you blow my mind 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think it's lovely that you found someone who wants the same things as you op.

I would download something like glow and start to track your cycles. You can get cheap ovulation kits off amazon or eBay and use them to figure out when you're ovulating. I don't really know the best way to do at home IUI, but I'm sure a quick Google would help you out.

There's this old mumsnet post, I didn't read it all though so I don't know if it starts to get judgey, you'll just have to ignore those bits

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/3896706-Conception-with-asexual-partner

Genuinely baffled by this intrusive, rude, judgemental comment.

No advice op, but wishing you luck.

I think in the main you’ve had some some good advice Op, so good luck.

Well you're both just asexual. And therefore probably lucky to find each other.

You will have to use ovulation sticks. And you will have to use something to insert his specimen - there's a reason turkey blasters are so popular.

You will also have to do it every day around your ovulation window to optimise your chances.

When we were TTC, we were told to have sex every other day around ovulation week. You'd probably be best advised to go daily, as the method won't be as effective.

Best of luck with it!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with not being bothered about sex and you are both so lucky to have found each other and feel the same way because it's only a problem when the people involved have different drives.

You have a relationship that works for you and you're both happy. there are a lot of people shagging like rabbits who can't say that! Absolutely nobody has the right to judge you or try to diminish your relationship.

Re having a baby, a big syringe on your most fertile days is as good a way as any but if you can afford medical input then give that a go.

Good luck, I hope you become pregnant.

@SlowlyBecomingACatCollector I don't know why people feel the need to be so concerned about your relationship. Unfortunately there are a lot of judgemental people on here. Although you have had some helpful information so I'd def take their advise on board.

There is also a specific group on here for donors/insemination where you may get more help though. I know your not using donor sperm, but the technique people use for that seems to what you're looking for.

Good luck and I hope every goes well 🙂

Please don't take it personally OP. Some people are just hurt by their own experiences which are different to yours.

As your situation isn't as common it unfortunately may end up causing people to look for other reasons behind it. By the way I don't think people with low sex drives are actually that uncommon, it is just that people are too embarrassed to talk about it or feel they have to have sex when they don't want to.

You've had some helpful advice too OP.

@emsyj37 I can understand where you are coming from as we all have things that resonate with us and we want to protect ourselves and others from. I do think it sounds as though OP is in a very different position though.

Damn I meant @mrskin90 is much better informed. I am not doing well at this!

No judgement on not wanting sex however, genuinely if he he able to ejaculate into a cup why would you not just have sex instead and save the risk of artificial insemination not working?

I don’t see why it won’t work if you insert properly and on the right days.

Do you know how to track your fertile period? And do you know how to effectively inject semen inside yourself?

Oh haha the poster directly before me is much better informed 🙂

When I was 35 we stopped using condoms and I was pregnant within 3 months.

It sounds like we had sex more often than you, but we didn't have it any more often than previously - and certainly not every day.

We didn't worry about trying to work out peak fertility times, though no doubt we would have done if I hadn't got pregnant within a few months.

Good luck!

@SlowlyBecomingACatCollector maybe if you used a pipette (aka turkey baster?) to get the sperm ahem 'up there' it could work. I did also see someone mention they use a mooncup type thing after sex to keep the sperm inside for longer, which you could also try? I think it was this www.fertilily.com/en/ Could be worth tracking ovulation too as another poster suggested, so you know which days you're fertile.

Hiya. I've come over from the "turkey baster" thread.
Sex is definitely more likely to result in a baby than unconventional methods (I think it's something like 10% more likely if you do it the normal way but might be guessing that number). If you can try around midcycle (or learn when you're ovulating) it's not unheard of for that one attempt at the right time to work. If I could do it through sex I absolutely would in a heartbeat as it's just more efficient. So try it this way whenever you can.

Otherwise, clean and dry plastic pot or cup of any kind, needle-less syringe. Either one like the ones you get with Calpol, vaginal applicators or syringes you can buy on amazon. Look up mosie baby too but you don't need to spend as much as they are.
Ladies on the thread I'm on have had success having partner ejaculate into a soft disc/menstrual disc and inserting that and leaving it in for 12 hours.
Learning when you're ovulating is your best shout.
Your age shouldn't have an impact but men's sperm quality do slowly decline with age.
Goodluck!

Even if you don't love sex, surely you could track your cycle and try and save your occasional lovemaking for your most fertile day of the month?
From my experience it's quite a fun and novel closeness, trying to make a baby with someone. Gives sex a real sense of purpose.