TTC first baby thread 26

Keep us posted on your AMH, fingers crossed!

@yeahwhynot yeah, may 17 isn’t great, but someone else on another thread had hers moved forward so I can only hope someone else gets preggers and I get moved up the list (or I get preggers but that seems less likely lol)

@yeahwhynot It's all such a headache🙄 fingers crossed for good news in next few weeks

@CycloGoose Hello! Nope, haven't tried Ovusense, but definitely sounds like a dream from what's advertised.

@MIW01 Great news! Hope your AMH comes back okay!

@thislittlebird Sorry just reading your latest message. Oh, May 17 is a bit of a wait! My GP also warned me that I might be looking at months' of waiting before my first appointment!

I just finished my CD2-5 blood test, hope it comes back okay. Waiting for a couple more weeks before CD21 blood test. Have been nagging OH to get his SA done before then, so I can get on with referral.

@thislittlebird thanks, yes, the ball has started rolling. A series of blood tests (CD2-5, CD21), smears and an SA test for the partner has been scheduled. So, once they come back, hopefully, I will get the process moving ahead. Great news about your referral letter! Yay!! Do you have an idea of how long the wait for the appointments are where you live?

@XjustagirlX I feel you! We never seem to notice the stress effect since it is all one long dull gradual transition. But, as you said, once I started the ball rolling with my GP for sub fertility referral and had accepted the fact that natural conception was beyond my realm, I can clearly see the difference it has made to my mental health.

@Aims1991 Hello! I am not an expert on this. But I have heard that your cycle can occasionally be longer than usual if there were sudden changes in lifestyle (food, exercise, sleep changes, timezone changes, stress, etc.). This is normal and nothing to worry about if it is occasional AFAIK.

@whatsthecraic91 oh sounds wonderful! So hoping for many more posts like these on this thread! This is the positivity we all need xx

That’s great! @MIW01 I’m going for my second acupuncture in March, let me know how you get on. Have they done/planning to do a follicle scan as well as AMH?

Finally got our referral through, it’s not until May 17 . I won’t lie, considering the months and months of delay is their fault because they incorrectly told us our results were fine, I’m not overly thrilled.

Hello everyone. I'm on CD13 today and got a solid smiley face after a few days of flashing smiley amd it looks like the one step line got slightly darker this morning! I will test again this afternoon too.

I got contacted by the specialist GP surgery and got asked for an AMH blood test to check ovarian reserve so I did that yesterday. Hopefully it's OK and we can move forward with plans for fertility treatment. I've got Accupuncture booked in March to try and help.

@CycloGoose Yeah I will monitor when my AF arrives and check the amount of days.
I use one step dip tests I seem to prefer them to CB! I have a few days of a very faint line then a few days of nothing and then today both lines identical. So I will see what tomorrow is like. Planning on DTD everyday till Monday 😂 OH just laughed.
I'm so busy with work just now I'm hoping that work takes my mind of it 🤷🏻‍♀️

A short luteal phase CAN signify some issues but not always and 12 days is perfectly fine. I think it's when they're less than 10 days but you may find you have a slightly longer cycle this month.

I think the stress of it all is freaking my body out and sending my cycles haywire.

I'd see what happens with your luteal phase this month and, if it's shorter than 12 days which sounds like your normal, get in touch with your GP and see what they say... Though prepare for them not being that helpful.

On another note, have any of you invested in OvuSense? It's so pricey but I feel it would take some stress out of using OPKs and trying to track my bbt.
At the moment, I'm setting a silent alarm on my Garmin watch, trying to my bbt and then waking DH up to DTD 🤦
No sign of a peak in LH this month yet but I've had the sodding smiley face for 8 sodding days now. Last cycle I had 2 days blank then straight to peak. Doing my head in. Also considering switching from CB digital dual (purple) to Femometer Ivy - anyone tried that?

@CycloGoose Yeah that's very true. I've just read so much that says if you have a 28 day cycle and late ov then it's not good and other people say it's normal. Sometimes
You don't know what to believe. Fingers crossed🤞🏼

@Aims1991 if you're ovulating, it's a good sign. My doc wasn't even bothered that my cycle went from 28 day to 23 days. She just said 21-34 is 'normal' end of conversation stop worrying. Of course I'm still worrying - I suppose it's good practice for when we're mums and have children to worry about all the time xxx

@CycloGoose Hey no I wasn't on birth control. My cycle is always around 27-29 days. I'm sure last my i OV on CD16. I'm just concerned but I over think all this!

Hi @aims1991 there's a big range of normal so it's difficult to say. I'd say the fact you're getting stronger lines is great news and you should get DTD!

Have you recently come off birth control?

It could be that you'll have a later AF than usual this month or that you'll have a shorter luteal phase. All these things can be normal but keep an eye over time to see if you can find what's most normal for you. My luteal phase seems to be getting shorter and I'm a little worried about that but it could all be fine, too ☺️

Also sorry if you know all this and have been trying for ages. Hard to know from your post xxx

Hey, I am on CD18 and getting stronger lines on my OV test strips, I feel that's really late considering I'm a 28 day Cycle person! Does anyone know if this is normal or not?

Hi @yeahwhynot! Welcome, and I hope your GP consultation went well!

I got my referral letter through today, just waiting for them to get in touch again now.

Hello! I have been a long time stalker and hope-junkie on Mumsnet TTC threads, but didn't quite have the push to actively participate.

I have been TTC#1 for almost 2 years now. My partner and I had a couple of SA and blood tests each respectively and have not had any major alarms (except for low morphology). They were done in private since my GP didn't want to do any intervention until we passed the 2 years mark.

Finally, now that we have done our time, I have my phone consultation with my GP today. I hope I will succeed in getting a referral today to a fertility clinic. I live in a county where IVF is not funded on the NHS, and I am almost sure after 2 years of monthly squinting and never seeing a second line, that IVF is the way ahead for us.

Please can I join the thread? I would love to share my journey with people, and also absorb knowledge as 2021 looks like the year I will finally have my first round of IVF.

@Annny27 we are doing great thanks! Little man will be 8 weeks on Thursday! I know we started TTC December 2018 feels like a lifetime ago now! Hope you're doing okay! x

Just reading through the comments on stress, I always thought TTC didn’t affect my stress levels. However we have stopped trying for 2 cycles while we are having tests done.

I have really noticed my mood and stress levels are so much better now. I am a delight to be around 😂 When I’m TTC I get so upset and angry and irritable in the TWW. The stress must have been getting to me more than I though. I always blamed it on hormones but I must have been wrong. I was even in a good mood on the days before AF.

That’s annoying @CycloGoose

Ah yeah, understandable @MIW01. I think we might do a bit of decorating for leave it at that for a few months. And finish the garden work we started last year.

Ovulation test failed this morning (maybe I flooded it) but I’m fairly sure I’m not at peak yet anyway. Will dtd today just in case to cover the bases.

You sound like my fiancée @CycloGoose he hates paying for anything he can do himself! I just don't have the energy after a full week of work for anything and thank you.

@thislittlebird this renovation is the exact reason we aren't able to afford private IVF! It's still ongoing. Now doing the outside stuff

@thislittlebird we didn't have much choice on the matter with finding a leak that we'd hoped we'd fixed but was actually running behind the tiles. It's been done by real charlatans, too. It's a mess underneath. Bugger.

Hi @Deedlebum!

God I would love a project @CycloGoose but I’m not skilful with these things. We need to get some of the house decorated and maybe a new bathroom but I’m conscious of possibly needing to save for ivf in case we need it so I’m never actually deciding to go ahead with anything right now. Hopefully we won’t need it and we can spend our money on other things!

Bungalow sounds great @MIW01

Oh and bungalow sounds great! We've been doing (almost) everything ourselves. There's been a hell of a lot to do but we got such a bargain. I did the main bathroom almost all by myself last Easter and it was a big job - I rejigged all the plumbing so that we could have a toilet in the same room - shorter corner bath and moved the sink. It looks great but it was hard work. We had builders in at the time doing some structural work (they built us a porch and knocked through a wall upstairs and put in a downstairs loo) so I had them check up on me as I went.

Trying to decide whether to do the ensuite myself, too. It's, in essence, a much simpler job but I'm worried about getting the seal absolutely watertight on the shower so might get a man in. Plumbing, tiling, plastering, decorating my jobs. Cutting, carpentry, drilling and electric is DH. Hate paying someone to do something I can do but the finish will be better and would give peace of mind.... But if we save money here, I can spend it on the garden! Decisions!

Sorry, I did have a good chuckle. I was just out for a walk with a friend and waiting outside whilst she was collecting something. We met at our marriage preparation classes (MIL family Catholic) and we've stayed close. Wanted to tell her about TTC as wondered if they were trying but they want to FINALLY have their honeymoon before they try. We didn't do anything exotic so weren't too bothered. At this rate we may end up being pregnant at the same time anyway 😂

You really have been through it, haven't you! Glad to hear your ME symptoms are improving now and that you have insulin support. I love the 'the truth about' BBC series - which I think the Moseley thing was one of the first episodes - they've done 2 in lockdown and one about immune system and they talk a lot about variety being the best thing for your biome so you're probably doing the best thing for yourself by properly nourishing yourself.
I know how you feel about convenience. I do all the cooking and it really is a faff. I'd be buggered without the occasional cheat! I do normally cook for 6 and get a few goes out of it.

Hopefully now you're on such a positive path, your body will stop being cruel and play host to a beautiful miracle baby very soon.

I cannot get involved with the fanny feeling - DH only seems to enjoy a morning frisk and after that I have no idea what's mine or his 🤦😂 Same with temping. Not much time to mess around with a thermometer when that might mean you miss 'the moment' so I'm stuck with my sticks and my little pots of piss - they'll have to do!