TTC first baby thread 26

Oh @annny27 I really hope it's not the case. I'm so sorry.

@orangeloo we're on cycle 10. It could still happen 🤞 I'm just factoring in waiting times as well x

@CycloGoose ah I see, so I assume from that you've been trying for 6 months ish could still happen naturally for you .

Oh @Annny27 I'm so sorry, such a cruel thing to happen. X

@orangeloo it's because you have to have been trying 2 full years before you can apply for IVF so it's going to be a long wait. The 12.3 is in pmols so I think it's around 1.5 in the other unit but yes definitely not game over. I think I can still qualify for NHS IVF so long as it doesn't go below 5?

Glad your hair is good! Yey! ❤️

Ah 12.3 is not bad, although I understand your concern. People still have babies with 0.something so all to play for. but yes 18 months is a long time. Is that how long GP saying? My nhs wait was 8 months from referral and that's with me paying for some tests privately to speed up the process. 18 months is ridiculous though and they have no excuse to take that long.

Yes a month off OPK's and obsessing sounds good and definitely think we need it sometimes. Yes hair turned out well at least 😂👍 xxx

Thanks @orangeloo my GP still won't refer me to fertility clinic until end of July because my FSH levels are okay and I did AMH privately. It's 12.3 so not catastrophic but definitely less than ideal. I don't know what to do really. It's so expensive but, realistically it's going to be at least 18 months before NHS IVF and no idea what could happen in that time. I think I'm getting to the at peace stage - DOR certainly fits with the idea of short LP as well. It only takes one egg! Not doing OPKs this month, just my OvuSense and trying to DTD every other day until confirmation of ovulation.

I'm sorry to hear you are so surrounded by announcements. My cousin and his gf just had their twins. I know what you mean about work. I've just had a bit of a bollocking because I'm behind with my marking etc. It's a bit of a wake up call - got to stop obsessing with TTC and get on with my life! Did your hair at least come out how you wanted? Xxx

@CycloGoose sorry about your amh and that work and that book is stressing you out. That book is great, but intense. I would advise it in small doses to digest. Also many women with low and very low amh still go on to have babies. It's hard news to get but at least you know you to push forward as time is more important. I would speak with the nhs dealing with your referral and ask how long it might be, could the process be sped up given the news on your amh? Worth a shot and then u know where u stand more in terms of going private. X

@Annny27 ah yes I see, I used to test to move on too. So what a lovely surprise for you! Interesting no spotting. Hats off to u for waiting til Tuesday to next test. You are a strong lady. remember different egg different sperm different pregnancy but I know it's easier said than done. 💜

Just keeping everything crossed for you @annny27 and hoping it's your time!

I got my AMH back and it's low so just trying to digest that and work out whether we should pay to go private on IVF straight away or wait. I think we'd probably be looking at 'mild' or modified natural given that my amh is low already. Just trying to get through It Starts with the Egg but I'm not sure how much I can practically do while work is so stressful anyway. It's a minefield! Feeling a bit sad as I had really hoped at 34 wouldn't be too late xxx

@Annny27 wow congratulations!! Lovely sight to see. Wishing you very sticky baby dust.
Did u have symptoms?

@Lozzlepop oh okay haha maybe not next bleed then. I feel physically good mentally not so much. Being back at work is good though as my brain is more occupied and less room for baby thoughts.

IVF has definitely affected me more than I thought it would emotionally. I just feel there is a dark funk of a scar that I'm not sure will ever go away.
I used to hear people say they can't go through more ivf because of the trauma. I used to feel they were 100% valid but always thought I would do it for a decade if that's what it takes. Now, I get it. I have more rounds in me if I need them sure but I understand now why people have to stop. Sorry to be glum and I'm not trying to scare anyone just think it helps to be prepared for the emotional toll.
Surrounded by expecting people atm another colleague told me they were expecting and to add insult to injury they went on to say like 6 of their mates were having babies too. Good to know, thanks.
Had my hair done yesterday and my hairdresser is pregnant 🙈. I know people have babies all the time and I do expect this news from people but I'm so surrounded atm.

Oh @Annny27 I'm so happy for you and sending a bucket load of sticky vibes to you!!! 🌈 💗

Soooo much love and congratulations and positive vibes for rainbow sticky bean @annny27 XXX I'm so thrilled for you xxx

Happy Friday ladies ☺️

@Annny27 massive congratulations I am so so happy for you ❤️

@orangeloo I certainly hope not as I have't spoken to a consultant or been told anything yet lol! Not long till you start now, are you feeling better now you have had a little time?

Oh wow! That's amazing news @Annny27 congratulations

@Annny27 I haven’t posted in a while but try to keep up, and just saw this and wanted to swing by and say a HUGE congratulations ♥️ I’ll keep everything crossed for you over the next few weeks and months x

@orangeloo I really empathise with how challenging the baby talk thing is - I find myself feeling so bitter about it all right now, I have to work really hard to flip it and visualise when it will be me standing there with an adorable new born in my arms enjoying the attention and cooing my newborn is getting and feeling like a proud Mum! So . . . Effin . . . Hard!

@Annny27 I know we're so fortunate with the wait times! This GP is so on it, I'm impressed. Fingers crossed yours goes all OK. I'd love it if this sorts us out and we don't need the IVF but we know it's there if we do need it

Thanks @Lozzlepop glad results came back OK and exciting it will be happening soon!

Ooh so many updates

@Annny27 I can't believe you reported these symptoms and they just said vaginismus. Unfortunately I know this type of thing is typical for ending sufferers.

@Kiza ah I can imagine. I remember thinking after my EC I. The midst of my constipation that I can't believe anyone actually has a fresh transfer haha. 16 weeks is amazing, each new week and milestone must feel great. I think I will be like you though and understand a bit reluctant to believe it all until babe in arms.

Thanks @Lottiepink You've probably made decision now but fwiw, personally. I would forge ahead with IVF and get on the list for op too. Check they can do icsi and just go ahead. You have nothing to loose and would hate a long wait for op or it be delayed and regret holding off on ivf after all.

@MIW01 this is great newsre your FSH!! Really happy and relieved for you!

@XjustagirlX it may seem a lot to contend with but there is so much that can done. It's a positive you know what you are dealing with now.

@Lozzlepop sounds like a lovely weekend.
If you know your protocol should all be very quick now and start with next bleed

I am waiting for my next period for FET. Though it was first bleed but no. Fine with the delay actually as more time for body to recover and I also started back at work after a year furloughed this week 😱 shock to the system and very tired so wouldn't have wanted transfer right now anyway as I would be worried the stress of going back to work wold effect things.
Colleague had a baby today and found out so many people expecting, it's very hard!. I wonder how obvious it's getting that I avoid baby talk.

P.s just love this group

Hi all,

Had our initial IVF appointment and AMH blood test- everything came back normal for my age range so have been places on a standard protocol- have an appointment on May 20th not sure what the next step is or when?

Today is our "should be wedding day" So we are off for our menu tasting and to stay overnight at our wedding venue- cant wait for a little bit of normality! Hope everyone is well ☺️

@Kiza @orangeloo @Annny27 @XjustagirlX @MIW01 how you ladies all doing?

@Annny27 I’ve got my ivf referral appointment in 2 weeks so I’m expecting to start ivf around my June or July cycle. Hopefully if my estimates are correct.