Impatient TTC - Thread 3..or 4?

@Wowthisisreal Haha yep. I wasn't anywhere near as worried in the early days with my first as I was with this one. I'm 14 weeks today and just did my bump pic, I'm now looking at my bump picture thinking 'hmm, I don't look much bigger this week' 🙈. We've got a gender scan 2 weeks on Monday and I can't wait to check everything is ok still. I also can't wait to start feeling regular movements. 😅 Maybe then I'll relax a bit?

It's the best feeling!! I can't believe it.

But now it's all coming back to me how worried I was for the entire 12 weeks before the scan! It was a relief to see the digital with 1-2 and if anything the clear blue + is stronger than the || on the FRER. So it's calmed me down a little.

But yay!!

@Wowthisisreal omg congrats!! How exciting- it’s the best feeling isn’t it!

@Wowthisisreal Congratulations!

Hi all, held out testing until today and we got a BFP... 🥳😁

Line was lighter than I thought it would be so DH got two more tests and both came back positive so 🤞🏻. Only 'symptom' I've had so far is nipples that stick out more than normal and are quite sensitive - and I lost weight this week (not normal for me the week I'm due on). Also needed to pee constantly for the past 2 days.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 it took us 9 cycles at the end I was so worried and desperate. But finally we got here. Give yourself time

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Sorry it wasn't the result you were after. Fingers crossed for next cycle. It really is pot luck which sucks. It took 4 cycles to conceive my 1st, just over 18 cycles to conceive my 2nd and just 2 cycles with this one and I didn't do anything different with any of them 🤷🏽‍♀️
@princesscallie oh wow that's definitely a sit down and have a deep conversation situation. Is he just scared of change and of how he's going to cope? I hope you can resolve this.
@Wowthisisreal fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Like you said everyone is different. When we set out to TTC I had 6 months minimum in my head and so every time I tested I was basically sure it'd be negative. However we were unusually lucky and conceived DS second cycle (no OPKs etc) and this one was first cycle (OPKs only used to pin point ovulation so I knew when I could test).

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I think that's why I am nervous. I can't work out if I want to know it's a no today. My assumption is that it's a no.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 do you feel better for testing?

I 'collected' by FMU so now I just need to decide whether to test.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Sorry to hear that 🤞 for your next cycle. I think it's only around a 25% chance of conceiving each cycle so if you can definitely do try to let the pressure off. TTC is often a marathon, not a sprint. I think me and DH DTD around every other day or so, until AF/a positive test. You shouldn't need to do it every day to be in with a chance, and I remember you saying that after a full week of DTD every day you were both quite tired and it started feeling a bit 'functional'?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I think we ovulated know the same day. Currently holding in my FMU trying to decide whether to take a test or wait.

Really don't want to see a negative so feel I would rather wait for AF to come. But also know I will be sad when it does and I've got a feeling it will come on Mother's Day which will be tough.

I think because AF was a bit late last time it gave me false hope so I just don't want that again, but also not ready to give up hope this time.

Ah!! TTC is such a mind f* it's 12 days DPO and I'm on CD 29.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Fingers crossed for you but I agree that if the FRER is negative after a 4 hour hold then it's probably accurate. TTC can be very frustrating, always try to have in mind that anything up to 6 months is average and anything up to 12 months is totally normal.

@princesscallie I'm sorry to see your update, I came to the same conclusion as you with what you've described. It sounds like your husband doesn't want a 3rd child, but he's putting it on you rather than being completely honest. I can imagine that's very frustrating but at least he's (somewhat) made his feelings known, even if he's not being honest about exactly why he doesn't want a third.

Hi ladies. Hope all is going well with ye. @sunflowersaremyfav93 I wish you well in the coming days. Fingers crossed for you.

So probably not posting in the right place as its not a trying to conceive issue but my hubby told me Monday he wanted to chat about some thoughts he was having about a possible 3rd baby. Que sinking feeling. He didn't get a chance to share them with me until last night. Let's just say I knew what was coming. He's not sure about it for a number of reasons, 1. I don't do well with lack of sleep and tend to go a bit crazy for the 1st while 2, apparently (he never mentioned anything before) that my 2nd pregnancy took it out of me. Not exactly sure what it did to me as I walked 5k the day after I came home from hospital and had both our kids without so much as a stitch but im now 5 years older so it would be much harder this time. I might be 36 but can run 10k and do at least 10000 steps every day so I don't think there's much wrong with me 3, we are happy now and it'll be 4 to 5 years when we settle again and we'll be in our 40s then...I didnt answer him at all as I wasn't sure what to say! But I am heart broken. He doesn't want a baby and I think rather than saying that he is pushing it back on me. My mam mentioned this evening my cousin is pregnant with her 5th child and I'm thinking its not fair. So not sure what's going to happen now but I just needed to share this with someone.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I'm not sure if I had symptoms or not before. I remember sneezing and feeling ligament pain which I've only ever had when pregnant though. That was at 10DPO which was the day I found out. And I think I had a sore nose/felt like I had a cold coming on but that could have been coincidence.

The actual definite pregnancy symptoms like bloating didn't start until a few days after missing AF. Boobs started getting noticeably sore a few days after that. The nausea didn't start for me until just before 6 weeks pregnant.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 wait wait wait!! I didnt have massive amounts of symptoms before mine tbh! Apart from i couldnt walk as fast as normal (never noticed until after) and i had a bloody taste in my mouth for a couple of days. No cramping, no nausea, no boob pain out of the ordinary! Just try and wait till Friday if you can! Xx

@sunflowersaremyfav93 At 10DPO with a digital and not FMU I don't think you can be sure you're out yet. If you'd said FMU and FRER then yes I'd agree you should expect AF.

Argh I just spent ages writing a reply to all of you individually and then clicked the wrong thing and it disappeared! 🤬😭🙈 I'm sorry I'm not doing it all again so congratulations, commiserations and well done to all of you 🙈😂 hope you're all doing ok?

A little update from me. I'm 6 weeks today and I'm absolutely shattered 🥱 I have permanent bad headaches (trying to avoid taking paracetamol everyday but it's hard), I'm starving hungry all the time so I've already gained 5lbs 🙈 my boobs have definitely gotten bigger and are sore and I'm feeling nauseous on and off, usually when I haven't eaten for awhile. I'm going to try ringing the midwives clinic later to get a booking in appointment booked, once I have that first appointment booked it will seem all the more real.