TTC after MC - Feb/March 2021 (Thread 18)

@Marvellouslymadmum try to line it up close to ovulation 🤣🤣

@SLCxxx oh how interesting! I've got to book a smear for after af shows!!

@SamBass how bloody frustrating! If the bloods on Monday don’t shed any light then I would request (or demand since it is tax payers money) an urgent gynae scan, but if the pregnancy tests are still positive then really EPAU should be looking for answers. If you still have pregnancy hormones then your cervix will be very vascular and that would explain your/our spotting after intercourse. 🤞🏻 Your levels have dropped on Monday and AF visits by next weekend

@bez91 @Marvellouslymadmum on another group a lovely ladie who said she got pregnant on the month that she used the ferti-lily, preseed, socks to keep her feet warm, legs up in the air (ferti-lily in place), vitamins and drank cough medicine in the FW to unblock the mucous in the cervix.. when I thought about it I realised I got pregnant the day after my smear test 🤔 so the mucous thing might be worth giving a go as I can’t perform a DIY smear 🤣🤣.. but hey, I’m willing to give it all a go!xx

@SamBass I bet you do! Hopefully someone will be able to help you

@bez91 im gonna say how my bloods go next week then perhaps call EPU and push for a scan as i'll be approaching 9 weeks with no AF by then

@Marvellouslymadmum i know its odd isn't it! I just want answers now 😞

@Canadadarling I totally understand! I had exactly the same problem with my oh when he's not feeling great (nothing to stop us dtd) I get very cross as he says he wants this too but then doesn't dtd when we need to 🤦🏼‍♀️ great that you spoke to him, it never occurred to me that he wouldn't actually realise the fw was small!! Since it took him 2 years to conceive his 14.5yo with his ex I just assumed but now you say that, maybe he has absolutely no idea 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'll have to have a little chat with him haha

@SamBass so strange that you're still getting positives, hope you get some answers soon

@SLCxxx cough medicine? Not heard of that one and I'm doing all the rest 😂😂

@bez91 yeah I thought that about the sensitivity of tests but its the no AF 8 weeks later and the bleeding after intercourse and discharge thats making me worry slightly.

@SLCxxx i rang EAPU when i got the faint positives and they just said to speak with my GP for bloods. The pregnancy test have not got any darker so it can't be a new pregnancy 🤷🏽‍♀️

@gizmo167 my head has been all over so took some time out but now I'm just frustrated and angry with still being in limbo

@SamBass aw hun been thinking about you!! Hope you get some answers soon, it is showing a faint positive so theres obviously something going on, keep us posted x

@SamBass still looks positive to me, did you go to EPAU when you had the positives a few weeks ago? If not uou could always go to them and say you are getting positive tests and occasional bleeding. They will likely want to scan to ensure you don’t have an ectopic etc x

@justwant2beamum literally no checks in the 8 weeks since surgery other than bloods on the 26th I'm back on Monday for second set of bloods... if it was retained products wouldn't i be experiencing bleeding?

Sorry to hear @SamBass glad docs listening and investigating. Have they/will they check for retained product? Xx

@SLCxxx sorry forgot to attach ha

@SLCxxx I'll attach my tests for you to see and to me they are a faint positive...
yes i knows exactly what you mean, I honestly stop telling people what is going on/I'm experiencing because people around me just don't get it and think I'm just moaning but my god its so mentally difficult 😞
My best friend is pregnant and her due date would have been 1 week after mine so i find it really hard to confide in her 😥

@SamBass are the tests still positive? Mine took about 6weeks to go negative I think. I know what you mean, it’s nice to find reassurance that we are not alone in these things, for me I don’t have anyone who has been through this so if I say anything then ppl either change the subject or get worried that there’s seriously something wrong.. which does not help 🤦🏼‍♀️

@SLCxxx thank you for reply its strangely comforting knowing I'm not alone in this frustrating period. Im glad you got your first cycle and return to normal eventually. My GP wanted to do bloods to see why I hadn't had AF any why i was still showing faint positives....

I might try push for a scan if next weeks bloods are no different

@SamBass I when I had my MMC I bled for a week then stopped for a week, then I started bleeding really bad again, when they scanned me they couldn’t see anything but they gave me medication and I started passing (sorry TMI) black debris. That stopped after another week, then for about a month I would bleed after intercourse for about 30mins which stopped once I had my first real period at about 8wks post MMC. They never done any bloods though, didn’t really seem to want to know tbf. I hope this all resolved for you soon 🤞🏻

@Canadadarling glad you managed to have the chat and make him understand, men can be clueless sometimes. My OH knows I’m in my fertile window and still said “can I have a night off?” I was like ffs WHAT?? Lol

@bez91 fingers crossed for you this month if it’s your last one tracking, lol, pull out all the stops! I’m CD14 (LH rising but not yet peak), have started using a fertile-lily which I line with preseed (another new introduction this month), I’m wearing socks, taking all the supplements under the sun and am considering trying the cough medicine 🤔😂

@Canadadarling oh I 100% agree with you! Before my MC I had been off the pill for 4 months not trying specifically in FW and nothing - on the 5th month we DTD day before positive OPK and day of and got a BFP! Sadly it has now been 8 cycles of totally focusing on FW (we had a few months off TTC after the MC) and nothing is happening - makes me think that luck must have a lot to do with it also! All we can do is keep trying... fingers crossed 🍀 I’m 2-3 DPO today and feeling quite resigned to getting another BFN even though we DTD every other day in FW (plus day before and first day of positive OPK). I’m giving it until July and then we will be seeking fertility treatment...

@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
I also explained that we were having unprotected sex for a year (not necessarily trying tho) before I got pg the first time (ending in mc). So if we carried on doing it like normal then we'd have to wait another year or more!

And Yep when you learn about sex everyone makes it sound like it's so easy ! In a way it's cruel how the world works, some people try medicine & vitamins and it takes years, and others use 2 rounds of contraception and still get pregnant 😣

@Canadadarling that’s great you spoke about it and good he realises that it’s only a small window each month. Both times I’ve been pregnant we’ve only dtd twice in fw, once on day 11 and once on day 13 and I think I ovulate on day 14/15 so it definitely doesn’t need to be every day or anything! Good luck with it and hope he’s more in the mood this evening. Xxx

@Canadadarling my DH was also surprised when I told him just how short the “window” is every month. To be fair, I hadn’t considered the logistics of it before TTC - I had always blithely assumed that the sex-ed classes at school were right when they said that any unprotected sex at any time of the month can result in a baby. If only!!!!

@bez91 @Loulou237 @elsimo

I did end up talking to him about it last night & I explained how it's not really about whether we're "in the mood" or not and there's only like 3 days of peak fertility. He did seem shocked that it's only 3 days so i don't think he knew that before, so hopefully I haven't missed my chance and we can get to it tonight and tomorrow! Even the thought of having to wait another month to try again is heartbreaking & I applaud those ppl who have been trying for months/years and haven't given up❤️