Post Pill Party - The Ceilidh

@FlyingGiraffe still no AF but I've done a couple of ICs and they were completely blank. Don't think this is the month for us.

@abi555 hello stranger. I've been a bit of a lurker too lately. Our cycles always seem close. Hope your temps pick up. I'm 12dpo and had a temp drop today. Sigh. Re primrose oil, I started taking last month, and had no EWCM whatsoever. Whereas months before when I've not taken it, I've had some. Weird. Maybe not for me.

@firsttimemummy321 that test looks like there is something there. Do you have a pic of the FRER? Hope you get some good news.

I'm thinking for next month I might ditch all the gear and go completely old school to see how that goes. I saw a thread on AIBU on here and it made me think I am over egging the pudding (but it is nice to know everything is working).

(Ps it went white and I thought was negative so was focused on the what I thought was more sensitive frer then this appeared so unlikely to be a dye run?)

Hi lovely ladies! Sorry I've been awol had a lot going on 🙈

How are you all? Too many messages to catch up on 😭

So after my chemical at the end of December I still haven't bled and felt really sick today so thought I'd check, frer I thought I could see a shadow but pretty sure I'm going mad. One step internet strip looked negative but had a shadow when hold a light behind (i know you shouldn't do that but it's too late 😂 that happened at 7dpo when I conceived my first then got a positive on frer at 9dpo, could be coincidence but the rest of the time it's been black regardless of a light behind)

Anyway while I was trying to see if there was a line on the frer like a mad woman I looked back at the one step and saw this...I think it's after the 10 mins but there is pink irl....what do you think? I know I just need to wait it out but I have no idea what to think 🙈

@Sperr I tried it last month too. Not sure if it helped but didn't do any harm anyway. Doing it again this month just because I like the taste 😂

@Juno231 thanks ! I bet when I order done AF will come 😂.

@LauraT94 mine is always slightly open after AF. You’ll be able to feel open when ovulating because there is a big difference. Until you’ve felt it, it’s hard to explain!

@abi555 I can confirm grapefruit juice is great for CM! I drank a glass every day after AF until after confirmed ovulation

That sounds like a nightmare @MissC07 and absolutely unbelievable expectations. My crowd, we do mad hours when we have to but when the rush is over everyone respects hours abs boundaries. That sounds like they expect you to be on call all the time.

@ChinChilly I'm starting to adopt the 'sack me' attitude tbh. My contracted hours are 8-6 which is long enough as it is for a job where I literally just sit around all day on edge waiting to be told to do something within 2seconds.

@Gracie2021 If I turned my phone off at lunchtime it wouldn't be worth the earful I'd get and I start feeling really anxious too. I'm going to try and start turning it off at 6pm though. The whole company is just full of sexist, stuck in the 80s American men!

@abi555 sorry you're in limbo. Hate this stage. Fingers crossed for you. I the same at the end/start of every cycle. That's when my amazon purchases go a bit nuts buying fertility crap I 100% don't need.

I've been offline a bit again guys. Find if I check in every day I tend to obsess too much about TTC so trying to forget about it here and there.

Well done on all the lent resolutions. Well impressed. @MissC07 I'm aiming to do walks after work every day too. Did it up til evenings got too dark in winter and felt so much better for it. Could you turn off the phone every lunchtime? She sounds ridiculous.

@Ttcin2021 ive never had spotting but everything else post pill was a completely revelation. Took 9 months to stop having "what the heck is that" moments through my cycle. Like a second puberty relearning what's normal. And @TheDaydreamBelievers four months of long weird cycles before any hint of a pattern emerged so definitely with you there. It does even put in time though.

@ChinChilly I went for the twenty quid premium FF on a whim when depressed over AF and regretted instantly as I won't use all the features at all. Oh well. My AF depressed spending has also billed up my OPK and pregnancy test drawer. It's looking a bit crazy!

@Kay00 we do flexi hours here but because my boss is happy to work 7-7 she thinks everybody else should. I’m a. 8-4 kinda girl. My cervix last night was so high I couldn’t even feel it! Haven’t had chance to check today been running around all morning!

@MissC07 that sounds rubbish...I don’t answer my phone for anything work related once i log off, I’ve got to the point now where I’m like 🖕🏼 Sack me then 😂

@ChinChilly @Sperr I literally hate my job, last night I logged off at 6 to walk the dog and got called twice at 8pm to do something (my hours are only until 6pm and this happens every day). I'm so fed up and really want to find a new job but my current place do 6 months full pay maternity. I know that isn't a reason to stay and it could take me years to fall preg, so I might take the leap and start looking for a new job as I just can't take stress anymore.

@abi555 only take it in the follicular phase. I take 2000mg a day but I think some of the other ladies stick to 1000mg. Grapefruit juice also helps but I find it more of a faff to remember to have in the house, not in concentrate etc.

@Juno231 no, not work (I am an artist/self employed so any work stress is self inflicted!) I have a panic disorder, but I do have certain triggers like when I can't sleep etc. I'm more on edge because of lockdown so I stopped watching the news for a bit. I need a sedative 😅

@sperr ooh thanks for the cervix info! Had a feel this morning and I think it's low, medium soft and still slightly open from my period?! Will try and track it this cycle as I'm intrigued now.

I would go for the Wondfo '20mIU' purely because I've found They're way more sensitive than they say! The lines tracked exactly as my FRERs did. Whatever you do, avoid the 'One Step' 10miu. They're so shit!

@Kay00 ohhhh how frustrating that you're still not seeing O 😩 really feel for you, this waiting can't be easy!

@abi555 sorry you feel like AF is imminent but as they say you're not out yet! I think grapefruit juice is meant to be good for increasing CM! Weirdly 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hi all,
Have been lurking for a while as work is mental - but have been reading and keeping track of you all just no time to type!

I'm 10dpo and temps are trending down, tiny bit of spotting this morning and BFN so am mentally preparing myself for AF at the weekend. Am in my typical 'what new thing can I try for the next cycle phase' haha! Am concerned I don't produce much CM so want to try and increase this and I think a few of you ladies have tried evening primrose oil for this? Does it matter what dose you take, and do you take for the whole cycle or only follicular phase?

Thanks!

@kay00 Gah! Well hopefully it's just a late ovulation - we all know you can still catch on a late egg, just a PITA to have to wait for it!

@sperr yeah just aim for 10miu. I buy the easy@home ones out of habit but I think I've seen people say good things about the wondfo ones as well?

@ChinChilly @MissC07 I'm so lucky, my boss is located in the London office (i'm in the Exeter office) so I never see him, and even in this virtual world we probably only chat once every two weeks, haha. I have a lot of freedom and work whatever hours I want (although I tend to prefer a structured 8-4 day with an hour lunch).

@chinchilly hopefully today is Ov day? What is your cervix up to ?

My tempt returned to normal... and I felt like my wet CM dried up last night. I'll see what its doing today but I think my estrogen surge has ended, without a LH surge ... again.

@Ttcin2021 I have half and half- some times I’ll spot and some times I don’t!

@Juno231 that’s a good idea. I don’t do much casual reading because my job involves so much reading!

15dpo and temp rise today! I actually woke up in the night sweating 😅.

If I order ICs does it matter the brand? As long as they are 10mIU?

@Ttcin2021 I had the tiniest bit of spotting at 13dpo, my AF started 15dpo.

@ChinChilly I hope you ovulate soon! Your temps def look like you will 🤞

Another tiny temp dip this morning, wish my body would hurry up and do something!!!

@minipilling oh no, that sounds horrible. Is it work related? (it would be for me 😅)

@Sperr yes I'm thinking of picking up reading daily, even if just for 15 min!

7dpo, nothing to report except being awake with panic attacks/insomnia (normal for me). Peeing a lot (also normal for me!)

@Juno231 I like your OH’s thinking 😂😂 I mentioned giving up chocolate to OH his response was ‘please don’t do it’ 😂

@Sperr it tastes exactly the same as the biscoff on, get yourself to aldi!

@MissC07 my boss can be abit like that, she’ll ask you to do something except she wants it done yesterday 🙄

@ChinChilly oh my god- I need that in my life!

@Juno231 I love that!

I really can’t think of anything I haven’t already done before! Maybe I’ll do something for 40 days rather than give something up?!

@sperr I asked OH what he's giving up for lent and he said tofu 🤣. He doesn't eat tofu!

I gave up sugar in my tea /coffee for lent in 2014 and never went back so I do think these new habits can work! No idea what to give up this time though that is realistic 😅