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Missing period! Stuck in limbo

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 11:59

Hi everyone just wanting some advice or experience. Ttc #3 last period was 19.12.2020 so was due on around 20th January. That has come and gone and still nothing. Negative tests obviously. Always been regular have missed the odd one before. Have also been using opks but there still all fairly light so nothing happening on that front. Just feel like I'm stuck in limbo. No ovulation happening up to now and no period. What do people do in this situation?! Just keep DTD? Or is it pointless with negative opks all the time. Soo frustrating. I'm now cd 49 roughly. Confused driving myself mad testing all the time . Why does ttc make us go so crazy??!! Grin

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 16:32

@Skl2021 no, literally second cycle after coming of birth control. Was 9 years ago and a previous relationship. All of our infertility investigations seem to be me being the problem. I'm still being treated on the NHS and my consultant is booking me in for a scan to see what my cysts are doing on day one of my cycle...but it doesn't want to arrive clearly! We've got a virtual open evening tomorrow for an IVF clinic as we're going to pay privately (as we're not eligible on NHS) but I just wanted to sort my cysts out first. I get the obsession with testing! I would too but just feel sh*t after! I've just had my Amazon parcel arrive of more FRER, also some strips that test at 10 mIU/mL and also ordered the other day a finger prick HCG test 🙄

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 16:19

@Sparkles512 yes I started casual and now cos I don't know where in the cycle I am I'm testing everyday and my line isn't even budging Confused same light line everyday wish af would just show now! So I can start again. Yes maybe u should have tested a bit longer to see if they went pale again. Yes some people just fall pregnant without all this complications would be good wouldn't it 🤞
@Crazydoglady123 did u have trouble ttc #1? I can't even imagine what your going through trying long enough. My 1st took 9 months and that was bad enough. Wel I'm a pee on a stick addict I want to take one eveytime I go to the toilet have to stop myself as I'm spending a fortune Grin but if it upsets you to much I would leave it a few days x

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 16:00

Hey, hope it's okay to join but I'm also in the same boat. I'm 24 months in TTC #2. Recently I've finished three cycles on Letrozole and this cycle on Clomid. The Clomid made me super ovulate and I released 5 eggs (and ended up in a lot of pain and 5 haemorraghic cysts because of it). I had a scan on CD21 so know I ovulated before then (though I don't track). I'm now CD32, AF late and all I got earlier this week was BFN. It's hard symptom spotting because of the problems the cysts have caused but my main two at the minute is waking up to pee in the night and uncontrollable burping (I rarely burp unless I drink a fizzy drink 😂). I want to test tomorrow but I get so down when it's BFN I can't decide whether or not just to wait but AF being late is frustrating the hell out of me!!!

Sparkles512 · 07/02/2021 15:49

@skl2021
I'm not very good with OPKs, we started with the casual approach then I bought the OPKS but always forgot or work got in the way and didn't get chance.
I tried to use them this month as I'm at home on furlough, I had a line from 16th to 19th January which would have been around CD 17/20 and then stopped testing as I assumed that was when I ovulated.
Maybe I should have continued testing?
I think once AF arrives I need to get the CB ovulation tests, and use them more regularly!
We have been taking the relaxed approach but it's not working for us so far.
A few friends have announced accidental pregnancies and I'm like how did that happen, there seems to be so much science behind baby making for it to be an accident! 🤣
Fingers crossed for you 🤞🤞

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 15:19

@Sparkles512 i feel your pain it's so frustrating. Have u been tracking ovulation? I'm currently using opks but nothing happening on that front either Confused just a waiting game I guess

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Sparkles512 · 07/02/2021 15:14

Hi I'm in a similar situation TTC #1 and currently on CD 37, tested this morning and BFN, no signs of AF.
I just want AF to make an appearance so we can carry on trying!

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 13:39

@ShutUpAlex ok thankyou gives me hope guess I will keep on plodding along until something happens!

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ShutUpAlex · 07/02/2021 13:22

Well we have sex everyday anyway so that didn’t change anything haha. I did carry on using opks and I think I ovulated about 2 weeks late. I had some high readings but no peaks.

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 13:20

@ShutUpAlex what did u do while in limbo? Did u Carry on DTD or using opks. I just want something to happen never wanted af to arrive so much!!

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ShutUpAlex · 07/02/2021 13:01

My period didn’t come till cd52 this month! I’ve just finished and am on cd7 so hoping it doesn’t happen again!