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Missing period! Stuck in limbo

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 11:59

Hi everyone just wanting some advice or experience. Ttc #3 last period was 19.12.2020 so was due on around 20th January. That has come and gone and still nothing. Negative tests obviously. Always been regular have missed the odd one before. Have also been using opks but there still all fairly light so nothing happening on that front. Just feel like I'm stuck in limbo. No ovulation happening up to now and no period. What do people do in this situation?! Just keep DTD? Or is it pointless with negative opks all the time. Soo frustrating. I'm now cd 49 roughly. Confused driving myself mad testing all the time . Why does ttc make us go so crazy??!! Grin

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Skl2021 · 10/02/2021 22:58

@unknownttc have u tried another test lately?
@Sparkles512 I know how that feels 🤪 my emotions were all over the place half of me hoping to still get a positive even tho the odds were against me. And half of me wanting a to come on! Hopefully not much longer until something happens mine was roughly cd 52 😭 longest time ever.
@Crazydoglady123 how are you doing?

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Sparkles512 · 10/02/2021 21:44

Fed up now, CD 40 and no sign of AF!

unknownttc · 09/02/2021 09:39

[quote Skl2021]@unknownttc I was just about to say do u track ovulation. Have u tried opks? I can definitely see something on that picture but yes I would think the line would be getting darker now with the time frame. 🤔 Did the line appear in the time frame just to be sure it wasn't an evap? Horrible waiting game waiting for af to show or a positive result x[/quote]
I think maybe my cycles was wrong? Where I missed the month. I'm not sure but I can just really see something and no was in the time frame x

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2021 09:33

@unknownttc I was just about to say do u track ovulation. Have u tried opks? I can definitely see something on that picture but yes I would think the line would be getting darker now with the time frame. 🤔 Did the line appear in the time frame just to be sure it wasn't an evap? Horrible waiting game waiting for af to show or a positive result x

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unknownttc · 09/02/2021 09:12

Just to add Aswell I was taking 7 seas end of last year they messed my cycles up and made me miss December period and then I finally had af on the 5th of jan and now nothing so don't know if I ovulated when I should I only go by two period tracking apps...
Had some slight cramps but don't feel af.
Also have a lot of wetness feeling down below

unknownttc · 09/02/2021 09:10

Hope you don't mind me adding this ladies

I was due period on the 4th. I took IC on the 3rd tiny faint line
I then took cheap version of frer yesterday not with fmu and then today with fmu

I don't know what to think anymore surely something would have shown by now

Missing period! Stuck in limbo
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Skl2021 · 09/02/2021 08:52

@Crazydoglady123 sorry to hear that but at least u can start a plan and hopefully get Ur cysts sorted. I think I'm coming on too. Bit of blood when I wipe so fingers crossed. I'm cd 51 today 🤪

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Crazydoglady123 · 09/02/2021 08:10

@Skl2021 I've come on today. First time ever coming on straight to full flow, usually it's 4/5days spotting first but glad I know now. Next step to book my scan for my cysts

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Skl2021 · 08/02/2021 14:00

@Crazydoglady123 oh I had my hopes high for you with your super ovulation. Hope our bodies start behaving better soon. It's my 30th birthday today so think I might treat myself to a drink tonight. I need it with what's going on. Kids homeschooling is driving me insane and my body not doing as it's told 🙈🤣

@Liz2021 yes tracking it a good idea just so u know that it's happened and u can work your dates. I wish I did it from the start as I don't have a clue where my cycle is now 😒 just waiting on anything right now

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Crazydoglady123 · 08/02/2021 12:52

@Liz2021 welcome! It's so frustrating, isn't it? I know I deffo ovulated as both my fertility nurse and the sonographer told me my cysts are from ovulating so where is my AF 😩

@Skl2021 sorry to hear you're the same. I'm so pissed off. I just want to know why it's not here!

Liz2021 · 08/02/2021 12:00

@Skl2021 Some months I've tracked ovulation but I haven't recently. I plan to start again after this cycle so that I can have a better understand what's going on. Yes, it is so hard not to get your hopes up sometimes and then I just end up feeling more disappointed. Sorry to hear about the negative test, hope you are doing okay!

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Skl2021 · 08/02/2021 09:49

@Crazydoglady123 oh no 😩 hope your feeling ok. Nothing for me either x
@Liz2021 welcome. So frustrating isn't it when our bodies do this to us and get our hopes up. Have u been tracking ovulation? X

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Crazydoglady123 · 08/02/2021 08:23

@Skl2021 Negative on both 😭 not even a squinter

Liz2021 · 07/02/2021 23:51

I'm in a similar position, 9 days late for AF (my cycle is fairly regular, typically 28 days plus or minus one day) but BFN. Have had some symptoms like fatigue, back pain, sore boobs. It's very confusing!! I'm TTC #1 and have been trying for quite some time now, so I can't help but hope.

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 19:43

@Crazydoglady123 haha I know I never thought I would want af so much ever! 🤣 Or IL settle for a positive opk so I know I'm ovulating. Not asking for alot! Until one of them happens I won't know. Then I can make a plan. Might be harder than I thought. Confused

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 19:34

@Skl2021 yeah my last cycle I started spotting CD21 and AF came CD27. Will see what tomorrow brings 😬 Could your cycles still be regulating themselves then? Anyone not TTC would be in their element for no AF for so long 😂

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 19:16

@Crazydoglady123 so this cycle is definitely different for you hope that means good news. No 1st month last period was 20.12.2020 so should have had one around 20th Jan. But that's been an gone now so I'm around cd49.

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 18:49

@Skl2021 have you come of birth control to try this month then? Is this your second period TTC this time? Mine vary between 27-34 days but since the Letrozole and Clomid they've been more around 28 days. I'm CD32 today. I always spot for 4/5 days before AF too and I've had nothing. We plan to go for private IVF this month now anyway but just wanted the scan with my consultant at the hospital to check my cysts first.

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 18:40

@Crazydoglady123 that sounds so painful. Hope it gets better for you. I only started in January so one month upto now. I know people wait alot longer like you it must be hell. i'm just more frustrated that I still haven't got my period so I'm stuck waiting around just want to get into the next cycle. They are usually around 30 days haven't really been tracking them but there usually quite regular. I have missed the odd period before but trust me it to be as soon as we ttc 😩 just wish I knew what was happening. If it goes back to normal I would be due around 20th Feb again so like another 12 days to go. Unless I get a positive. (Highly unlikely now) or af just shows up which I am praying for. All opks are negative still so I know I haven't ovulated since last missed period. How late is yours now? I hope that clomid and super ovulation does something for you 🤞

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 18:27

@Skl2021 I think I'm over the worst with the cysts. All five had ruptured and the pain was so, so bad and the bloating from where the blood/fluid was irritating my insides.
I will definitely update on here in the morning! How long are your cycles normally and how long have you been TTC this time round?

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 18:18

@Crazydoglady123 wow yes maybe save that test as it's soo expensive! I hope the cysts don't cause u to many problems. Haha we just can't help ourselves?! I will probably join u Inthe morning and do another one 🤣🙈 hope you get some good news u will have to come back and update me!

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 18:13

@Skl2021 yeah exactly! Like get on and bleed already or give me the two lines 🤣 Yeah, the Medichecks one was £49 😱 I actually don't know why I brought it...I don't even know how sensitive it is but like I said I was just feeling very desperate. I think too I freaked myself out last week too as we know from my scan I released 5 eggs and so my risk of an ectopic would be higher and I had so much free fluid in my pelvis where the cysts had ruptured I wondered if that could've stopped the eggs moving into my uterus but the hospital I'm at won't do a HCG blood test unless I get a positive test.
Okay so I caved and used one of the cheap strips and instead of dipping I pee'd and pee'd over the wrong bit so I'm giving up till the morning. I'm armed ready with a load of tests. I'll be dipping away tomorrow morn until I get my two lines 😂🙈

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 18:06

@Crazydoglady123 I had a look at Amazon and you can get them for around 10 quid but they don't have good reviews so maybe that one u bought should be better. Aww IV been through the desperate stage trying to convince myself I was but now I'm so late I'm angry and just want my period so I can start again! Would have to have a bizarre long cycle just as we ttc 😩 trying to stop thinking about it all as it's taking over my life already. P.s did u try a test 🙈#addicted.

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Crazydoglady123 · 07/02/2021 17:47

Hahaha I collect my FMU and then spend a few hours debating whether to do one or not 🙄 The finger prick one was from Medichecks but I'm not sure if I was a bit mugged off with the price...I was desperate and clutching at straws as late and BFN's but my rational head is now saying I can't be, just must be very bizarrely having a long cycle.

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Skl2021 · 07/02/2021 17:03

@Crazydoglady123 hope your virtual appointment goes well! Yes af knows how to piss us off 🤣 never comes when u want it too. Omg I would be trying one right now. I have no self control. Probably just a cheapie tho and save the frer 🤣🤞 never heard of finger prick HCG may have to look into that now 🤔

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