Feb Bus 2021 - no more TRYING to conceive, let's blimin do this!

I'm out, back on CD2. Hope all are well

@sunshineandshowers3
Hey, how are you getting on? I think I’m out again this month - feeling bloated and just got a tiny bit of pinky discharge which is usually my warning sign that AF is on her way in the next day or so 🤦‍♀️

@Wowthisisreall congratulations on your BFP 🥳 🎉 so wonderful to hear success stories on Mumsnet. You must be over the moon 🌙

Ahh I’m only 5 or 6 DPO at the moment - and my nipples seem to have gone back to normal now... wait and see nearer AF what happens. I can’t believe I’m 10 months in and still symptom spotting 😂 have I learnt nothing!?

Hey all - just a little update. Got my BFP on Saturday at CD31, first time I tested. Quite a faint line but tests again last light (not even with fmu) and I was a lovely strong line 😊

@MiniBaker - could be nothing but my only 'sign' was erect and sensitive nipples from about cd22 and a bit of bloating. On cd30 I needed to pee constantly. So could be good news!

@sunshineandshowers3 Ahh I know what you mean. Sometimes you think it’s over when it’s not quite...

Yeah literally surrounded at the moment it feels - I have to give myself a good talking to to try and take part in the conversations but I find it easier to ignore it.

Yes really hoping that by this time next year we’ll have babies! I think I started testing with the OPKs on Day 10 but I read the instructions on the clear blue pack and followed them to the letter as it tells you what day to start on there based on your cycle length.

Are you going to use preseed again this month? How often do you buy it because I was quite surprised that the tube looks pretty small...

My nipples have been constantly tender since ovulation this cycle - I usually get this a few days before AF only. Do you get sore nipples after ovulation up until AF? I’m thinking it might just be the acupuncture increasing my blood flow. But tiny part of me is hoping it’s a sign 🙏

Xx

@MiniBaker 😂 We made the mistake of DTD last night before AF was properly finished so (sorry TMI) but feeling a bit sore this morning 😳.

Gosh you’ve got baby chat coming at you from every angle 😞 sorry to hear that. There isn’t really even any baby chat my end as no babies in the family (we’ve both got very small families) and I get the impression we’re the first of our friends to be trying. But seeing all the Mother’s Day posts still hurt 😔. Keep thinking by this time next year we could well be in a very different position! What day of your cycle did you start using the OPKs from? xx

@sunshineandshowers3

Haha 😂 I think I’ve exhausted DH this week with all the DTD! I think he’s ready for a few days off now..

Completely with you 💕 I’m finding it hard today - feel like I’ve been bombarded with baby chat today - I’m in a group chat with DH family and 2 of them have had babies recently so constantly send pictures and DH’s mum is always talking about how cute they are and things they are doing and reminiscing on what it was like when my husband was a baby and I just want to shout - look we’ve been trying for nearly a year and it’s not happened yet can we change the subject 😬

Then my dad’s GF two daughters who are both younger than me have just had babies and they keep sending pictures too and I’m just like 😫

I know it sounds really bratty and I’ll probably be the same when I have a baby but I just feel like it’s so frustrating when no one knows you are trying and it’s a really sensitive subject xx

@MiniBaker Yes I always test first thing too when I have the time and, as you said, don’t have time to forget. The leaflet says with my length cycles to start testing from CD 6 so I’ll start testing from Tuesday.

Ah yeah it’s so confusing because with the clear blue ones you could legitimately get about 4/5 high days! Lots of DTD! I’m exhausted at the thought already 😂🙈

I like that thought process! 😃 According to the NHS website 80% of couples get pregnant within a year, so hopefully we’re in that majority 🤞.

Finding this morning quite hard with all the Mother’s Day posts if I’m honest. Whenever I see one that says ‘those yearning to be mother’s’ it really hits me 😔.

Sending lots of love! xxx

@Sar1010 it’s really interesting the change acupuncture has on your body isn’t it!

My periods are pretty light too without it so I think it’s a positive that they are heavier.

Do your nipples get really sore around ovulation? Mine used to practically hibernate but since acupuncture they are out all the time and really tender. I presume it’s related.

Also does your acupuncturist use like electric box so the needles jump?

@sunshineandshowers3

I have been using first morning urine too as that’s what it says to use in the clear blue instructions.. but when I used to use the cheap OPKs it said not to use first morning urine so I used to test around lunchtime. I prefer first morning urine though as sometimes I would forget once the day got rolling!

With SMEP, and I might be wrong... but with the clear blue ovulation tests I just thought having sex every day it says high and peak then one day off and then again the day after? But with the other OPKs I thought it was 3 days from peak...

Aww I keep thinking that we must be more likely to conceive now as we’ve been waiting so long. All fingers crossed for you 💕 xxx

@MiniBaker yes it’s made my period heavier and longer! I’ve taken that as a positive! Because since my chemical in June my period have been pretty light and lasting only two days max!
No I haven’t heard of having acupuncture three times on ovulation but that does make sense. I have appointments every two weeks one is usually around ovulation and the other is around tww.

@sunshineandshowers3 I test OPKS around 11am so not FMU. But I have sometimes tested more than once a day when it’s around cd13/14 just to be sure not to miss the peak.

Oh yes a BFP before your birthday would just be LOVELY!! 🧡

@MiniBaker Sorry another question, with SMEP do you count the 3 days in a row from high fertility or peak fertility? 🤷‍♀️ xx

@MiniBaker Yes I’ve had it the past couple of cycles and it’s completely thrown me 🤷‍♀️.

What time do you test with the OPKs? I always test first thing in the morning. Apprehensive to use them again this month as I used them for about 4 months or so last year with no joy. We shall see! 🤞

Yes when we use it foreplay is a no for me, but as you said, greater good and all that 😂.

Ah that’s all good, useful info then. I’m 29 next month and keep dreaming of a BFP before my birthday. I know statistically it’s probably unlikely but I really hope it does happen.

2021 Mummas hopefully 🤞😍🥰xx

@Sar1010

Ahh very interesting about the homeopathic herbs - I’m really in to all the holistic stuff.
I definitely want to be passionate and I took a couple months off Mumsnet to focus on just doing it when we’re in the moment and it was really nice .... but it didn’t work ... so we’re back to OPKs and started preseed 😂

I actually love the acupuncture though it’s so relaxing and definitely makes me feel more positive. Do you find it makes your period heavier? As I had it once last year before the lockdown and it made my period so heavy!

Also my acupuncturist suggests having three sessions close together before ovulation so that’s what I’m doing this time. Is that what you do?

@sunshineandshowers3

Yeah I’ve had pink spotting occasionally a few days before my period and then it goes brown but I would definitely call it spotting. So maybe yours was something else?

So easy! I can’t actually believe it’s taken me this long to use the clear blue ones. I put it in about 5-10 minutes beforehand and then got in to bed. Yeah we sort of skip foreplay for me which is a shame but I guess we’re thinking of the greater good 😂

She said she used preseed every time they DTD during fertile window and she did SMEP. She said previously she had just used preseed for the peak fertility days but this time every time. So I’ve tried that and hopefully going to complete SMEP tomorrow...

Let’s see how it goes. Really hoping it’s our time soon 💕 xx

My partner is 34. We haven’t had any tests done yet as we’re getting married in July and for some reason my partner want to wait till after that to test?

I’m not sure what CoQ10 is 😂 I just googled short luteal phase and it came up a lot!

Oh I would recommend acupuncture if you need to chill out, it’s really helped me! X

@Sar1010 Hi 😊 ah so a similar age and time to us then. How old is your DP/DH?

So many positive, encouraging stories coming out of acupuncture that I’m itching to give it a try!

Ours is definitely more regimented. Wish I was spontaneous but I just don’t think that’s me unfortunately 🙈.

My luteal phase is quite short too 11/12 days. What is CoQ10?

Gosh I hope this month is the month for us all! We’d just squeeze in 2021 babies then 🥰. Xx

@MiniBaker Yes so many people at my school have struggled to conceive...there definitely must be a link!

Do you? I’ve never had it before. When it was brown there was quite a lot though, not what I’d call spotting 🤷‍♀️.

Acupuncture sounds great 👍🏻 something I’m going to look into.

Yes the clear blue ones are so easy! I’ve already bought some for this cycle. Wow lots of BD! Really really hope it does the trick for you 😊. Yes I use the syringe too and have no problems. How far in advance did you use it before DTD?

Also (and I can’t believe I’m asking this) do you skip foreplay when you’ve put it in? I worry if we do anything like fingering then it’s essentially all just coming out of me 🤷‍♀️. Gosh I’m glad we have MN as I don’t know how I’d ask anyone that in real life 😳😂.

That is so positive and good to hear 🥰 do you know if she did anything differently this cycle? Any words of wisdom always welcome!!

Xx

@MiniBaker and @sunshineandshowers3 I’m 30 and have been ttc since March!
Started acupuncture 2 cycles ago and I have a homeopath who sends me lots of different herbs to try each month. I haven’t fallen pregnant yet (I had a chemical in June) but I definitely enjoy the therapeutic side of both of the appointments. This week my homeopath and I spoke about passion and how she thinks that’s the real answer to conceiving. I always thought we were quite passionate but I guess since TTC thinks have been a bit more regimented and we talk about sex a bit like it’s a planned thing. Anyway just wanted to share that with you two.
I’ve also noticed that my luteal phase is 11 days long in 25 day cycle! So I’ve CoQ10 which apparently is great for thickening the lining of the uterus to help implantation and I’ve also just bought progesterone cream to put on my skin from the day I ovulate until ugly AF arrives. First month trying these two new things which is exciting... but also crazy how much money and time I spend ttc!

AF is just finishing for me now so I’m going to start OPKs tomorrow as I feel like I’m ovulating very early.

Wonder if this is our month?!?!

Hi @sunshineandshowers3 ahh yeah I can imagine working in a school at the moment means lots of pressure! I used to be a Teacher and left it because it was so stressful back then 😂 let alone now.

Your spotting sounds like maybe some small damage or small irritation when you got the pink spotting and then this turned to brown spotting as it became older blood and then your AF just started. I occasionally get this when we have sex in the TWW.

Acupuncture was great thank you! I actually think he sticks some needles in to chill me out as well, as I always feel floaty and relaxed after.

I purchase the clear blue digital ovulation kits this month, found them much easier to use that other OPKs so it told me Tuesday and Wednesday were high fertility and Yesterday and today are Peak - so we’ve had sex on every day so far and will do it today aswell. Maybe leave it one day and then do it again for luck 😂

Also following your advice, I’ve bought preseed and used that every time we’ve DTD in the fertile window. I’ve actually used the syringe too and found it worked well. Only one time I put a bit much on so it was a bit slippy 😂

Hope you’re AF isn’t too long and you can get moving on your next cycle 💕 On one of the other threads I follow another girl who is 29 very similar to us had been trying since May 2020 and just got her BFP so there is hope it can happen soon 🙏 xxx

Trying to decide whether to take a test or wait. I'm 12 dpo. I've collected FMU and I have a FRER.

Really don't want to see a negative so feel I would rather wait for AF to come. But also know I will be sad when it does and I've got a feeling it will come on Mother's Day which will be tough.

I think because AF was a bit late last time it gave me false hope so I just don't want that again, but also not ready to give up hope this time.

Ah!! TTC is such a mind f* it's 12 days DPO and I'm on CD 29.

@RHODXB So very sorry to hear this 😔 sending lots and lots of love xxx

@MiniBaker We’re exactly the same. We haven’t once managed a month where we DTD every other day throughout the whole cycle. Maybe that’s why we’ve not been successful!!

Hope your acupuncture appointment went well 😊.

I feel entirely like you - all I want is some answers. I’m 29 next month and just feeling like time is running away from me! I know it sounds ridiculous and people are having children much later in life, but why oh why is it taking so long? 😔

Work is very full on at the moment with half of our year group off sick. That’s definitely adding to my stress too.

Glad you can work from home. I sometimes wish I had a job that allowed it but I don’t know how disciplined I’d be 😂 (easily distracted!).

So I’ve heard the weirdest month and this month (exactly the same as last month). Very light pink spotting CD 19 on and off for a couple of days. Then light brown spotting (mixed with CM) for a couple of days. Then pretty much a day of nothing and now full blown AF. I’ve never had this before last month. Any ideas?

I normally lightly spot for a day or so before AF shows up, but nothing like this. Feeling very cross at my body as I just don’t know what’s going on inside it! Argh! 😔

Hope you’re okay. Due to ovulate soon? Xx

Sorry to hear that @RHODXB 😢
How are you feeling?

Just found out I have very low egg reserves. Natural pregnancy is looking highly unlikely. Gutted