Active discussions

Help protect children from gaming harms.

Take our survey

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

Please Help 2 potential fathers

79 replies

jemnea93 · 30/01/2021 10:04

Please dont judge me i have judged myself enough this is tearing me apart and would absolutely break my partners heart who is so excited for the baby i have all my dates in a timeline for you if anyone can advise me in anyway here goes.. basically first day of LMP was 6th nov normal 28 day cycle - conception calculator tells me i would of ovulated on the 20th nov
Had private scan on 24th dec putting me at 6week 5days - conception calculator tells me from these dates i concieved on the 22nd nov
Had nhs scan 12th jan putting me at 9week 5days - conception calculator tells me from these dates i concieved on the 19th nov

I only had sex with my partner once in that time frame which was bang on the 20th of nov so all dates add up but before that on the 15th nov i made a huge mistake and had unprotected sex with another man and i have heard sperm can stay inside a woman for a week which would mean that the other man could potentially be my babies father ??

Please can anybody help me im going out of my mind please

OP posts:
Amz6219 · 30/01/2021 10:28

It’s going to be a long wait with worrying so try not to! Easier said than done I know!

I honestly think it’s a lot more likely to be your partner x

Original poster
jemnea93 · 30/01/2021 10:25

Hi thankyou for the replies pre natal dna testing is not an option for me moneywise so its just waiting for the birth the two men are different races so will be obvious when baby born but i just know it would absolutely kill my partner if it isnt him the other man is abit older in 40s and has no children i asked why he said it jusst never happened for him i dont know what that is supposed to mean maybe he had fertility problems in past? That would mean baby is less likely to be his
Its just so close together i know nobody can say for sure but hearing other peoples opinions might help settle my worries a little bit x

OP posts:
Amz6219 · 30/01/2021 10:19

No judgement, never judge someone else and their life.

It could be but I think it’s far more likely to be your partner, chances are much lower 5 days out than day before/day of ovulation. Obviously you won’t know for sure without DNA test because it could be either really but I think it’s more likely to be your partners. Chart shows likelihood from sex days before ovulation x

Please Help 2 potential fathers
Intrigued2020 · 30/01/2021 10:16

Hiya! I really feel for you! This must be such a hard time for you! To be honest I have heard that sperm can stay inside you for 5 days so it could potentially be either! I really don’t know how you would find out for sure! I don’t know if this is a stupid question but do you know if it’s possible to get a dna test on the baby when your pregnant or do you need to wait until the baby has been born?

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.