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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

5 days late and all tests have been BFNs. Driving myself potty.

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dragonrabbit · 27/01/2021 02:04

I'm going slightly mad.

Posting here in the dead of night might help my whirring mind. There's only so many times I can talk to my husband about this.

Since coming off the pill last year and getting back into the swing of things, I've never been a day late, until now.

I've had the odd cramp over the past week, nothing like my usual pre menstrual cramps though. Sore(ish) boobs. Fatigue. Twice in the last 3 days I've wiped and had a miniscule amount of brownish spotting.
Had some discharge too. Keep feeling wet and thinking its AF but it isn't. I've come down with a head cold and just feeling rubbish.

Held off doing a test yesterday because I'm so sick of seeing a BFN.

Worried there's something wrong because I'm 39...and you know... Menopause and all that.

Getting to the point where I don't care if I'm pregnant or not. I just want to know!!

Anyone else?

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anothermonthbitesthedust · 27/01/2021 08:59

It's so hard that the symptoms of early pregnancy and pre period are the same. Apparently it's to do with both causing an increase in progesterone

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dragonrabbit · 27/01/2021 08:52

and just now an intense wave of nausea but unable to vomit.

I think my mind is convincing my body that I'm pregnant

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dragonrabbit · 27/01/2021 08:13

Just had a slight tinge of red when I wiped. Does the brighter blood mean AF?

God I hate this. Its driving me mad. I really hope its a late ovulation and not my body getting old. If its not pregnancy, then what!?

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2021ComeAtMe · 27/01/2021 08:08

@explain

Very annoying I know. Were you able to confirm ovulation? Maybe you ovulated but later in your cycle than you thought
This was my first thought too!

Sometimes Mother Nature likes to kindly throw a random cycle in Hmm so I'm also wondering if you ovulated later this month. I'd test again on Thursday I think.

Cheap tests should be fine.

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dragonrabbit · 27/01/2021 08:01

Explain... I didn't do ovulation strips last month. I did them the previous 2 months, and I was generally around the time when the app predicted... I dunno.

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dragonrabbit · 27/01/2021 07:59

Hi both

Thanks for talking to me. I eventually got back to sleep after an agonising few hours with my mind whirring.

I did a test this morning... Another BFN. It was on a cheap test... I got 2 for £1. Should I be spending on more expensive ones or does it make a difference?

No sign of AF either.

Both your stories give me some hope so thank you for sharing.

Honestly this is torturous. I hate not knowing. I think I feel pregnant, which is even worse because I know I'll be pretty crushed if / when I get AF. I'm alll too aware that pg symptoms and AF symptoms are one and the same...ugh!!!

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LemonDrizzles · 27/01/2021 06:19

I was 38, and a lot of negative tests but I was pregnant so it can happen. I've also had negative tests in the past where I was sure I was, but it was negative and I wasn't...I'm here for a virtual hand hold, OP. It's tough.

explain · 27/01/2021 06:07

Very annoying I know. Were you able to confirm ovulation? Maybe you ovulated but later in your cycle than you thought