Anyone else 7DPO and hating the waiting part?

@Meg87 sorry to hear about your loss too 😔 It is very hard to imagine you'll be excited by a new baby isn't it. Hopefully, since your loss was early, you'll be able to relax a bit after the dating scan. The second trimester can be lovely, so I hope you're able to enjoy that part! But the first few weeks will definitely be much harder now you've experienced loss.
Have you been trying long this time round? I mean since you decided to try again after your loss? Xx

@emilyylouise good on you! Sunday is definitely a good day to test ☺️ Quite like that it's almost certain to be accurate at 12dpo, but there's still a tiny sliver of hope even if it's a BFN!

I can completely empathise with those who will find it hard to fully enjoy a BFP due to previous loss. Last August during our first cycle ttc our first from about 14/15dpo (when AF was due) I felt so pregnant (even though I'd never been pregnant before!). It started with needing to pee every half hour one evening, when I hadn't had more to drink than normal. And during the days that followed my body felt so completely exhausted, I had brain fog and my tummy felt very full. My partner was away at the time and I didn't want to get a BFP without him so I said I'd wait til he got back about a week later. The day before he got back I woke up feeling normal, no brain fog, and I knew something was up. So I decided to take a test just to see if I had been right about feeling pregnant, or whether I'd gone totally crazy! I did get a positive but immediately after I started bleeding, and with the disappearance of symptoms I realised it wasn't good. I then got proper cramps and heavy bleeding followed. I took another test the day after and it was still positive but no darker than the first one, possibly a bit lighter if anything. Then another test two/three days later was a BFN. I'm sure I'll be excited if I get another BFP some time but I'm also sure I'll start fretting and imagining the worst almost immediately after! 😟
I should probably add that while this was happening I obviously Googled bleeding during early pregnancy and disappearance of symptoms and there were plenty of women who experienced this and went on to have a completely healthy pregnancy, so it doesn't necessarily always mean the worst.

@HerringGull

Serious metallic mouth today! Got worse as the day has gone on.. started to get red spots on my boobs which is weird??? and sore nipples. Also still got a headache and very hot still very cramps too🙈 10DPO today... going to wait out until Sunday morning if AF doesn't arrive 🤞🏻

Thank you @HerringGull
My first reaction was mild panic and disappointment, horribly, just because it would mean I can't procrastinate anymore and have to immediately make important decisions like where to move to but then I started to get excited and now I'm actually a bit gutted to feel fewer symptoms than yesterday...

@Cafeaulait27 thanks will check it out. I feel like it is AF quote full on, but I am early, it wasn’t due till Monday.

@HerringGull no early to be fair, but my cycle is probably just all over the place

@Cafeaulait27 I think I've been quite lucky with it, and have found it annoying rather than life-changing. It is very hard to stay a healthy weight though I find. Seems to be pretty common with it, but apparently it's a vicious circle, hard to keep slim but way less symptoms if you do - what a pest! 😆 I'm 10dpo today, AF due 4th or 5th.

@Gamechanger2019 sorry AF came 😔 is today the day you expected her?

@AbiBrown sure it doesn't mean anything yet, don't worry!

@emilyylouise how are you getting on?

Ugh, I wonder if symptoms will start again... They've gone "quiet"! haha I don't know why I was so sure I was pregnant. I think I got caught up in all the stuff I've been reading online. I'm not sure it's happened this time! Who knows... 5 days left

@Gamechanger2019 sorry to hear that! Are you sure it’s not implantation bleeding? When I got pregnant the first time I thought it was my period but it stopped after a couple of days, so I did a test!

I take 2 water soluble 75mg aspirins per day, and I get them from Boots 😊 a friend of mine who had 3 mc took it throughout her pregnancy and had her first baby last year. She went to a recurrent mc clinic, and they said they tell all their patients to take it straight away as there’s no risks and helps a lot of people! I’ve been taking them for a few weeks now, hoping that it will help 🤞

Ah thanks for the welcome girls. My AF arrived through the night ha at least that explains my irrational mood! It’s quite intense this month but only to the expected. @Cafeaulait27 what aspirin do you take, like soluble?

@HerringGull she sounds like a good one! I’m sure you’re in good hands with her 😊

And yes pcos totalllyyyyy sucks! Before ttc I’d been on the pill for 15 years and kind of forgot I had it, but when I came off all the symptoms came screaming back.

How many days dpo are you now? Sorry if you e already said and I missed it!

Sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you get lucky soon xxx

@Cafeaulait27 I also have PCOS. Lucky us! I don't take anything proper for it though, just inositol supplements. It must be nice have regular periods! Mine vary by up to six ish days each month, but I always ovulate so I'm not worried about it from a fertility point of view. Ahh I see what you mean about the early scan - I would probably avoid big companies like that too. I would probably be okay with going to the midwife one I described though. She actually uses the hospital facilities (out of hours) and works there herself during the day. I think that's a bit different to a a big private company. I might be being naive though. I will ask about to see if anyone else has used her maybe. Thanks for making me think it through a bit more!

This is cycle 5 this time. I conceived last time on cycle 3, so I'm not worried yet. It is so hard waiting though. If you don't count my lost baby then I've been trying since autumn 2019. Hope that makes sense! Although it's been a long time since we first started, we haven't got to the stage where we start thinking we might have difficulty conceiving again (yet).

@Blossom37 yes hopefully it’s just stress for you, fingers crossed you get good news soon. Did you used to have regular periods before your first baby? Are you still breastfeeding? I’ve heard that breastfeeding stops your periods coming back so could be due to that.... but you probably already know that 😊

I take metformin to regulate my periods and myo-inositol to help me ovulate and it seems to work a treat. I have pcos so when I came off the pill I didn’t have a period for a year, I ended up going to a private endocrinologist after getting nowhere with nhs and he put me on metformin which worked and my periods came back like clockwork.

I’m also taking 150mg of aspirin every day, it’s given to women with recurrent miscarriage and there are no risks to you or the baby. It can help with implantation of the egg and also helps blood flow to the foetus, reducing the risk of early miscarriage.

I feel like I’m doing all I can, so I really hope it works out soon 😣

@DizSquiz it really is! Let’s all make sure we all check back next week, hoping at least some of us will have good news xx

[quote Cafeaulait27]@HerringGull yes I’m due on the 5th! It’s gonna be a long wait... I think I will test on the 5th as my period are like clockwork (I have pcos but since being on metformin they have been really regular). I’ve also started taking low dose aspirin too as it helps with implantation, as well as helping blood flow to the foetus. It helps a lot of women who have recurrent miscarriage so I would urge anyone to take it if they want to.

I think there is some variation with private scans. Some are purely just so you can see your baby and are not medical at all, the one I went to was window to the womb and I thought they were very good, they have close links with the nearby hospital and say they will refer you if they are at all worried.

But I read a BBC investigation that said that window to the womb and others sometimes don’t tell the client if they see something bad like slow growth or a defect, as they are hoping to sell products like photos and cushions of your baby. I think it varies from clinic to clinic but as I’ve had a few mc now I will go for an nhs early scan if I need to now, as I don’t want to be given false hope and I know nhs won’t sugar coat anything. It’s totally your choice though 😊

Love the idea of testing with your other half, I might do that this time. It’s nice to share that moment whether it’s good or bad. There is a lot of pressure on a woman doing it alone and then having to give the good or bad news.

How long have you been trying for if you don’t mind me asking?

Fingers crossed for everyone! Xxx[/quote]
@Cafeaulait27 I'm due on 4th it is a long wait isn't it?

I'm trying my best to keep my mind off it

@Blossom37 sorry to hear that, I will have been trying for a year soon too. Are you on any treatment or had any tests at all?

Fingers crossed for you! Xxx

@HerringGull yes I’m due on the 5th! It’s gonna be a long wait... I think I will test on the 5th as my period are like clockwork (I have pcos but since being on metformin they have been really regular). I’ve also started taking low dose aspirin too as it helps with implantation, as well as helping blood flow to the foetus. It helps a lot of women who have recurrent miscarriage so I would urge anyone to take it if they want to.

I think there is some variation with private scans. Some are purely just so you can see your baby and are not medical at all, the one I went to was window to the womb and I thought they were very good, they have close links with the nearby hospital and say they will refer you if they are at all worried.

But I read a BBC investigation that said that window to the womb and others sometimes don’t tell the client if they see something bad like slow growth or a defect, as they are hoping to sell products like photos and cushions of your baby. I think it varies from clinic to clinic but as I’ve had a few mc now I will go for an nhs early scan if I need to now, as I don’t want to be given false hope and I know nhs won’t sugar coat anything. It’s totally your choice though 😊

Love the idea of testing with your other half, I might do that this time. It’s nice to share that moment whether it’s good or bad. There is a lot of pressure on a woman doing it alone and then having to give the good or bad news.

How long have you been trying for if you don’t mind me asking?

Fingers crossed for everyone! Xxx

@Cafeaulait27 oh heck yes, bring on the wine! I drink until 14dpo and then stop, since the baby can't get your wine until 4-5 weeks so I've decided 14dpo is safe Couldn't cope with not drinking while TTC; it's bad enough having all those months without it when you actually are pregnant!
I agree that it's better to wait for you period if you can. I try to test as late as I can too, as I don't want to know if I have a chemical either. I used to not test until AF was missing in action for a couple of days (for me this is about 18dpo as I have a long LP), but last month I wanted to drink on 15dpo so did a test with my DH there. I found it much easier with him and kind of psyching myself up for the result, rather than having to wait on tenterhooks for two days to see if AF shows up. I hated that. Mostly for me AF starts in the morning, but sometimes she pops up in the evening so it was literally 48 hours of fretting! So this month me and DH have agreed we'll do a test again, together, as close to AF as possible but definitely before she comes. I think your way sounds really good too - it's whatever works best for you mentally isn't it.
I'm really sorry about your mc, it sounds just awful :( I agree that early scans are not always great. I wonder if there are good ones and bad ones out there? The one nearest me is the senior midwife sonographer at the local hospital, so potentially literally the same person as if I went to the NHS. I would definitely look into whether early scans can be harmful (I mean whether it's a case of if there's no medical need then best leave well alone kind of thing), but if not think I'd get one. Might get an NHS one anyway based on previous loss, but not sure. Depends what options you have near you for early scans, but maybe there is a more reliable person somewhere? If you don't want one that's cool though. I didn't get one last time, and wouldn't do it this time if last pregnancy had been successful and I was confident about a new pregnancy, so totally get not wanting one.
So is AF due on the 5th for you? Will you test then or wait until the day after? x

@HerringGull yeah it’s so strange isn’t it how it varies. When I was pregnant last year (sadly miscarried at 9 weeks) I didn’t notice anything other than very vivid dreams, and I thought I was out because I was getting the beginnings of period cramps and a light period did actually come which turned out to be implantation bleeding. I’d started on the wine cos I really thought I was out and was trying to console myself!

I also had a chemical pregnancy in November after my miscarriage in October. I’ve now decided that I won’t test before my period is due, and I won’t have any early scans unless there’s a medical reason.

With my miscarriage I went for an early private scan and everything was normal but baby was small for 6 weeks, although there was a heartbeat. I was really worried from that point but the clinic said nothing to worry about. 2 weeks later I had the most horrendous experience of a miscarriage both physically and mentally. It’s now my view (from looking at news articles about them too) that private clinics tend to lean towards the overly positive and don’t like to give out bad news, and want to push cushions, keyrings etc.

Let’s just say I’m quite cynical after everything that happened last year!

Hope we get some positive news in this chat next week xxx

Meant to ask, did anyone test this morning?

@Sunny1986 and @Cafeaulait27 hello! Don't think having symptoms or not means anything at all. I get the same boring symptoms every tww, and when I conceived my last they were just slightly stronger after 12dpo ish, but really hard to notice.

@Sweetk0987poiu agree a loss means you don't enjoy future BFPs so much. I've not had a bfp since my loss, but I can't imagine getting excited until I actually have a live baby in my arms. A long time to wait!

@Gamechanger2019 don't count yourself out this cycle yet! Most embryos implant 9dpo so chances of you getting a bfp that day must be pretty small. Sure you're still in!

Yes! 7 dpo today and 7 days away from period. We did it every day for a week around ovulation so fingers crossed!

I’ve been waking up earlier, weird dreams, waking up really hungry and sometimes a bit nauseous. This morning I woke up starving, really needing a wee and nauseous!

I’ve also been super gassy since ovulation.

Can you really get symptoms this early??!!

I’m a couple days late but I’m 7dpo today! I always do a test in a morning and one a night from bout 5dpo (I know that’s ridiculous I’m a testing psychopath) BUT I think I think I see a line under the light 😬😬😬😬 been trying for 6 months now and it’s our first month “not trying” and having sex when we want .. can’t believe it’ll have worked if I am hahaha I hate when people say just relax it’ll happen 😂 I had a miscarriage in august so hoping if I am it’ll stick! It’s rubbish having a miscarriage dampens any future positives ☹️ I have had cramping since ovulation up to 5dpo, headaches 5-6dpo, heartburn on and off and I can’t stop eating! Although that’s lockdown for me 😩😂