Hey all,
So my boyfriend and I are both 22, happy together and can see a future together (yes I am aware we are both very young!). However, he isn't sure whether or not he wants children. He isn't opposed to children by any means, he just has no idea how he will feel when the time rolls around.
This is concerning for us, because I do want children. It worries me because I might stay with him and then he decides he doesn't want kids, meaning I am faced with the decision of breaking up with him or choosing to be childless. However, he may well choose that he does want children, and he's very much hoping that he will because he doesn't want to break up either.
Part of me feels like maybe that's normal for a 22 year old to not be sure? He's still at university and hasn't got a job or a house yet. I don't want to break up with someone I love deeply on the chance that they might not want children in 8 years time. But, I have told him that at some point in the future I will need some more certainty on this, which he understands. It's really hard. Has anyone been through anything similar and can give me any support?