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Confused and embarrassed

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glutenfreelife · 20/01/2021 20:23

Hi all!

I am feeling a little confused, embarrassed and I don't really know where else to talk to!

I am currently 3 weeks late, my normal cycle is 33 days and normally I'm two days late max! I have had cramps like my period is gonna come, back ache and a bit nauseous.

We got all excited as been trying for about a year.
I did a pregnancy test 2 Days after my period was due and it was negative and I've done a few since all negative.
I decided to speak to the doctors. I phoned for an appointment and and a doctor rang me back within a few hours. I explained everything to her and she laughed and said if your trying then you are obviously pregnant just keep testing!
I was quite taken a back and I understand the pressures they are under at the moment and she said I wouldn't be able to go to surgery as it just isn't the safest thing to do. I was quite shocked but I'm also feeling very low and I don't want to keep testing and face negative after negative.
There is no explanation for why my period is late and we did get quite excited but now we are both feeling very deflated
Has anyone had any experience of a pregnancy not showing on a pregnancy test by now?
Or reasons why i might be late?

Thanks for reading!

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imalmosthere · 20/01/2021 20:34

Have you used a clear blue? Sometimes it's down to the test - I found this out 😂

longtimelurkerfirsttimeposter · 20/01/2021 20:33

Could be PCOS, my period would be late when I was trying and I would think I could be pregnant, but it was PCOS.
Perhaps have your hormone levels checked via blood test

ChikiTIKI · 20/01/2021 20:32

Hmm. I've heard of people not getting a positive test until several weeks in, maybe even 12 weeks in. I'm surprised the doctor said you're pregnant though. I wouldn't expect them to say that unless it's confirmed by a test.

Have you tried different methods, I. E. Weeing on the stick and also dipping it? And always the first wee of the day (or whatever the packet says)

Lou573 · 20/01/2021 20:32

The only thing I have to add is that I was never late until I was ttc. Although 3 weeks is a lot. Could possibly have skipped a period? It would be unusual for it not to show on a test but not unheard of.

shesyourlobster · 20/01/2021 20:29

@Skybooks

If you are 3 weeks late you should be able to see something on a scan, I'd pay for a private scan to get an answer.

Good luck.

I was just going to say this too. You would be about 7 weeks pregnant now if your period was due 3 weeks ago, so should be able to see something on a scan.

Don't be embarrassed. I'd be exactly the same as you. Maybe you could ask for another doctor and ask for a blood test to check HCG levels. But if you can afford it I'd go straight for a private scan. They are about £70 depending on where you are. Wishing you loads of luck.

Skybooks · 20/01/2021 20:26

If you are 3 weeks late you should be able to see something on a scan, I'd pay for a private scan to get an answer.

Good luck.

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glutenfreelife · 20/01/2021 20:25

I also feel really silly for phoning like I should of known that it wasn't the right time to ask them
Trying for our first so I am new to all this!

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