Yogurt pot yuppies, sexy basters and UFO discs - part 3

@MrsKin90
Keep your head up lovely lady x we all have times where we just think fuck this I'm out ! But taking breaks etc is always good for mental health x
I haven't really looked in to the acupuncture at all, I don't even know if there are any folk around where I live who do it !
Given that we are still in full on lockdown in Scotland, I've been doing very little apart from working as everywhere is bloody closed !

Quick question for you ladies ?
Vaccine ? Anyone had it ? I'm hoping I get it soon, more so because I have asthma and I'm nervous as hell about catching it but so far I've been very lucky so far and haven't !

I'm wanting to not test too early this time round but I know I will and torture myself with non existent lines 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

Ah I feel like there's so much to reply to!

Sorry AF has arrived for some people 😔 I am sick to death of seeing AF and hope it's the last time any of us see her!

Ladies going through losses you are honestly the strongest people in the world ❤️ Sending you lots of love and healing thoughts, and if you're trying again as soon as possible I hope a baby isn't too far away Xx

Glad to hear things are going well for you @eloiseislost and hope the house move went well! 😊 Finding out the sex is exciting and a lovely milestone to reach.
Thank you for the tips @ComebackQueen that's really helpful and reassuring that we're doing the right thing.

@Dora202 I got all the information I needed from the lovely ladies on this thread! Needless syringe (1ml, 2ml, 5ml whatever you're comfortable with) clean pot, hips up afterwards! The rest is all bonus information.

@Janefx40 I love the idea of a graduates thread 🥰 then our lovely ladies can go wild talking about pregnancies and it'll give us somewhere safe and friendly to go when we graduate! I'll be crossing everything you get to have an IVF cycle and it's successful for you, I'm also hoping AF doesn't show for you and it's all unnecessary planning!

@Oilyoilyoilgob thanks for always thinking of everybody 😊 I stuck my head in the sand on mother's day. I'm going to try to touch base a bit more on this thread and stop pretending life isn't happening 😂 because clearly it is. What CD are you on? You properly inspired me as well as comebackqueen and I booked myself an acupuncture session 30th March with the view to having them once a week for at least 3 months... Or until I run out of money 😁 we do have a community one but it's for physio rehab patients only (or so I was told in a very rude reply I got from them!) So I'm going with someone my close colleague knows. I'm going to treat it as a spa session and something I do for ME once a week, which I've never had before. Usually my biggest treat is a lovely bath once a month so it'll be a nice change! Finally looking after my wellbeing. I'm glad to hear you are doing the same.

I've no idea where people are in their cycles right now sorry 😳 I've read through the posts several times but cannot retain that information.

I'm on CD11 with EWCM but a weak OPK. I don't usually ovulate for ages so we are going to SI tomorrow just in case, then start properly possibly on Sunday, OPK depending.

I've been feeling very negative about everything so I'm going to try to focus on not being such a moody cow 🐮 so here's to trying to be more positive ❤️

Hey ladies, just read through the last few days, I've been at work with long days so been a bit quiet of late x

On day off today. 🥳🥳

I had a dream last night that I was pregnant....Oh how I long for this cycle to be our cycle !

I honestly feel like it's never ending sometimes then boom another pregnancy announcement on my Facebook from a girl I know 🤦🏼‍♀️ happy for her but secretly pissed off that it's not happening for us yet !!

Anyway we decided to try the concieve plus vitimins this month to see if they help, 6 capsules a day ! Thankfully I don't have problems swelling capsules as they are freaking massive !! One set looks like a freaking Suppository!!

Anyway my hubby did an amazing job this time round, 7 SI !! Every day from the end of my AF until after my fertile window!

We had a spare sperm check kit so decided to try it last night....it came up as low ( on the cusp of normal) so we're thinking it because we have been doing so much the past week that it's dwindled his supplies so we have ordered another kit just to make sure that he's not running in to issues with regards to count and mobility of the swimmers x

I'm now 4dpo today fingers crossed 🤞

2am-6am I meant!

@Oilyoilyoilgob thanks, I definitely had my share of dairy milk yesterday lol. I wonder if you will ovulate later this month due to the cycle day changes? That’s what happened to me! Just need testing where possible, I do morning, afternoon and evening as it can change over a matter of hours.
Luckily I have that luxury at the moment as predominantly working from home.

Little update from me, I had a horrendous night last night with period pain and vomiting. I was awake between 2-6pm in crippling pain. I am wiped out today. I have spoken to the fertility clinic at my local hospital and my hycosy is booked in for 26th March. Very impressed with how quickly I was called back and booked in

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Sending everyone baby dust for this month/ cycle!!! Let’s see these BFPs again xx

Evening everyone.

@bigsweetpotato I’m just so sorry to read what you’re going through. I hope you’re alright, please keep looking after yourself during all those ups and downs, big hugs xx

@Makingnumber2 I will be thinking of you on Friday and sending lots of love through the airwaves. Not surprised there’s been loads of snotty tears, you just let it all out as a good release, much needed I’m sure. You’ve been ever so strong. Deep breaths over Easter, I’d have been telling people over Christmas so that brought up those pangs of being sad. But you’ll be ok 💚 Big hugs to you too. Sunday was ok, stayed off the news etc and we had a chilled day, I couldn’t see my mum as she was a bit unwell so had a relaxed day with husband 😊

@Sydney1986x boo to the period, I hope you enjoy as much dairy milk as you can fit in! That’s fantastic you’ll get your procedure booked in, loving your efficiency 💪🏻👏🏻

@Bizawit crossing fingers your period doesn’t come, thank you for posting that Mother’s Day picture-it’s nice to include everyone, even us mums of fur babies 😻

@eloiseislost oh that’s so exciting for you finding out the sex, you can say he or she then-so cute! Hope you’re feeling well 😊

@ComebackQueen I’m sorry to read you’ve been so poorly, I hope it doesn’t last for you and you feel better soon 💚 thank you for such a detailed write up, love it! I love the idea of positive affirmations in the tww, much kinder than wondering or worrying 😊

@Janefx40 I’m really wishing you the very best of luck for your blood tests and potential ivf, it’s really inspiring reading these stories of everyone starting to get the ball rolling and making me feel a teeny bit less apprehensive about starting that journey ourselves if needs be.

I won’t tag but PrimroseChill and MrsKin, thinking of you. Big hugs.

As of now, I still aren’t showing ovulation as per my opks, doing another one in a minute. A bit odd for me but I’m expecting in the next day or so. My period was 2/3 days early than normal this month so maybe I’m out of sync.
I have my acupuncture tomorrow which I’m looking forward to. Had an individual therapy session and a good couple therapy session, and have been good looking after myself, I’m hoping this will help tell my body that it’s safe to conceive. Mentally just starting to feel a teeny bit better after a tough few months.

My thoughts are with everyone on the thread and all the individual things happening, good and bad. 💚 take care xx

@Sydney1986x sorry to hear AF got you ☹️. Glad you have chocolate to hand. I’ll probably be joining you by the end of the week.

@Makingnumber2 good luck for the D&C. Most of what I remember from mine was how kind and uplifting all the staff were. I really hope you have the same experience ❤️

Hi everyone. I rejoined the thread and then went quiet again. I have been following tho.

It's lovely to hear good news @eloiseislost @AdriannaP @ComebackQueen maybe you could set up a "graduates" thread and the rest of us can join or follow if we want to see how you are?

@bigsweetpotato I'm sorry you have been through so much. Pleased you are feeling better. I found that I had ups and downs so keep being kind to yourself.

@Makingnumber2 best of luck for Friday. My D&C was fine (I secretly quite like an anaesthetic!). Obviously sad but procedurally fine.

As soon as AF shows in full force, I'm off to London for blood tests to see if I can start a fresh IVF cycle. Sadly SI hasn't worked for me but then we can't really conceive naturally anyway so it was never likely to. Always hope for a miracle. I'm hoping we can do an IVF cycle but at my age, it's quite likely that my hormone levels just won't be right so clinic may not let me go ahead. Will just have to wait and see.

Sending you all lots of love x

Ugh sorry AF has showed for you @primrosechill and @Sydney1986x sending you lots of wine and choc and Netflix series to help see you through.
@ComebackQueen so pleased to hear everything is progressing well for you- although sorry to hear about your HG. I had quite bad sickness in my first pregnancy but it wasn't HG and that was bad enough- I'm glad docs are trying to help with meds, although I found the nasty taste of having to dissolve them under by tongue/between gum and lip actually made me feel worse so I gave up on them. On the positive side it means your hormone levels must be super high and lots feel sickness is a good sign of a strong pregnancy.
Lovely to hear from you too @eloiseislost and so pleased to hear all is progressing well with your little blob . Will you choose to find out the sex of the baby with the results too or keep it as a surprise?

@bigsweetpotato I'm so sorry to hear all you've had to go through in the last few weeks- I can't imagine how you must have been feeling when a second bleed started. Sending you a massive hug.
@Bizawit what a lovely post- hope you were able to get through the day ok x

@Oilyoilyoilgob thank you as ever for your lovely words. I'm trying to be as pragmatic about it all but there has also been a lot of tears and snot behind the scenes. Par for the course I think. Hope you didn't find Sunday too tough x

I had my pre surgery scan and assessments done today so all set for the d&c on Friday. Feeling very anxious about it but know once it's done I will be able to start feeling closure about this whole unfortunate episode. I think I'm going to really struggle on Easter weekend too as that's the weekend we had planned to tell friends and family, just after the 12 week scan. It's lucky it's a day filled with chocolate really as I'll be able to drown my sorrows in easter eggs .

@ComebackQueen Hey, sorry to hear you are so poorly with HG. From what I have read it sounds absolutely horrendous. Thinking of you! Thanks for sharing you tips, I have bookmarked for this month.

Well, predictably AF has arrived today so CD1 here we go again... first thing tomorrow I will call the clinic to get my hycosy procedure booked between CD6-12 as recommended. Off to eat my feelings in dairy milk 😂 x

Hey ladies

I’m so sorry to hear some of the news from you ladies and won’t quote those that have decided to step away from the thread but just wanting to say I am thinking of you all and sending positive, healing and peaceful vibes.

I won’t be posting too many updates in case of upsetting anyone as this thread is for those that are trying to conceive. I’ve also just been diagnosed with HG and had to go into hospital for a drip, I am now signed off work until Easter. I didn’t think HG started until week 8 usually when morning sickness starts but the Hospital said some get it from a week or two after a BFP. I also have an IBD and migraine sufferer so I don’t know if that makes me more sensitive as I can vom normally if I smell something bad and it triggers the mother of all migraines.

I did want to share what I did for two cycles not properly but hope this helps. Probably won’t but in case someone hasn’t considered something I want this to be useful.

I started exercising and doing acupuncture from end of last year and went dairy and gluten free but it’s definitely acupuncture that I can credit with having helped with my periods, lighter and shortened my traditional long cycles.

As for SI I must confess we only had one load per cycle due to illness in January and work stress in February.

But in February I did the following once an opk showed me a strong line:
I used pre seed - 2mls inside me ten minutes before my expected SI. Also added 2ml pre seed into a sterile plastic sample bottle I ordered of eBay. The pre seed needs to get to room temp to match that off the sperm.

So whilst husband was assisted in providing a sample I was also getting revved up but I couldn’t orgasm because I needed that for later. Husband did his bit and then once I had his sample in a plastic sterile container and put lid on and stuck under my armpit whilst I laid under the cover. Needed 5 mins to liquidise the sperm so whilst husband continued to do things to me, sperm was under my armpit. After 5 mins I got a small medicinal syringe and drew up the sample.
I checked for air bubbles and when all looked ok, it was the main event. So I put the syringe in place (this takes a good few mins because of vaginismus) and when ready my husband made me well you know.... but whilst I’m reaching the O, I steadily and slowly start pressing to release the swimmers. I then shoved my feet in the air for 20mins with a pillow under my bum whilst husband’s services were dismissed LOL.
After 20mins I then went and peed and cleaned myself up.

However later on that night husband worked his magic hands again and for two days after even though we didn’t SI we made sure I orgasmed as sperm can survive up to a few days whilst waiting for the egg drop.

In the TWW I listened to positive affirmations and shortly there after I got my BFP.

I’ve got a long way to go and I know a few people on here are at their 12 week or nearing 12 weeks and did an early scan.

I am booking in end of the month for an early scan for reassurance too.

Hopefully this info is of use to someone and I hope each month I hear more and more BFP and those of us with a BFP I pray it sticks.

Baby dust to all you wonderful beings.

I’m now going to crawl back into bed - the medication I’m on for HG is at least keeping the vomiting away but I feel constant nausea.

@primrosechill I’m sorry to hear AF arrived for you 😖 she’s such a b*txh! Good luck with starting your journey with IVF, I feel the same as you.. I don’t know how I feel about it being offered.. I mean I will feel grateful of course for any help if needed but it does feel tough pill to swallow too. IVF is a really difficult and exhausting journey.. I am wishing you all the strength and luck, you’ve got this!!

@oilyoiloilgob thanks for your kind words, hope yesterday was ok for you too.

Hi @dora202 I looked at a range of searches ok google and mainly old mumsnet threads for ideas and support. Also lots of videos on YouTube explain the process, methods chosen etc and positive outcomes. Hope that helps, where are you at with your own journey?

@bizawat that’s a lovely thing you sent about Mother’s Day, resonates a lot 💗 thanks for sharing. And yes AF symptoms is just typical isn’t it lol.. still no arrival but very much feeling them! Hope the remainder of TWW speeds up for you.

@bigsweetpotato oh hun, reading that made me well up. I’m so sorry the meds didn’t work properly for you.. that it was such a drawn out and traumatic experience 😔 I hope you had some time to recover? Sending you all the baby dust your way for when it’s time and feels right to try again

@eloiseislost so lovely to hear all is well and hope the move is going well too!! Keep in touch and for those of us still struggling please stay posting as it’s nice as a reminder that this can and does happen 💜

Morning all. Missed out on a lot in the last couple of weeks it seems and haven't fully read all messages but hope everyone is ok!!

Update on me: finally feeling more normal. But the crazy news is that the MC meds didn't work properly - I thought they had!!! but two weeks later, I started getting a fever which hung around for a week. I knew something was wrong but didn't know what. I rang the hospital to check if I had an infection, hospital said probably not, check if you have covid!
So then I did a covid test (negative) and then, oh my god - started getting major crazy cramps, didn't know what was going on because in my head the MC had already happened - and then the MC naturally actually happened......... and it all finally made sense.... quite traumatic experience all in all but I am coming to terms with it (only a few tears now and then).
My body is finally back to normal-ish - no bloat and no swollen boobs, even lost a few pounds as a result of no bloat! I think my body getting back to normal has defo helped with coming to terms with MC - it was a real mind-F to feel preg but not be...

Will be waiting for next AF before jumping back on the bandwagon so see you all in a couple of weeks no doubt!! Good luck for everyone xx

@Sydney1986x sorry to hear your are feeling AF coming :(.

I’m 7dpo here.

Hello lovely ladies. I hope you all survived the day. One of my friends posted this message for Mother’s Day and I though lt it was lovely. I wish more people would post messages like this. ❤️

Hi everyone, Can I just ask which were the best websites you used to get all the information about SI?

Sending love to those who need it today x ❤️

@Makingnumber2 happy belated birthday! Wow you’ve really had so much going on, may I just say you have written with such dignity and strength throughout all of this and I really do wish you the best for your future cycles. I hope the next couple of weeks will be as ok as they can be.
Hopefully in a small way there will be relief for you as at least you have a clearer idea of what is happening and if you feel up to it can start trying again (without meaning to sound at all like I’m minimising you’re loss). Sending you big fat hugs 💚

@Sydney1986x I’m so sorry to read you think your period is on the way, that’s rubbish. Hope it’s not a bad one.
Good idea on staying away from social media, I don’t go on it and don’t want to see anything triggering today either!
Definitely get your doctor rang and give them your updated bmi-go you!

@primrosechill sorry your period came, how crap. I’ll repeat what I’ve put to making, you’ve shown such strength and dignity and I commend you on starting your ivf soon-I so hope it gives you your baby. Firmly with you on being in the ‘it won’t happen to me’ camp but there you go, it’s a campsite we’ll have to visit!

To all the ladies with their lovely little beans, I hope you and baby are happy and healthy 😊

Like others I’m sure on here today, it’s a mixed bag as I love celebrating my glorious mum but I do so wish I had a baby of my own or was pregnant right now. It’s tinged with sadness but we move on as time keeps ticking, and let’s hope it’s our turn soon enough ☺️
Take care everyone, have a love rest of this Sunday xx

Sending love to anyone finding today hard.

@Sydney1986x hello, I was going to write the same today: Today is tough. A lot of women on my social media have become mums recently so I’m seeing a lot of “first mothers day as a mum!” posts and it’s heartbreaking. For all of us trying to get pregnant and for all of us who have lost a pregnancy, it can be super triggering. Hope all of you are taking care of yourselves today ❤️

@MrsKin90 sorry for slow reply. You asked if my partner did anything in particular to improve his SA results. First and foremost, he cut out booze - hasn’t had a beer in over six months, wowza! He’s also running a few times a week and taking wellmen vitamins. It’s nice to know that men at least can impact their fertility somehow (another way in which nature favours men 🙄)

I’m on CD2 today. AF came with vengence yesterday morning with the intentions of ruining my weekend but I’ve decided not to let her. We’ve booked for IVF for the next cycle - it will be over a year since the miscarriage and we’re both desperate to try something new, we have a consultation/prep meeting scheduled two weeks from now. A part of me still hopes I get pregnant this cycle but I’m not exactly holding my breath. IVF is yet another thing (after mc) that I used to put in the “other women have these but it won’t happen to me” category - yet here we are!

I can sense how tired some of us on here are and just wanted to send some love today ❤️ seems like people are doing all the right things, though - blood tests, SAs, accupunture (I’m auper curious about the last one and maybe should give it a shot myself 🤔). Hang in there ladies - you’re all absolute rockstars xxx

Morning everyone,

I can feel aunt flow symptoms well on their way. Last night I had fever like symptoms, hot flushes and very painful boobs. Headache all day, had to go to bed at 9pm. This morning I’ve woke up with sore back, cramps and the headache is still there.

For the rubella jab, I was asked about this too- but only when it reached the fertility clinic triage, they wrote to my GP confirming my rubella status, BMI and chlamydia results. Which reminds me, I need to phone my GP to give my private results and update them with my BMI!

Today is such a weird one, I love celebrating Mother’s Day for my mum (although cannot properly do so this year due to COVID) and I also long so much to be a mother myself that social media feels really triggering this weekend. I am going to stay away from it!

Hope you’re all ok and sending love x

Hi everyone- just checking back in to see how everyone is doing.
@Sydney1986x and @Bizawit hope you're ok and surviving the never-ending TWW. Have everything crossed for you guys that there's a BFP at the end of it for you.

Great news about your bloods @MrsKin90. I think with inflammation markers they can be raised by something as minor as a cold, and as yours were raised so minimally it's unlikely to be an indicator of anything else. This is what I was told when in hospital many years ago by the doctor. 19 months is a long time and no wonder you're feeling fed up of TTC- I hope the BFP at the end of this long road is just round the corner for you.

@Oilyoilyoilgob the accupuncture sounds fab! I'm going to look into community ones in my area as I really like the sound of it. I think I would also be doing same as you in terms of just continuing with the TTC between vaccine doses if what you've read shows the risk to be minimal.

birdybird hope you're doing ok. I have no advice for you I'm afraid about NHS treatment for vaginismus. I thought there was someone on the thread who had had pyschosexual counselling/treatment for it but I can't remember who it was. Hopefully they'll be along to give you more insight into their experiences. I hope your cycle off is relaxing and you can do lots of nice things just for you. I've become very fond of a facemask of late- nothing special just the packet ones from Boots/superdrug. Makes me feel like I'm pampering myself

@Carol1980 the last cycle DH and I did we did SI every day of FW. It got us the BFP but obviously not quite the one we were hoping for.

@AdriannaP it's lovely to hear everything is going well for you and bump and I hope the same for you too eloise.

So I am/would have been 10 weeks pregnant this coming Tuesday. I've got the 2nd NHS scan (scan 4 in total) on Tues along with pre-surgery assessments for my D and C next Friday. Last Tues was my birthday and I spent the morning on the phone to BPAS trying to see if they could provide D&C sooner after NHS told me the day before I would need to have the 2nd scan etc. Not quite how I imagined my birthday but such is life! BPAS had a long waiting list, so I pushed again with EPU and they said the 2nd scan wasn't negotiable but they would book me in for D&C in advance of the scan. Weirdly it felt like a birthday present of kinds because it was like the gift of knowing all of this shit will finally be over so I can draw a line under it and move on. I went back to work 2 days this week which I'm pleased I did and due to appointments and surgery next week I'll only be in 2 days next week too. Think being busy has helped a lot. Work have been great too which has helped. I'm not sure what to expect in terms of cycles returning after D&C- but DH and I have agreed we will start trying again asap, so I guess I'll start doing OPKs 12 days after the surgery and see how I go.
Sending lots of love to everyone and hope you all have a lovely weekend xx

@MrsKin90 it’s great news on your bloods and the progesterone is only just off-with your PCOS and cycles not being regular could it be that? At least you’ll get your second reading to compare, and it’s fantastic you’re on your weight loss journey ready to start fertility treatment if needs be 😊 better to start stuff now then have lots to sort out later on (hoping you don’t need fertility treatment but if so you’ll be in tip top condition!)

Thanks for letting me know re ultrasound, I’ll be able to ask our gp next week what is our next step, she’s really lovely so I’m hoping we can get the ball rolling.
The mmr was something she checked, it seems we’re all getting different tests done! As rubella is so dangerous to a baby up to 20 weeks, the fertility clinic we called were very strict on that I’d need to show proof of immunisation or antibodies in a recent blood test. The nurse checked my records before my jab and seemingly I never had it, parents are really surprised as I had all my other vaccines and they’d never have opted me out.
I think we are going to try this month, from what I’ve seen online the results showed some babies had antibodies if their mum was given the mmr at up to 12 weeks gestation but no birth defects.
I’m doing my opks in case we do decide to go ahead.

I had an acupuncture needle in a finger on each hand, forearm, wrist, one in each toe, top of feet, middle of brows and one in each ear. Only one gave the tiniest of stings which she warned me of but even that was absolutely fine. They had music playing and one lady was already in and left, them another came in so only three of us there. Ill wrap up warmer as it was cool and windows open due to Covid, apart from that it was a lovely time!
I didn’t realise it was a community one until delving in their website, from next week I can decide to pay anywhere from £15-25 for a 20-30 min session. Maybe try googling community acupuncture and your county and fingers crossed you have some nearby!
I also have a massage treatment booked in from next month and I’m just really going to be nice to my mind and body. I’m really hoping that will help tell my body that I’m ok to carry a baby 🤞🏻

You do sound in good form and I really do hope you are, it’s such positive news on your blood tests and that you’ve got the ball rolling for any fertility treatments-great to be in control during a time that’s so easy to feel out of control! Sounds like you’re on the right track, I’m really happy for you xx