🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 5 🦕

@Annny27
So sorry it was a nagitive phone them today and book it in fingers crossed that if you get the tube test it happens for u after as I have heard so many positives from people who got it done, I think my fertility specialist might say to me but getting it done to look inside my urters more than anything else 💚

Okay had a massive cry, burst a blood vessel in my eye (joy) haha

I am thinking I have endometriosis tbh (see @fizzl.....I have moved on from ovarian failure now;) 😂)

But it's not normal to have spotting or stuff like that for so long!

Thank you 💚 @ELM7 I feel totally hopeless tbh

I am having the tubes test next month. They say ring on first day of period but tempted to ring today as I know it's coming tomorrow now

Bfn at 15dpo. So over this!

Period will probs arrive tomorrow 😥

@ELM7 that's really rubbish how dismissive they are! It can totally help to get a diagnosis because atleast then if you do ivf they will have a better understanding if theres 2 cervixes/ a complete split!

Sorry that they were dismissive :(

@ELM7 yeah felt like it took a lot longer to get my partners results plus with males results I feel it depends who you speak to on how they interrupt results. Some say certain measurements are good another says they should be better it’s a mind field

@ELM7
Sorry bot the gynecologist how rude of her to say all that, deffo nt nice hear that she could of been more helpful in the matter hope you can change and fine someone else willing to help I knw they see it every day and hear it all the time but everyone is different and still need to be treated so. 💚💚

@ELM7 omg Iv frustrated for you just after reading that. Where are you left at now? Waiting on sperm sample results? 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Well done you that’s brilliant. I’m trying to do the same don’t want to go back to gp and be told no can’t help till you lose weight struggling to get to my first stone tho hoping in the next two weeks I will have.

@happygolucky20 we too fell pregnant first month trying and I mc at only 6 weeks. I was so upset we had told my mum I was pregnant which I was so scared to do as we aren’t married and my mum is very traditional and devote catholic after the initial shock she was great we went out for dinner talked all baby things then we went back to her house and I went to the toilet and the bleeding started. This was August 2019 and as yet Iv never fell pregnant again. We haven’t tried consistently each month since then. I didn’t handle it well I had suddenly lost my dad two months before hand and it was all just too much. I was all for keep trying straight away I just wanted something positive to happen but my partner said no he didn’t think it was healthy for me and so we waited till the start of last year. We started having some tests at the end of last year but when my partner got his results the gp said to bin the tests stop tracking and just have regular sex and give it a year. So that’s what we are doing. It’s definitely helping me as I was so consumed all of last year snd it was affecting our relationship. We also bought a puppy last year and he’s been the best distraction from it all x

@happygolucky20
When people said to me relax it will happen I use to laugh but I can honestly say it really did from my loss in oct 219 I temp and that to August 2020 and stopped I fell the month after and lost on Oct again from I lost fell again in Jan I never took temp or anything so hand on heart I can say the relax approach is the best way to go it's hard been there 4 times but I will be taking the relax approach from now on in xx

@happygolucky20 I fell after 3 months the first time.....and now 15 months later and no bfp! It can really vary :(

@babyghirl haha the suspense 😂 I just cant face another negative so dont want to teat anymore haha

@27donfin yep when my boobs deflate I am always expecting af!

Thank you @27DONFIN and @Babyghirl. We threw the tests out this month and wont be repurchasing.

Can I ask @27donfin, how long have you been trying? We fell first month with the baby we mc'd so I am just so confused why after 8 months we are still not pregnant. Everyone just keeps saying "just relax, stop trying and it will happen" - how? How do we do this? haha

@babyghirl I am so sorry for your loses!!! Some months I am "relaxed" well I think i am :) I think I am for the first week and then that last week before the AF i become focused on it again.

@happygolucky20
My advice throw them out I have fell 4 times nt using them I have lost all 4 but the relax approach is the best thing you can do if u want to track take your temp I'm so sorry you find yourself here amoung the nut house but it's the best house you can be the support is amazing xx

@happygolucky20 sorry you find yourself here 💕 personally the best thing I did was stop using ovulation tests I felt it was just another daily reminder that it wasn’t happening for us and feeding into the feeling of being consumed by it all. I just go by CM and a week after my period I try make sure we dtd ever 2nd day.....not that it’s having much luck for us. But I don’t feel as emotional all month. Our Gp was the one who said to stop the tests and my partner agreed x

Hi ladies
I watched this thread last year following our mc in June but become slightly obsessed with TTC that I was told by my husband to step away from mumsnet forums. Anyhow, I am back. We are still yet to conceive and I am struggling but really don't want to become obsessed!
I took ovulation tests this month (Clearblue digital) and don't think I ovulated but I gave up after day cd13 as I find they drag me down...We also went for fertility tests in December and were given a clean bill of health and told by the consultant to throw the ov tests out but do you all swear by them? Just lost with what we do and how to let go of this gaping hole. When we were pregnant, no one from our friends were and now, every. single. one. is. and I feel such guilt that I cant give my husband one when all of his friends' wives can! Silly, I know.
Anyway, this is a rather depressing speech and not how I intended it to be!
@Annny27good luck !

@Babyghirl 🤣 thanks for the offer tho. Think it just through me as my boobs haven’t deflated usually il wake up snd they have and I know she’s coming. Awww well the cycle continues

@Annny27
I remember was it @nuggetlover27 said to us we told her to test can't tell us this and leave us hanging 😂😂😂😂😂 @27DONFIN
Sorry the witch got you I knw bot night sweats I get them on my period to a bottle of wine and loads of chocolate I would post u abit of my pie over but would be off my it got to u 😂😂😂😂 💚

@Babyghirl thanks I knew she was coming as woke up Monday morning with night sweats. Finish work in 5mins going home to eat shite. Always my response to it. Next month will be last chance of a baby this year. Just feel time is flying past and still not fell pregnant it’s pish

@27donfin sorry lovely ❤❤ always gutting every month that it happens xxx

@Annny27 @Babyghirl not this month for me Af had just arrived 😩

@babyghirl 😂😂 I'm waiting untill 16 or 17dpo because I have been burned before by false hope....!

My boobs are "full" but not overly sore and I have bloating and tmi....gas pains.

It could totally be AF symptoms so we will wait and see!

@Annny27
Omg go and test and thank you looking forward to it NO GO TEST PLEASE lol 💚

Pies look lush btw @babyghirl

That's true we are all nearly cycle buddies! @27donfin @babyghirl

So at 10dpo I had red blood like just on wiping one time which tapered off into brown spotting from 11-13dpo and now creamy cm at 14dpo. I SWEAR if AF is mucking around I will be so angry