🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 5 🦕

No 2021 baby for us my period has just arrived awww well here’s to 2022 x

@Annny27
Yep think we r in sync most months 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 gs but she still nt here lol.
@danisaui31
Yea takes the stress out of it all like did we do it enough lol and helps u to relax knowing you covered it all
@27DONFIN
Hello you pop bck in feels like ages from u where here 💚

@Annny27 so sorry to hear! That would be so special though, I really hope this happens for you.

@danisaui31 that can’t be easy. My partner and I are lucky our parents only knew about our pregnancy and they’ve never mentioned about trying since. Yeah I feels like it comes so easy to everyone else which adds to the frustration. Especially as I think a lot of people just take it for granted and don’t understand how it feels for those who struggle it’s a total head fuck. I’m so glad I founds these girls I don’t anyone else understand unless it’s happened to them.

@Annny27 sorry flo is here but I defo think 2022 is the year for you xx

Actually I would love a 2022 baby now @danisaui31 My mum (passed away when I was a teen) was 1962, I am 1992 and then maybe my baby can be 2022 ❤❤❤ so all 30 years apart

@Babyghirl No worries at all and wow how amazing would that be right if we all did conceive around the same time!!! I've been diary writing since January just every couple days and to track my cycle on paper so I can stick my opks into it. This is the only way I've been able to debrief all my frustration lol, so now that I can actually rant about something and get a response on how you all would approach the situation is a god send! That's good actually to have sex every two days, then I really don't have to worry because all bases are covered. I'll try that this cycle. Here's to 2022 babies for us all!!!

@Annny27 Yeah for sure, sometimes I'm in bed reading and my head starts nodding because I'm getting so sleepy hahaha saves the endless Google searching and I sleep at a decent hour now.

@danisaui31 ooh good idea with the book before bed- stops me googling ttc stuff haha. I might follow suit!

@babyghirl looks like we may be cycle buddies again! (Unless she stays away for you which I hope!)

Period arrived 3 days early! At 13dpo instead of the usual 15/16

Kinda annoying because now I will be ovulating on the day of hycosy/ potentially before which means maybe a missed month. Ahh well a time to relax haha

@danisaui31
Us ladies will all get r happy endings might nt happen this month maybe not even nxt month or month after that but when we do we will have so much love for that little baby cause we fought so hard to have them, just hope when it happens for us it happens around the same time so we can share the same support but only on a different level, this thread is like my wee virtual family alway here when I need a rant and we will be here when u need to rant aswell 😂😂😂😂😂😂, but yes do try and relax and don't let ttc take over cause timed sex deffo takes the fun out off it I don't track I just go with it now and have sex every two days so I know we have covered everything and it helps me to not stress out chin up you will get there when you least expect it 💚🍀 and thank you for your kind words 💚

@27DONFIN Thanks so much, I'm actually grateful to have come across this thread. I think what drives me crazy the most is that I'm the last girl in the family to have a child and now that I am married my family are constantly asking "when are you going to have a baby" etc and even though they aren't saying it in an insensitive way, it's like a slap in the face. Everyone sneezes and falls pregnant without trying, I just wish it was the same for me. We have been trying since the MC and it's just so frustrating not getting the BFP we hope for each month, but all we can do is be patient. Hubby is my rock, he always assures me that there is no rush and that things will eventually happen for us. That is such good advice though, I never want TTC to consume me so much that it takes over my relationship, so I'll always keep that in mind that's for that! Good luck with your TTC journey, baby dust from me to you always!

@Annny27 I think I will follow your footsteps and just relax as much as I can. I've recently began to make time to start reading books again in the evening before I got to bed. A couple chapters while I sip some herbal tea to end my night, I feel like it's "me time" and takes my mind off googling all of my symptoms. It's been a month since I've begun and it has really relaxed me, I guess thinking up scenarios about what I'm reading takes the pressure off my brain wondering why I'm not falling pregnant haha. A relaxed approach is what I aim to do in the upcoming months, I'll track my CM and test with opks when I think I'm about to O and see how things go from there. Baby dust to you, hope your rainbow comes along soon 

@kiwi17 You may think you are no shining example for TTC, but this entire group is. We have all had our dark days, yet still grasp for the light at the tunnel. In my opinion it just shows how strong we are, even in the moments we want to give up. I find that I'm fine when a new cycle begins but once I know I have ovulated I feel super nervous and after my first week in the TWW I drive myself nuts googling every single possibility for the little ache I felt in my back or the crazy bloating or spotting I've seen hahaha, I am my own worst enemy! I've never tried BBT tracking, I was going to try but feel like I'd be in your boat when I have my days off lol. I like my little sleep ins with no interruptions >.< I'll continue to try my hardest to take the relaxed approach for my next cycle, AF is meant to arrive in the next couple days. All the best for you girly!

@Babyghirl Hello! Since reading this thread from start to finish I was amazed at how optimistic and completely transparent you are! No one deserves to go through what you have gone and I am so sorry to hear about your loss's. Wishing you all the best with conceiving on your own or through IVF if conceiving beforehand does not work. Your little rainbow will be with you soon I'm sure of it! Thank you for sharing your story and assuring me this is a safe place to share my thoughts in, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my chest. Just being able to discuss how I feel to ladies who can relate to me makes me feel so light now!

@kiwi17
Sorry she on her way, but you did not waste 6 weeks you done your best and that ends with the sex it's up to r body's to do the rest of the work you done all you could onwards and upwards for nxt month you got this 💚🍀

@sweetbabydust1989
I don't test to I'm late either would rather c my period than a nagitive test lol but everything crossed for u 💚
@justwant2beamum
Everything crossed for u this cycle to my period just around the corner will properly be here bot 8 tonite as it always comes around that time lol 💚

Sorry you find yourself here @danisaui31

@Sweetbabydust1989 that sounds promising, that was a pg symptom for me, feeling soaking wet 😂 always thought it was AF so would go to the toilet and check and nope. And I don't usually get much cm normally. 🤞🏻 for you.

@kiwi17 sorry you're feeling rubbish - you didn't waste 6 weeks though as you were trying so you gave it your best shot. Baby dust for this cycle ✨

CD12 for me, first proper cycle post mc. I used to be 28/29 days with ov cd14/15. I got my first period 26/27 days post erpc so don't know if cycles are now a bit shorter as one app was predicting ovulation today, and I've had a high on opk. This is my first cycle with the easy at home opks, I had the one step ones before which were crap, could hardly tell my peak from my cycle when I fell pg in January but seemed quite a short surge. I'll keep testing hopefully see what's happening 🤞🏻

@Babyghirl I won't be testing for well over a week no point until I get a late period xx

@sweetbabydust1989
Could well be implantation fingers crossed that it is for you, but if it is leave it a couple of days to test as can take up to two days after for it to show up so I say Tuesday to test but you could do it tomorrow and then Wednesday 💚💚

@danisaui31
That is meant to be joining up lol 💚

@danisaui31
Sorry you find yourself joking us but glad you found us for support 💚 this thread is full off wonderful ladies all going through the same thing so no question is ever to much so ask away, this whole ttc journey can be a long one for some people but in the end we will all end up with r rainbow babies just taking us longer than normal to get there. I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp now been put on the waiting list for ivf but hoping I will not need it and I fall and carry on my own. 💚💚

@Babyghirl I am on cycle day 19 with a peak ovulation test on cycle day 12 flo app calculated ovulation on cycle day 13 xx

@sweetbabydust1989
Wait till the morning lol what cycle day r you on nw x

@Babyghirl oh I am only doing my job just for the verbal abuse over loo roll and pasta for a few weeks lol... I can't stop falling asleep poxy cramps are back that's spread to my back I wish I new how far past ovulation I was not even sure when to test xx

@sweetbabydust1989
You one off them hero's to without u everyone would of starved I don't see me as a hero thou I love doing my job, oh she deffo on her way feel the heavy period feeling 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 but you having loads of cm sounds promising thou xx

@Babyghirl so you're one of our bus heroes that have kept us all going... I work in a supermarket... I hope she doesn't turn up but I do find them to be a good clear out lol xx

@sweetbabydust1989
I work for the NHS so I do rota shift but today's overtime covering my mates shift she off and won't be bck she has lung cancer worked together for 19 years 💚 I'm due today and she on her was it norm starts bot 7 or 8 at night so will be here tonight lol hope yours does nt come 🙏🤞🍀💚 xx

@Babyghirl thank you lovely little gift... oh I am back tomorrow I don't work weekends I stopped doing them a little while back... well I am due on soon would be nice to know what's going on my CM usually dries up but nope I feel like I have wet myself lol xx

@danisaui31 welcome and sorry you have had to join us :( I am no shining example for a successful ttc- try to start off on cd1 being like ok this month will be relaxed and by 3dpo I'm googling every little symptom. I do use opks as find it hard to pinpoint ov otherwise but I only use them for about 5 days and once I get my peak I stop. I have dabbled with recording my bbt but to be honest I resent having to wake up early on my days off to match timings with my work days so my temps are quite patchy 😂 I don't know whether relaxing comes with time or whether some people are just better at being chilled about it but I would love to know the secret! @Annny27 tell me about it - sorry to hear about you. I'm completely out now, my bbt did drop this morning and af has fully arrived now. Feeling fed up and miserable about it not working straight away and having essentially wasted 6 weeks since the mc and any supposed 'extra fertility'... oh well I'm sure once the hormones subside I'll be a bit more rational sorry for the rant! Even more annoyed that we are going away for the first time in ages tomorrow to stay in a cottage and see my parents outside (They live 6 hours away so haven't been able to see them throughout the mc) and now I'm going to be miserable bleeding and in pain the whole week. It all just feels very unfair :(. Anyway rant over!