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Will he ever want a baby?

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Genevive123 · 16/01/2021 17:01

I’m in a bit of a crap position at the moment, I’ve been with my boyfriend 5 years now and we’ve had countless arguments about the fact I’m so desperate to be a mum and him not being ready. 6 months ago I said to him, look I need you to know I’m ready and I can’t wait forever

6 months later and I’m still terrified to bring up wanting a baby? Think it’s coming to the end of me being able to wait for him now :( anyone else been in this situation? i adore him but I just can’t wait forever it’s breaking my heart

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Screwcorona · 16/01/2021 17:14

I think you need to make it very clear to him that you will leave if he doesnt want a child now/very soon.

It's possible that he doesnt realise that is what you mean. In my personal experience of men you have to say exactly what you mean

LivingMyBestLife2020 · 16/01/2021 17:12

You are still very young with potentially 15 good years of childbearing, but that isn’t the point. You want a baby and he won’t answer.

It’s a tough one as both of your choices are valid but I’d say, if you can’t decide either way by the end of this year, it’s time to move on

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Genevive123 · 16/01/2021 17:07

@AldiIsla you’re right and although I’m only 25, for some people it can take years to get pregnant, I want to make sure I have enough time to have children 😢

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AldiIsla · 16/01/2021 17:06

Regardless of how old you are, he probably has more time left than you to have a baby. If you want a baby don't throw your fertility away waiting for one man.

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Genevive123 · 16/01/2021 17:05

@Screwcorona I’m 25 now and he’s 28, he didn’t say he’d give me an answer in a specific time but I keep waiting for him to say he’s ready and it just doesn’t happen.. it’s really upsetting

He says he wants children he loves children but I just don’t understand, if it’s that he just doesn’t want one with me then he needs to leave and let me move on, he knows how much I want to be a mum, he can see it’s hurting me!

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Screwcorona · 16/01/2021 17:04

You definitly need to talk to him about it again either way, you need to know as it's important and if he doesnt you need to have time to find a partner who does that you're happy with

Screwcorona · 16/01/2021 17:02

How old are you? Did he say he would give you a decision within a specific time?
Do you think he doesn't want one at all?

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