New Cycle starting 13/01/21

Okay ladies I need some advice... obviously I had my strange evap line situation the other day at 8DPO and then had stark negatives at 9DPO (FMU and in evening). Tbh, I’d kind of given up hope for this cycle at that point, but now I’m in the mood to test again🙈 I think I’m due on Sunday, but AF could arrive any day since I think I ovulated later than normal. I’m currently 11DPO, should I test tomorrow morning (12DPO) to just put me out of my misery of it being negative, or wait and potentially get my hopes up more?😭 @KeepSmiling89 @Amz6219 @thislittlebird @2020mission

I've not tried EPO @thislittlebird I think I should give it a go next cycle actually. Might be too late to get on it now 😅

@purplepoppet92 I've attached the grapefruit juice I drink every cycle from AF ending until ovulation. Please be warned it tastes awful 😆 but I think it does help me produce more EWCM! It smells lovely but tastes bitter.

I just went for the “I’m over 35 and have been trying for over six months” angle. I’m not sure how quick they are with other routes to tests @2020mission. Fingers crossed it does happen soon and you can relax.

I’ve also got grapefruit juice in the fridge for when I get to that stage of the cycle again lol. It’s supposed to increase EWCM @purplepoppet92. I’ve got that and I’m taking EPO for the first days of the cycle before ovulation.

@2020mission .... what is this about grapefruit juice??

@purplepoppet92 I'm on CD5 so not tracking anything yet. Will start in a day or so. Just on the grapefruit juice once a day for now to try and get more fertile CM

How many of us are onto the next cycle now? I'm now on CD8, so going to start tracking ovulation in the next few days!

@thislittlebird yeah you half want them to find an issue so they can give you something to help, don't you? 😅 although it's great if they say the results look fine but you would be like... what now? What angle did you go with when you first booked in to speak to a GP? I'm not sure whether to go straight in with fertility trouble after TTC for over a year without success or whether to book in with menstrual health/spotting concerns as they might see me sooner with the latter. Still hoping it will just happen before I need to book in 🤞at least we're still under 40, it could be worse!

Not 2021, I mean 2020 up there. Can’t keep up with the years lol.

I’m 37 @2020mission (38 this year) and started when I was 36. It’s weird, I just took it for granted because all my friends were pregnant in a few months.

So far the tests aren’t bad which is good (although still waiting on some repeat 21 day test results from last week). Just need to keep trying and then probably do some more tests in a few months right now.

Aww @thislittlebird yeah it's hard going. How old are you? I'm almost 33 so don't feel like I have time on my side either 😅 I thought it would just happen and I could have 2 by 35. So naive! I'm glad you've been getting some tests though hopefully they can help.

Argh sorry @KeepSmiling89 :( I have always had a few days of brown spotting before period but I have had surgery for endometriosis so I think it was connected to that.. who knows! I always count CD1 as red blood too (TMI too! :))

We have been taking the his & hers pregnacare conception vitamins and I genuinely think they were a help.. also did a sort of version of SMEP x

You’re quite similar to me then @2020mission. We started October 2019 but stopped the first few months of 2021 because I was ill and then covid kicked in and we weren’t sure what to do. Started again in the Spring.

Yeah, the losing hope thing is so rough, I haven’t had a single BFP in that time so started the fertility tests in the summer and then did some more in the past few weeks. I would be less worried if I was a tad younger...maybe lol.

@KeepSmiling89 aww sorry about your MMC but that's a good sign you got pregnant after only 4 months before. Hopefully won't be too long until you are again!

@thislittlebird I've been TTC since January 2020. I have had 2 chemicals since then. The first on my first month trying and my last BFP/chemical was in August so it's been 7 cycles in a row of BFN and I'm slowly losing hope.

On the temperatures, I've definitely found mines to be quite erratic even when taking them within the same 30 min timeframe each day. I'm still hoping it might be down to waking up with my mouth open some mornings.

It’s been so frustrating because the time I take them just went to pot as soon as I was anxious. Now they’re at 4/5/6/7am and it’s a mess. Was planning on doing three months but not sure I’ll manage it because I’m not really learning anything if I can’t do them at the same time, you know? It’s frustrating.

How long have you been trying now? @2020mission

@thislittlebird I'm with you there the temperatures do add stress 😅 I'm only on my second month charting so I'm sticking with it for at least a few cycles so I can show the GP when I finally get around to speaking to them about fertility.

Aww sorry AF is on the way @KeepSmiling89 I spot every month for anywhere between 2-5 days before AF 😑 it only started when I started TTC in January 2020 too... or at least before then it would have been spotting the day before maximum. It's like streaks or dots of red/pink CM when wiping for me so I find it easy enough to know when AF is here because it changes to heavier and with cramps. As soon as you need a pad or tampon it has to be classed as AF.

How long have you been trying for now?

Morning! @KeepSmiling89 eh, that sucks, but you still have a few days yet I guess.

I’ve never been a spotter and until very recently my periods were always the same 5 day pattern starting and ending light. That changed late summer or early autumn last year and now they’re light throughout for more like 4 days .

AF is due to arrive today for me. I don’t want to see her but it certainly feels like she’s on her way and it’s felt like that for days now.

Taking my temps the last few days has been a nightmare because I’m so anxious about them. No idea how long I was solidly asleep for last night either because I started trying to shout in my very weird dream and my husband woke me up because my dream shouting was some demonic noise in real life that made him think I was unwell 😂.

Ended up taking my temp at 4.30am when he got up for work and it was lower than yesterday but it was also three hours earlier and might be a fair bit higher if I’d taken it at the same time. I’m baffled by temps right now because I just haven’t achieved consistency over this last stretch. Tempted to skip temping next month and just do the CB monitor.

Fingers crossed for you @thislittlebird!! Oh that’s such a kind offer @Amz6219 but honestly I think I might try next month not tracking anything. I know I’m only on month 3 but I obsess so much over tracking every little thing that I think I just want a month of seeing what happens! I mean, I say this now and I’ll probably be tracking everything by the time it comes to CD1 again! It’s the thought that counts right?😉 @KeepSmiling89 I’m at work still as I work in a secondary school, so have half term next week so not really going to do much apart from chill out and maybe some baking! Really trying to keep active during this lockdown though! I’m so glad I’ve found this thread as I’m sort of the first one really out of my friends that is trying so I don’t really have any ladies to talk about it with!!

Ooooo that’s promising @thislittlebird 🤞🤞

Would anyone like (for free of course) an unopened box of CB digital dual hormone OPK? I had a new box delivered last week ready for next cycle but hoping if this sticks then I won’t need! Can happily send out to someone x

What a name lol @KeepSmiling89

I’m very unoccupied other than work (at home) and I don’t think it helps this process. I had a personal trainer before Christmas but stopped because I wasn’t utilising the time so well (got married in October and had him for a few months before that and then continued but it didn’t work as well when I wasn’t motivated, seemed like a waste). Think I’m going to restart C25K when the weather gets a bit better, I was up to week 5 before Christmas.

Other than not exercising we’ve mostly been cooking and getting fertility tests 😂. I want to read more but I’m struggling to focus right now.

Oh btw, my temp went up again today . I’m convinced it’s just fucking with me and will crash tomorrow when AF arrives, we’ll see.

😂😂 excellent name choice!! I love Big Bang!

WFH but I don’t find it a good distraction because I have so many sticks round the house that I can wee on 😂 running too and chasing round after my maniac son! Curly girl method epically failed for me so I’m back to standard messy bun! X

🤞🤞 @mollyaimee - still early, definitely give it a few days (easier said than done!) x

@Amz6219 tried an frer this morning and tonight and still completely negative😭 thinking I’ll just wait a few days and see if AF shows up and if she hasn’t shown by the weekend, I’ll test again with a different brand again🤞🏼