TTC #2 over 40

Everyone am having a panic that I have done something very stupid and I wanted to see what you all thought.

My cycles were just getting back to normal after stopping bfing my DD and in a bid to increase cervical mucus I followed the advice on cervical mucus.org which says take 3 to 4 1500mg a day of evening primrose oil tablets. I did that for 3 days from day three I think then researched on Mumsnet, had a panic attack as I realised I was taking far too much and epo can also delay ovulation. Stopped taking it immediately.

So I use clearblue ovulation tests that give you estrogen surges and lh surges and so far I have had an estrogen surge on day 10 and lh surge on day 14 or 15. Today is day 11 and no estrogen surge. Have I totally messed up my cycle? What do you think?

In the Telegraph today. Hope it provides some hope.
www.telegraph.co.uk/family/life/people-say-women-40-old-become-mothers-couldnt-wrong/

@Lastyearttc @Mattieandmummy thank you for your replies.
It was something like: the balloon can’t get wedged in enough to build up dye pressure (obviously not said in this way!). Need to wait for results but I don’t think it had the effect of a jet-wash- like they kept saying it would.

Just one extra frustration.

On the ubiquinol I take pharma nord, expensive and it’s impossible to tell if it’s helping.

www.pharmanord.com/news/it-starts-with-the-egg----no-1-bestseller-on-amazon

@Mattieandmummy thanks for replying.
I am recovering from a miscarriage. I think my egg quality isn't great as I had a miscarriage at 2019. I will be trying natrually again. I thought ubiquinol benifited those embarking on ivf.
I hope to see a gynaecologist soon who I hope can help.

@cashewcookie I also had a HyCoSy a few weeks ago, it was fine a bit uncomfortable but nothing to write home about either. It was clear apart from mild adenomyosis 😬, I think only a little bit of fluid came out afterwards - nothing major. I hope it did some good 🤞

@extrahotcoffee I take 600mg a day split into 3 doses as I read your body struggles to process more than 200mg a time and I buy it online. I don't think you can get a prescription for ubiquinol on the NHS - it's not cheap either.

There's a book called 'It all starts with an egg' which talks about supplements and the reasoning and studies behind taking each, I thought it was a fairly convincing read. Might be worth having a look, helpful for any sperm issues too.

@Cashewcookie I had a hycosy last cycle, and only a little fluid came out after, which was clear actually... so not sure I particularly felt flushed out either! Have since had a period too so didn't catch. On the upside, at least I know the anatomy is all ok down there!

Hi ladies,
I noticed some of you ladies have recommended ubiquinol, did your doctor prescribe it? If not, how did you know what dose to take and what if it does more harm than good ! Older mum here x

Hello everyone- so I decided to go for the HSG and it really was not as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was terrified, but it was largely painless.

But it did fail, as the dye kept coming back out (not necessarily because of a blockage I was told but probably a cervix issue). Am disappointed that I might not have had the “clean out” I was expecting.

Anyone else has this?

Hi everyone, hope it's OK to join a thread this late, but we have just restarted trying to conceive our second child and it's really helpful to read others' experiences. We had our son in Nove 2016, then delayed trying for a second for a bit as my dad passed away when my son was only was 5 months old, following a long illness. We started trying in 2018, but I had two miscarriages in 2019, the second quite dramatic and drawn out (at 9 weeks) and started treatment at a recurring miscarriage clinic (I'd had a third before my son was born). Unfortunately then my husband started suffering from depression and started a course of antidepressants. Although they assured us they wouldn't affect us trying to conceive, the tablets made this impossible, so for the past year we have been unable to try for a baby. This has been really difficult, especially as during this time I've turned 40! Thankfully, my husband's managed to come off the antidepressants now and we are in the first month of trying to conceive again. Currently in the 2WW zone, with everything crossed.

So progesterone still flipping low this month, I was so hopeful too. Had ewcm for the first time since having my daughter, actually felt hungry for first time in forever and ovulation moved back ..... I had really hoped to do this myself and seems so flipping unfair my hormones still haven't sorted themselves out since stopping bfing. So fed up with stupid hormones.

Sorry just needed a bit of a rant.

I think I'm just going to have to accept that I need / have go on lutrazole

@Jem1979 I’m a chocoholic too but have been trying for a while to cut down as my energy levels are so much better when I eat less chocolate. Giving up all sweet treats (bar once or twice a week) will be tough but I figure it’s only for 6 months or so then if it hasn’t worked I’ll sack it off and eat what I want! 😄

@Jem1979 the feeling of a negative test and then a missing period, is very similar to getting a positive test and than spotting. :(

@Jem1979 Morning! I’m 9dpo today but not holding out much hope this month as only managed to DTD once in my fertile window. Again! I’ve paid for a personalised nutrition plan though so am just going through the bumpf now and then will head to the supermarket to stock up! The list of supplements though - oh boy! It’s going to cost an absolute fortune!

Morning @Jem1979 I’m dpo14 I think and anxiously waiting for AF to show up after what I thought was a squinted of a line followed by a BFN this morning.

@99pctpractice gosh- so exactly spot on. It’s really strange to me that anyone would stick their neck out and say: you’ll never ever conceive. Particularly given neither dh or I have zero results. Of course there’s never a guarantee of conceiving, at any age- but to dishearten someone is cruel.

I just think some medical professionals get hardened hearts. Thinking they’re doing you a favour, when really, they simply have no bedside manner.

As everyone says. It takes one single sperm (out of millions sometimes) and one egg. She shouldn’t be making a decision for me, I should have made the decision to stop myself.

Thanks for your message. Xx

Got a peak today at CD14 on Clear Blue Digital. How is everyone else going?

Happy Saturday @Jem1979 I’m CD 13 and got a second high today on the opk. Waiting for the peak. DTD since CD 9. I’m sorry AF is on her way. Wishing you best of luck this next cycle.