TTC #2 over 40

Hello Ladies. I’ve done my day 21 progesterone blood test, will see what it shows. Deeply inside, I am starting worrying that it’s not happening, so wondering if I should try an acupuncture for a relaxation etc. Need somehow to relax. But some days I am very hopeful too @Jem1979
Good luck @Twothirtyam with testing! Hopefully it’s a real positive test.

@Jem1979 sorry I’ve only just seen this don’t seem to get notifications reliably! How are you feeling? AF is the worst I hate how we have to have a period as well as not being pregnant!
I’m 13dpo today and just got a very faint positive on a pregnancy test. Although I’m not getting excited about it beyond being happy that I managed to time sex properly! I feel quite crampy and boobs are getting less sore so there’s every chance it’s a CP but it’s just nice to know that I’m still popping eggs out 😊

@99pctpractice if you know you will regret not trying, it’s worth trying IVF. If it doesn’t happen at least you will know you did everything you could. But of course, fingers crossed that it works for you.

@Jem1979 glad that stopping opks has made you more relaxed. i use ava, and it definitely puts more pressure on when you think you should be in the fertile window.

@GingerFox2021 i had a fertility consultation recently and she recommended "Co-enzyme Q10 200mg
three times a day, Vitamin D 1000 units as well as Omega 3 and fatty fish oils as well as Folic Acid
400mg as per the recommended guidance for pregnancy". i don't think this was specific to me at all, it was just generic guidance for what supplements to take, in case that's helpful. on the packet of ubiquinol it says not to take it if you're pregnant. do others who take it just take it from AF to ovulation date and then stop during the TWW?

she also said given my relatively low AMH levels (2.7), our chances of conceiving naturally are c.10%, so we're now considering IVF. though my husband also raised the possibility of not trying for a second today. That may be because we just spent the weekend with friends who have an angelic first child and a less than angelic second (!), but i think it's also because IVF is so expensive and there are no guarantees of success. i do think we would regret not trying for a second, but it's just so depressing getting my period every month, and i can imagine it would be even more depressing having paid a small fortune to give ourselves a better chance of a bfp :o(

@Jem1979 yes I am on the edge to try Ubiquinol- can’t really decide as I am not into self-prescribing supplements but might give a go.
@Twothirtyam you know, the age gap is no longer important for me as long as I get pregnant at all.
My sleep is also disturbed, so I don’t see point of temping really. I might be 2DPO, but kind of guessing.

@Jem1979 you’re right about the age gap I don’t know why I always get so worked up about it. Especially as there is a 7 year gap between me and my brother and like you we’re really close too!

Hi @Jem1979 good idea not to use ov sticks. It would definitely make me more relaxed too but as my cycles are irregular by up to around 10 days and my partner doesn’t have a very high sex drive I’m stuck doing sticks and then ordering him to perform when necessary! 😂
I’m 3dpo at the moment and this is the first month in the last year we’ve been trying that I feel we’ve actually given it enough of a shot. So I’ll be so disappointed if nothing happens at all. Sounds stupid but I’d rather a CP than a big fat nothing as then I know I’ve ovulated and timed it right. I would temp to confirm but my sleep is often disturbed so I don’t see much point! I did have my second vaccine though this month. Not sure if that has any impact!
@GingerFox2021 I am taking ALL the supplements since the last month and boy is it expensive! I figure after a few months if nothing has happened I’ll stop most of them. I’m feeling very desperate for something to happen which I know isn’t a helpful mindset but I just can’t help it! My daughter is nearly 4 and I’m worrying about the ever increasing age gap if it were to happen now. Gah!

Hello @Jem1979 feeling positive during my fertile week and not so positive later. Mixture of feelings. Thinking maybe to start some supplements 🤷‍♀️🤔

Hi @Jem1979 doing ok here. Am CD3. And waiting for fertile week next week.
Feeling positive... that it will happen sooner or later.

@Mattieandmummy I’m ok. 9dpo (or maybe 10 dpo) and no pregnancy symptoms so far. Spent a bit of time investigating the Ava bracelet today but I think I’ll stick to opks and temping. How are you?

Hey @birdbybird, I'm not far behind you at 6dpo. How are you getting on?

How is everyone going? Am 9 or 10dpo at the moment.

@CattleOnBikes I feel the same, sometimes it looks that it won’t happen again, sometimes I am really positive that it will happen when I won’t expect anymore. Sometimes I’m sad and upset, sometimes i am okay and feeling positive. Mixture of feelings. But that time is not on my side upsets me most.

Hi, do you mind if I join too? I'm 42 and trying to conceive #2. I conceived two years ago and now have a 17 month old son but it took around 15 months. My partner had an SA which showed that he has slow swimmers and that added to my age doesn't look very promising. Now it's coming up to a year TTC our second without any luck. No sign of a bfp and af turned up today. I keep going from thinking it will never happen again to really positive thoughts. I recently read that Jo Brand had two daughters when she was 43 and 45. A friend of a friend had her first at 45 and another friend had hers at 43 so there's still a bit of hope. Just wishing you all good luck and fingers crossed we get our bfps soon.

@Jem1979 glad your cycle is back 👏

@birdbybird yes let's! I am slightly behind you by a few days I think (flashing smiley face means the test is picking up the estrogen surge before the lh surge). But I may not be the best cycle buddy as I never early test - I can't take it if its a negative result, I'd rather let my temperature tell me pre-period then at least I've got a day to get used to the idea before af

Hey @Mattieandmummy I’ve also had a peak fertility yesterday so we may be cycle buddies

Update: estrogen surge this morning so hopefully it's all ok