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Anyone else first month ttc?

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Grace185 · 11/01/2021 15:58

Hi guys.

I’m new here, I’m 29 (30 in May) and my boyfriend is the same. We had decided to start ttc in June time 2021 but over Christmas we both decided to ‘roll the dice’ once before and started having unprotected sex this month. I came off the pill in October time as I didn’t get on with it AT ALL.

I use Clue but only had two afs before this cycle so not sure how long my cycle actually is. We dtd most days over when the app said I was most fertile and it aligned with the cm too. I’m dry not (tmi) so I assume I’m passed it now!

With a 30 day cycle I had last month I’m due af on the 22nd but with and 35 day one (which I used to have before the pill I’d be ov around today but cm isn’t having that, well dtd anyway just in case. Then wouldn’t except af until the 27th. I’m willing it not to arrive and have decided to not even contemplate a test until the end of the month if af hasn’t arrived.

Just wondered who else is trying and in the first few months? I can’t help but reading everything I can find about early signs and feel like when we start trying properly in the few months I might go crazy!!

How are you finding it?

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Rmd123 · 04/02/2021 09:31

@lucea87 hi! Just read about your 9 days of flashes. I had 8 days and I said I'll do one more then stop and I got my peak. My ClearBlue app was telling me to start testing on CD6 maybe to figure out when I'm ovulating. No harm in trying one more! 😊

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Grace185 · 04/02/2021 09:24

Sorry to hear about af @pbdr!

And welcome @pixiedust21 :) we’re just seeing how it goes at the moment too. I think opks will make me go crazy. After this month we are having a bit of a break to avoid Christmas/January babies so I think I might use them in those months to see when I actually ov but not having the extra pressure of dtd at the right time!

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lucea87 · 03/02/2021 20:07

@pbdr oh no, rubbish. On to the next month though!!
@pixiedust21 fingers crossed!!

It's gonna be about 12/13th March for me now HmmShock

pbdr · 03/02/2021 19:49

I had been planning on testing on Friday (D14PO) but unfortunately got my period yesterday so I'm out

pixiedust21 · 03/02/2021 19:46

@lucea87 I'm testing Saturday assuming AF doesn't arrive by then! Anxious few days wait!

lucea87 · 03/02/2021 19:38

Is anyone testing soon? Maybe we should keep a record of who is testing when?! I've seen people do that before on threads. I didn't do an ovulation test today after the 9 flashys but I am now all set for next cycle!

mrssunshinexxx · 03/02/2021 12:55

See how it goes and how relaxed you want to be @pixiedust21 I started off just using an app like that and going off their predictions but they were out by about 6 days when I started using opks !

pixiedust21 · 03/02/2021 12:05

@mrssunshinexxx hi thank you :) no we haven't been properly tracking this month it's been more a "let's see what happens". I use the Clue app to track my cycles so can sort of see when I'm ovulating roughly but may start tracking properly with ovulation sticks from next month.

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Grace185 · 03/02/2021 08:34

Oh no sorry to hear that @mrssunshinexxx but agree with @lucea87 that there’s no harming in having fun and seeing :)

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mrssunshinexxx · 03/02/2021 07:46

I will @lucea87 x I managed to not feed the baby through the night last night for the first time so if I can carry on and wean her overnight I have spoke to a few people whose periods came back once they did this 🤞

Welcome @pixiedust21are you tracking ovulation?

pixiedust21 · 02/02/2021 21:12

Hi ladies can I join? Finally joined MN after a long time lurking.

It's our first month of TTC our first. I told myself I'd be super chilled about it... haha... period due this week and I am counting the hours and days and analysing every symptom!! Confused

Not sure if it will be hard for us - sometimes I feel a bit old at 34 almost 35, and DH 37! I'm not the fittest of people and although trying to look after myself I am overweight.

It's such a crazy ride already. Trying to relax though (at least externally Wink)

lucea87 · 02/02/2021 21:04

@mrssunshinexxx

I wanted to feed her until she's 2 as I've researched a lot and factually it's really really good for them. *@lucea87* is this your first month TTC I wonder why you haven't ovulated ?
I think/hope I have but missed it because of doing 2 tests later in the day because I forgot. First month this month yes. Cross everything for me next month!!
mrssunshinexxx · 02/02/2021 19:35

I wanted to feed her until she's 2 as I've researched a lot and factually it's really really good for them. @lucea87 is this your first month TTC I wonder why you haven't ovulated ?

pbdr · 02/02/2021 19:30

Just started my period (D11PO) so I'm out too :(

lucea87 · 02/02/2021 19:25

Fingers crossed. See what happens. How much longer did you want to BF for?

I got flashy again this morning so that's me out. Just sitting sight for AF now, she's defo on her way as I am moody as F.....WinkGrinConfused

mrssunshinexxx · 02/02/2021 16:27

@lucea87 yes will carry on but not getting hopes up til my period returns

lucea87 · 02/02/2021 15:58

@mrssunshinexxx

So I spoke to the doctor she basically said the bleeds I have had the last 6 months are withdrawal bleeds not periods and that I'm very unlikely to get pregnant whilst still breastfeeding as much as I am. Feel really sad as nothing I can do I don't want to stop BF
Oh no, so sorry. Is it worth continuing to try and just seeing what happens?xx
mrssunshinexxx · 02/02/2021 12:58

So I spoke to the doctor she basically said the bleeds I have had the last 6 months are withdrawal bleeds not periods and that I'm very unlikely to get pregnant whilst still breastfeeding as much as I am. Feel really sad as nothing I can do I don't want to stop BF

lucea87 · 02/02/2021 07:50

Morning girls hope you're all ok. I'm about to drag myself up to go test. I did my maths wrong. Today will be day 9 of flashy if it's flashy today. It will be. I've got a few solutions...

  1. I didn't ovulate
  2. I did 2 tests late as I forgot first thing so missed it
  3. I ovulated early & will come on today
  4. I've not ovulated yet and will ovulate today.....!!!

Think next cycle I'll keep testing but DTD every other day for 2 weeks if we can. My OH starts a new job on 15th though after 3 months off after being made redundant so he's gonna be knackered.....!

How are we all doing?

mrssunshinexxx · 02/02/2021 07:46

If you don't do today do tomorrow @busyfizzy x

busyfizzy · 02/02/2021 06:39

So my LH surge was Sunday.. Had baby danced Sunday night and Monday night. Is it safe to have a day off today 😂 working super late.. So if not ill have to get hubby to wait up! Lol! Xxxx

busyfizzy · 02/02/2021 06:38

Good luck I hope it goes well xx

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Grace185 · 01/02/2021 20:52

@mrssunshinexxx hope your call goes well tomorrow. Let’s us know what they say :)

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mrssunshinexxx · 01/02/2021 18:48

That's irritating @lucea87 I had 5 flashy smileys last month then gave up and just dtd as I thought I could feel ovulation I mentioned to my gp friend and she said the flashing days are basically pointless but if that's the case why isn't there just static and solid smile ??
I've got a call with the gp tomorrow to discuss the effects of breastfeeding and TTC I really hope I'm just having one dodgy month then I'll go back to like clockwork and conceive a little sibling flr my little girly

lucea87 · 01/02/2021 16:14

I've felt like I can feel AF coming all day today which is weird....!