Pregnant after miscarriage

@Busybee93 I've booked several scans on the day, or moved later booked ones to the same day as well so you're not the only one doing late booking scans for peace of mind! Hope all goes well x

@Daffodil21 I imagine there will be relief when you manage to feel him. I keep telling myself that will be the change for me..

Have booked a scan for today to take the edge off!

@Busybee93 no I can't feel him yet. I have anterior placenta so it delays movements. The midwife said she would expect me to start feeling things in a week or so, so fingers crossed. I've got an appointment with the midwife in a couple of weeks where she'll use the Doppler to check the heartbeat again, so that will hopefully delay when I next book a scan. But I will certainly be having some more.

If you need them for peace of mind then just have them. Make it sooner than 16 weeks if you need to

@Daffodil21 oh wonderful news!! So happy that you're able to hopefully begin enjoying this crazy journey somewhat now. Do you think you'll still want regular scans or can you feel baby moving now?

I've already had 6 scans including my two NHS ones so just worried about where I'm going to draw the line! I've booked a scan in for 16 weeks but it's going to be tough trying to wait until then.. three weeks and counting 😩

@Busybee93 I didn't - I had 3 private scans and a Doppler check with the midwife between 12 and 20 weeks! I had my 20 week scan on Thursday and thankfully all was well. We've now done a SM announcement - I wasn't too worried about it but I know my husband has been wanting to for ages, but I wouldn't let him before 20 weeks. We've also bought some furniture off marketplace and some baby clothes but it still doesn't feel real at all. So glad your 12 week scan was ok!!

@unicornpower also wondering how you're doing?

Hi @Daffodil21 @unicornpower how are you both getting on? I stepped away from MN for a while because the anxiety was a lot but had a good 12 week scan and am now 13+5!
I have to say anxiety is back though... how do you stay sane and measured between 12 and 20 week scans?! The worry is unreal!

@unicornpower amazing news!!! Absolutely thrilled for you!!

I really hope so. She knows of my losses and has been lovely about it. At my booking app when it got to the mental health bit I just basically said fine to everything, and she said she thinks I should put anxiety due to previous losses down, and said it in a way like 'how could you not be' which I thought was nice.

I know what you mean about 24 hours! A good scan literally gives me 3 days and then it's back to panic mode!! I definitely have some imposter syndrome going on which I hope doesn't last 🙈

@unicornpower it really is horrible isn't it. I'm going to ask my community midwife if she'll regularly check the heartbeat with the Doppler. She's only a 15 min walk away whereas the scan place is over an hour's drive. If she doesn't then I'll just keep booking scans until I hopefully feel movement, but hoping she'll agree to it.

My husband books the scans whenever I want one, but a few things he's said makes me realise he thinks this is going to be ok. I wish I was that sure!

I hope they don't keep you waiting too long - keep us posted x

@unicornpower glad to hear you've booked a scan - what time is it?

I also booked a scan for last night as I just couldn't deal with the anxiety either. I had some pains which I wasn't sure were stretching or cramps so I had to check everything was ok, and thankfully it was.

I honestly hardly have any symptoms at all, and I'm pretty sure the frequent peeing, particularly at night was to do with the prednisolone I was, and not so much pregnancy. I've been tapering off it the last couple of weeks and I haven't had to get up so often (I was worried this was a loss of symptom too, so I booked a scan for the Monday before last because I was worrying about it so much). I've had 7 scans so far 🙈 I just can't help it, it's the only thing that keeps me going and gives me any joy!

Hey @unicornpower sorry to hear you're riddled with anxiety - I am too so you're in good company I guess?!

Could you book a private scan elsewhere? Literally the only thing that gets me through the weeks is regular scans. I guess it depends on the actual person who does it, as you may not get the same person every time with the NHS scans or the private ones. All 3 my private ones have been with the same person, and he is lovely. All 3 of my NHS scans have been with someone different. All of them were lovely during the scans themselves, one was a bit snappy with me when I asked if I could have another scan before 20 weeks (it was a resounding no!) so I personally wouldn't let the fact you had a really good NHS one put you off having a private one in between if that's what will put your mind at rest?

@firsttimemummy321 how did your partner take it now knowing until 6 weeks?
I found out last Saturday that I’m pregnant after my miscarriage in Jan 2020, I started bleeding at 8 weeks but preg dated 6 weeks.

I have thought about not telling my partner For another 3 weeks -I’m 4+3 at moment but I’m already starting to feel guilty about it

@AdriannaP I'm 14 weeks. I had my dating scan last week which I thought would be 12+4 but they dated me at 13 weeks.

Sometimes the only that can reassure is a scan! I was beginning to sort of start enjoying it, but I haven't needed to pee as much for the last two nights, so I'm worrying I'm losing one of the few symptoms I had. It did actually cross my mind to book a scan sooner than I next one (in a week), but I am going to resist

Sorry just saw you are 12 weeks! Congratulations- hope you can enjoy your pregnancy soon

@Daffodil21 oh I really hope so too. Atm I am not.

How far along are you?

I think I will push again for another scan at 10 weeks and if they won’t give me one, just pay for one.

@AdriannaP sorry, I should learn to read properly. But if they offered them then they should now surely, even more so??

I think my husband thinks I'm ridiculous when I keep wanting scans, but it's easy for the men to say - they don't get it, so really it's not up to them. He never says anything and doesn't protest, but I think he would have happily continued until the dating scan without any scans beforehand.

Mine says to go until 16 weeks, but the consultant said I could keep on it until 20 weeks if I wanted to, although she didn't think it was necessary. I have enough pesseries to keep me going until 20 weeks (if we're still going by then) so I may as well, but I might lower the dose and just take one a day rather than 2...

I hope at some point we get to all enjoy this..!

@Daffodil21 I didn’t have those scans during my last pregnancy, I MC at 6 weeks. They just offered them then.
This time they said not necessary to scan me before week 12 which is still 4 weeks away!!! My DH thinks it’s OTT to go private (he thinks NHS knows best) but doesn’t understand how anxious I am. All my MC started with bleeding and as long as I am not bleeding I am hoping for the best!

No idea re progesterone- nobody has told me yet. I assume 12 or 16 weeks? You? I don’t think I have any side effects from it.

Hi @AdriannaP is it an option for you to go private? I was offered an extra scan at 10 weeks because of my history (3 mcs, no children) but I've had to book several more private ones because I just can't deal with anxiety. I asked for an extra reassurance one when I had my dating scan, and the midwife very shortly told me no, I don't need one because everything looks fine, despite knowing my history. Absolutely no way can I wait until 20 weeks for another scan, so as soon as we got home we booked another two, each two weeks apart. I've had 5 scans so far (3 NHS, one due to bleeding, one extra reassurance and the dating one), and if we're still going at 20 weeks that will be scan number 8... they just don't understand because they haven't been through it. Luckily the scan clinic is half price atm!!!! If you had a scan every 2 weeks in your last pregnancy I would definitely push for that though, and remind them they offered them last time, why should this be any different?

I'm also on progesterone too! When are you coming off it? Is it making you bloat at all?

Congratulations @unicornpower!
Can I join please too?

This is my 5th pregnancy - I have one DC and then had 3 early MC. I am now taking aspirin, folic acid, pyridoxine, fragmin (blood thinners) and progesterone. I am 8w today by date but had a scan and they dated me 5 days back. So I should be between 7-8 weeks pregnant. I am understandably very anxious and still check my tissue paper every time too!!

My next scan is at 12 weeks, I wish I could have one before but have not been given one. Bit surprised because at my last pregnancy I was offered a scan every 2 weeks. I don’t know if I should push for another scan soon...

@unicornpower brilliant news!!!!!!

@unicornpower oh no that sounds awful!! Glad you are on the mend, hope you feel better soon!! Crossing everything did you tomorrow. Let us know x