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ITS JUST NOT HAPPENING!! TTC first baby

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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 20:42

Does anyone else feel like you’re just constantly trying and it doesn’t happen!? My cycles are never regular so I don’t know when I ovulate..I have sex every other day and it just doesn’t happen. Been trying for 9 months and nothing.
Starting to get me down and I feel like it’s never going to happen for me Sad

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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 21:40

[quote 1992EM]@dede23 I feel the same . Cycle 9 trying to conceive and just doesn't seem to be happening. I have regular cycles and do opks and have tried smep but not had any luck. I have got to a point now I just assume AF will show and don't bother testing anymore as it was so depressing to see negatives . [/quote]
I find it so strange when you have regular periods and positive OPKS.
I have everything crossed for you & hopefully this year will be our year to conceive our miracles!!

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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 21:39

[quote babypleasenow]@Dede23 yeah that's true. It does feel like I'm the only one who can't fall pregnant though, especially at the moment! And my periods are regular, and I get positive OPKS so I really have no idea what the problem is. My doctor said he will start investigations in Feb, so not too long to wait. Not sure if if wanna know what's wrong :([/quote]
I feel exactly the same! At least you're headed in the right direction for some kind of answer! We both need to keep positive and keep our fingers crossed that it will happen soon!!

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1992EM · 10/01/2021 21:36

@dede23 I feel the same . Cycle 9 trying to conceive and just doesn't seem to be happening. I have regular cycles and do opks and have tried smep but not had any luck. I have got to a point now I just assume AF will show and don't bother testing anymore as it was so depressing to see negatives .

babypleasenow · 10/01/2021 21:34

@Dede23 yeah that's true. It does feel like I'm the only one who can't fall pregnant though, especially at the moment! And my periods are regular, and I get positive OPKS so I really have no idea what the problem is. My doctor said he will start investigations in Feb, so not too long to wait. Not sure if if wanna know what's wrong :(

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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 21:25

[quote babypleasenow]@Dede23 me too. I've just seen we are of a similar age, I'm 23 so glad I'm not alone. I always thought I'd have age on my side but nope 11months of not even a hint of a second line. Ughhh :( [/quote]
Definitely not alone. I'm sure there are loads of women out there of our age that are struggling as well!
It does make you wonder why it's not happening though. Do you also have irregular periods? And have you had any tests to see why you're struggling?

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babypleasenow · 10/01/2021 21:21

@Dede23 me too. I've just seen we are of a similar age, I'm 23 so glad I'm not alone. I always thought I'd have age on my side but nope 11months of not even a hint of a second line. Ughhh :(

GrapefruitGin · 10/01/2021 21:20

Yep, since July for us but i know in the grand scheme of things it isn’t that long. Experts say if you haven’t been successful after a year of trying then go to your doctor (6 months if over 35). I bought a cheap box of OPK tests on eBay and I’m ashamed to admit I haven’t been consistent with them. As of next month (if I’m not successful this month) I’ll be testing every morning from around day 11 onwards. Good luck!

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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 21:17

@babypleasenow

I'm with you. We're taking a month off next cycle, just want a month of no stress and pressure. It's just so painful getting your hopes up, spending so much time reading online, convincing yourself that you have symptoms. FOR NOTHING.

I'm really sorry, this probably hasn't improved your mood but i really feel the same. Ughhhh I just want to curl up in a ball and sob 😭 (gets own violin out)!

Honestly I know exactly how you feel! All I can think about it "what the hell is wrong with me?!" So worried that I won't be able to do this naturally and it's a very scary thought!
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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 21:16

@Thumbellini

Do you use ovulation sticks? Or perhaps temping would work for you? I have odd cycles and ovulation sticks worked for me. Around the year mark you can go to the GP and request bloods to make sure you are ovulating etc. Try not to be too disheartened, easier said than done I know but it can easily take up to a year for some people to conceive without any issues.
I have tried ovulation sticks and only 2 or 3 have came back with a positive result and I kind of gave up with them when one month I didn't seem to ovulate
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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 21:15

@elsaesmeralda

Usually 12 months, but might be sooner if you're over 35 but I'm not 100% on that. Have your periods always been irregular? Thank you!
I'm 24 so still very young! Always had irregular periods that were quite heavy but the last few months they have seemed to get a bit lighter!
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babypleasenow · 10/01/2021 21:06

I'm with you. We're taking a month off next cycle, just want a month of no stress and pressure. It's just so painful getting your hopes up, spending so much time reading online, convincing yourself that you have symptoms. FOR NOTHING.

I'm really sorry, this probably hasn't improved your mood but i really feel the same. Ughhhh I just want to curl up in a ball and sob 😭 (gets own violin out)!

Thumbellini · 10/01/2021 21:00

Do you use ovulation sticks? Or perhaps temping would work for you? I have odd cycles and ovulation sticks worked for me. Around the year mark you can go to the GP and request bloods to make sure you are ovulating etc. Try not to be too disheartened, easier said than done I know but it can easily take up to a year for some people to conceive without any issues.

elsaesmeralda · 10/01/2021 20:54

Usually 12 months, but might be sooner if you're over 35 but I'm not 100% on that.
Have your periods always been irregular? Thank you!

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Dede23 · 10/01/2021 20:48

To be honest I'm not sure how long we have to wait in order to find out why we aren't getting pregnant??
It's such a horrible feeling after trying for so long and still nothing. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey!

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elsaesmeralda · 10/01/2021 20:46

This has been me for the last 3 years! Finally decided to go for ivf but I have pcos so it just wasn't happening naturally.
Have you ever had your irregular cycles investigated ?

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