Anyone else TTC and do it in an relaxed way?

@2021ComeAtMe how you getting on? According to Flo I would have ovulated in the last couple of days so have been DTD every other day. So now in the loooong 2WW.

Hello! Still here! Was due AF on Monday but came on today Not the worst though as I've just accepted a promotion on Thursday so a month or so grace between starting the job and getting pregnant probably isn't the worst thing! Fingers crossed for next time.

Hello all :) thought I'd join the conversation as we have been trying in a relaxed way for a while now. Came off the depo December 2019, AF made a comeback in June 2020 and nothing has happened since.. other than trying to regularly enjoy DTD and recording it in an app we're not really doing anything else no ovulation testes etc. I am however getting a little anxious that nothing has happened yet as time continues to pass... would love to keep chatting on here as I don't have many people to talk to about this other than hubby as we're keeping it to ourselves to not feel any pressure from others constantly asking. I think im due to ovulate tomorrow or the day after so TWW is about to start too..

@2021ComeAtMe I'm here! Glad to hear you've had the energy we've done the same but had a random bit of bleeding today, I have read that the is can happen during the first month of coming off the pill so not worrying. TWW is exciting!!! Hope it's your month !

@2021ComeAtMe hahaha I know that feeling, I'm a key worker and still doing 12 hour shifts... definitely kills the sex drive every two days might have to do is hahah

If sperm lasts 7 days 1 week before ovulation and 1 week after will give you the best chance.

@2021ComeAtMe yeah, I think 3 times over the week should do it! We're doing around the same .. just to make sure we catch ovulation (if it happens). My withdrawal bleed has stopped, really light and only lasted 2/3 days.

Me too! I have temped on and off but really just to check I'm ovulating (and because I'm fascinated by it ) but no OPKs, no checking CM, no pre-seed or wellwoman or anything like that. I'm taking folic acid and I know what day I ovulate so we DTD more around then.

I've only tested pre-AF twice in 6 months and both times was then annoyed at myself at the waste of money so no longer doing that either!

I didn't use Ovulation tests after reading NICE Guidelines and the fact that the GP advised not to as they stated that they create unnecessary stress, I also have no idea when I ovulate as my cycles vary from 28 to 45 days and I have PCOS so needed the TTC process to be as stress free as possible. Also ovulation tests don't work in PCOS. I just did it every other day and conceived within 3 months. Also sperm can survive for 7 days!!!!

@Dalmxo thank you. I'm not trying to reduce the stress at the moment. I work in finance and it's year end, so work stress is through the roof until March. I will however make sure I take it easy after that. And I'm hoping running and yoga will help me keep my stress levels under control and stop me turning to the wine to chill out in the evening.
When I've fallen pregnant before it's always when I've lost s bit of weight, and I could certainly do with loosing some again so trying to eat sensibility, although still have Xmas chocolate left tempting me.
I agree the "on demand" plan won't work for me either. My DH is very much of the opinion if it's meant to be it will happen.

@lillg sorry to hear about your loss x
Just started to try and focus on getting into exercise regime, eating veg and fruits consistently, main thing has been to try and reduce stress / trying to choose not to be and do as much for myself as possible - self care. I feel the shift of basically just ensuring doing things for myself. I'd never heard of OPKs until today!! I'll be trying to figure out when I'm in fertile window once cycle gets back to normal but I know it won't work with me and my partner unless we take it relaxed - we won't respond well to 'on demand!'

I don't understand all this OPKs and testing. All of the tablets and ointments etc. I had no idea TTC was so complicated!
I've been trying for almost 5 years but have been in hospital with a kidney stone and had 3 miscarriages in that time. The most recent miscarriage was at 20 weeks on Xmas Eve so I've been told to stop TTC until I get the post mortem results in 12 weeks.
The plan is to get a physically fit and mentally ready as possible without stressing out. My plans are accupuncture, running, yoga and trying to cut down on alcohol. What changes if any have you all made?

Hey,
Yes we are, so came off the pill 14th December after 10 years. Had withdrawal bleed soon after, now awaiting AF, I've felt achy for weeks.. but nothing yet.. heard it can take a few months?
Ideally would like to be totally open to conceiving from May as that's when I'd be eligible for some mat pay and I figured would be good to lose some pounds/ get on the folic acid and vit D and let cycles bottom out. But the approach is to 'see what happens'.. deep down I'll be monitoring and checking I am sure..
Exciting to just be able to join a chat and get involved at this stage xxx

Yeah it is, takes a while for things to settle into place but it's great now. They're boys, 5 and 15! Yeah they are thank goodness How old is your sc? Is your DC desperate for another sibling?

That will be great to see how your getting on! I'm the same ... definitely test after a missed period otherwise I feel I'd jinxed it! Much better to have two dark lines than a squinter hopefully in a couple of months we will be comparing lines.

Ahh lovely, my partner has kids too so I know the feeling!!

I have no idea when I will ovulate .... if I take this withdrawal bleed as a real period then I would assume I ovulate on around the 24/25th. But yeah like you said it could be any time! Will be interesting to see how things pan out with you as we are on similar dates. Will you be doing pregnancy tests at the end of the two week wait ??

@2021ComeAtMe sorry just seen this will be your third!!