TTC after miscarriage

I am so intriguied as to what my cycle will do this month. I didnt ovulate till CD18 thr month just gone which was a week late. Hoping they go back to my usual 27 day cycle and I ovulate CD12 again!! CD4 tomorrow and my periods almost finished. Wasnt as bad as I thought (or heard) it would be, and planning on starting the opk testing from weds/thurs.

When are you ladies due to ovulate?

@haidri sending you hugs 🤗

@CookieMonster3001 I’m sorry AF came. It is such a rollercoaster. I hope you are right though and February is our month!

@BellaBella36 I love the positivity of statistical data! 😆 I am temping and find it interesting. So, I guess, one more month of data for us, and hopefully we can all have February BFPs.

I’m so glad I found this group. Miscarriage is so hard. TTC is hard. I took too much for granted! 🤦‍♀️

Hope everyone has nice weekends. A takeaway here, I think. With AF on the way, I am eating my feelings completely.

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@AmyFr it's a mental toll

Hi Ladies! Sorry I have been a bit absent!! AF arrived yesterday (2 days early). Gutted is an understatement, but I tried my best not to get my hopes up too much for this cycle and hopefully fingers crossed for Feb for us all!

@Absy sorry AF arrived! I am doing surprisingly well and in some way feel reassured my period is back so things are going back to normal, hoping for a Feb BFP though! How are you doing?

@haidri I am really sorry to hear that lovely. I have only had the one mc so cant advice (Plus I am 33 so a lot older!) I think they do say though that should you miscarry again you will be in the investigation zone. I am praying you have a healthy pregnancy soon!

@AmyFr I am sorry for your loss! I know how you feel, I thought with everyone talking so much about being extra fertile after mc that we would fall again with no problems but it didn't work out that way. From reading loads of threads, it more people seem to fall pregnant after in their first cycle after they have had their first proper period. Be kind to yourself and take time to look after yourself. Going through a mc is so hard, much harder than people realise I think!

Hopefully Feb is our month :)

@haidri Thank you. 🤗 it’s so hard, isn’t it?

@AmyFr take all the time you can to process this and cry your heart out. This is your time to heal for you & your body.

Hi, can I please join too? I’m sorry to hear all of your stories. Hopefully we can support each other. I miscarried at 5 weeks in January and I’m just about to get my period. I feel devastated that I’m not pregnant (several negative tests) - even though I convinced myself we weren’t trying too hard this month as it is ‘better’ to wait for a normal AF. How sad I am has really taken me by surprise. 😭 I just want to curl up and ignore everything.
Sending hugs of solidarity.
I don’t think lockdown helps...

Hi everyone!
Sorry to hear you got your period @Absy that can be so gutting.

@haidri I don't suppose this helps at all, but my mother in law had 5 miscarriages before she got pregnant with my husband. Back in the day when fertility investigations weren't a thing.

I at least don't have to stress over the TWW this month as due to flat out exhaustion for both parties, we didn't even come close to hitting the mark! 🙄

So that's month one post miscarriage out, will have to see if month two fares any better?! At least it's all statistical data to gauge my new cycle. 😁

Thanks cookie monster. How are things going now?

My period did arrive, which was disappointing but ok

Hi guys, I've just joined!
I'm 24 years old and I had my first pregnancy end at 12 weeks miscarriage on 30th September 2020, and now I just birthed another miscarriage at 12 weeks again!

It's my second miscarriage in a row, and I'm a healthy 24 year old with no underlying medical conditions nor a history of health conditions.

Has anyone heard similar stories of anyone in their 20s or have any tips other than to see a specialist? X

@kat1112025 Hi!! So sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I can just imagine how stressful it must be being pregnant again and worrying so much. I pray you have a long healthy pregnancy! And thank you for your success story, it really is so lovely hearing people getting pregnant after a mc! We didnt wait for my period to come back and decide to start trying straight away, as my bleeding had stopped after 6 days and had got a negative preg test. Ultrasound showed no evidence of a pregnancy so felt comfortable enough that it would be OK. My ovulation was pushed back a whole week though. Im keeping my fingers tightly crossed!

@absy welcome! Sorry about your miscarriage, mine was at the end of Dec. It must have been heartbreaking going through IVF and then mcing. I think you are right about mindset as it can be so easy to work ourselves up only to be disappointed, I know I have done it so many times and most likely will happen this month too! I have also done similar to you, in the sense that I am trying to eat as healthy as possible and stick to my normal training regime (I stopped when I fell pregnant and during the TWW for that cycle as I was scared). Fingers crossed you get your BFP very soon!

Its 8DPO for me today and I am having varying symptoms. Whilst I am conscious that some of my symptoms (if not all) are similar to the month I fell pregnant, I am trying my best not to get my hopes up. I woke up this morning feeling very queesy (something I never got last time, and have never experienced in my TWW). Eating a little helped it but its been coming and going in short waves all day today. I thought my breast pain had eased off, but I seem to be getting sharp stabbing pains again, backache again, mild dull cramping and my head just feels a bit heavy, like I could go for a nap. My CM has also been incredible wet these last couple of days. Yesterday I had a huge gush of creamy (slightly tinted yellow) and gluey CM.

Really hoping this month is our month! 3 more days until I can test.

Hi, can I join in as well? I miscarried in mid December. It was an IVF pregnancy so absolutely devastating. We had an early pregnancy scan at 8 weeks, where it was measuring six weeks. I had to wait two weeks for the follow up scan, but they confirmed it had stopped growing so I had a medically managed miscarriage. We spoke to the consultant this week who said that we could restart IVF in a few months (you normally need a three month break so that the follicles haven’t been affected by all the drugs from last time). I’m 39 () and the infertility issues have largely come from PCOS, but he said weirdly as you get older the PCOS helps because your reproductive system is finally acting as it should do. According to the app I’m using my period is late, but I’m trying not to read anything into it as I read it can take 8 weeks for your cycle to return. I am really really not trying to get into mind-f’ry of closely following each cycle as it devastates me each month when it doesn’t work out. Instead, I’m trying to eat healthily and strengthen my core muscles / pelvic floor. I have two other children who did a number on my pelvis in pregnancy, and even with just making it to ten weeks, it had already destabilised so I’m really trying to get strong in anticipation of falling pregnant again

Also should've summarised the actual advice from my midwife regarding TTC post MC:

The EPU wouldn't fully discharge me until I had a negative pregnancy test, and really didn't want me to TTC until that happened.

Midwife said there shouldn't be any problem trying before first period but advised against it for timing reasons (as other posters have noted). She also said there is a little fertility boost in the first six months post MC, so if I wanted to try again it is a good time to.

I did track ovulation post MC and I ovulated a few days after my BFN.

My HCG dropped very sharply post MC, so my ovulation was not really delayed. They think I miscarried a week or so before and only expelled at 7weeks, based on my HCG levels (EPU couldn't scan me until after most of my tissue had passed, due to weekend/lockdown etc. so by the time I was scanned they could only confirm there wasn't anything in there and my HCG was too low for 7 weeks). It had been 3+ on CBD about 4 days before MC, so it had been high.

If your pregnancy was further along I think it takes longer for HCG to drop, then to ovulate etc. So I don't expect timelines would be the same for most people.

My midwife also advised that residual HCG can confuse ovulation tests so it's best to get a BFN before using them to track ovulation.

Hi everyone,

Jumping in v. late.
I had a very similar experience to a lot of the people above (sadly). I miscarried at 7 weeks at the end of November. We did use protection when DTD for the following month as I was still getting faint positives and didn't want any extra stress or confusion. I had a normal (ish) period on 21Dec, 4 weeks after the first day of bleeding from MC. Then I fell pregnant the next month; the first month we tried again. I normally have short cycles: 25/26 days so the 28 days from MC was marginally longer than normal.

So I'm currently 4w+3 and getting a nice "2-3 weeks on CBD", but it doesn't feel real. I feel so completely different about this pregnancy than the last, very anxious and basically waiting for something bad to happen. I'm still mourning my little summer baby and all the things I had imagined for him/her. I find it difficult to imagine this pregnancy will result in the little wriggly happy baby we both really want.

I'm so glad we tried again quickly and were lucky enough to conceive again. But having a miscarriage does rob you of some of the blissful naivety of being pregnant.

So basically my thoughts are with all of you, it is so hard. I hope everyone that hasn't yet, gets their BFPs soon. Wishing for lots of sticky beans and little bubs this autumn x

@CookieMonster3001 my doctor told me it wasn't pregnancy related and it was a coincidence it had occurred at the same time. Happened twice now so I think it must be connected to pregnancy

@Trying93 oh that's interesting! I also have a blocked milk duct in my left nipple and I am wondering whether that's why last cycle my left nipple kept getting a lot of sharp stabbing pains!

@CookieMonster3001 no normal pregnancy symptoms. I have a lump on my breast which the doctor reckons is a cyst or blocked milk duct. It swelled up and my skin was all red last time I was pregnant so that happened again and thats what made me take a test.

@Trying93 ahh did you not have any symptoms that gave it away? Thank you for the reassurance! Hopefully mine will be too. I usually only have light periods anyway (normally) that last about 2-3 days so hopefully they just go back to normal.

@CookieMonster3001 thanks. I don't even feel pregnant I can hardly believe it happened so quick.

Sorry to hear about your mc. I hope you are pregnant again but if your not don't worry about your period. My first one after my first mc was actually lighter than normal so they aren't all horrendous

@BellaBella36 welcome lovely! I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, at 10 weeks that must have been awful. Glad your first period wasn't too bad! I have heard so many people saying their first after MC was horrendous which has made me slightly nervous as mine is due next Friday! fingers crossed it doesn't take 10 months this time! They do say that we are more likely to conceive in the 3 months following a mc and I like to use that to keep myself positive! My cycle is probably going to be about 7 days longer as I normally ovulate on CD12 and this month it was CD18. Currently 6DPO so keeping my fingers crossed!

@Trying93 I am so sorry to hear about your 2 miscarriages but congratulations on your new pregnancy. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that its a sticky healthy bean. How are you feeling? It is my first cycle after mc and didn't bother waiting for my first period and now just waiting to see if I am pregnant again.

@Emmav2020 thanks. Sorry to hear that. Just folic acid. I think just relaxing and not obsessing about getting pregnant helped

@Trying93 congrats on your pregnancy.

I stopped bleeding a week ago from a miscarriage that started NYE. hoping to TTC again now. did you take any supplements? xx

I think it's personal choice when you try again, as long as you get a negative test before.

I've had two mc. The first one at 8 weeks I waited to have a period before ttc again and it took a year and a half to get pregnant again.

That pregnancy sadly ended in mc at 5 weeks the week before Christmas. DH and I decided we wouldn't actively try but couldn't be bothered using condoms. We assumed it would take ages to get pregnant again so I'd not fall pregnant before my first period.

Found out 2 days ago I'm pregnant again. Clear blue said conceived 2-3 weeks ago.

Hello everyone, hope you don't mind my joining in a bit late? (I was going to say late to the party, but that somehow sounded really inappropriate!)

I miscarried at 10 weeks in December. Nothing physically too traumatic, everything passed by itself and just left me a little anaemia, which resolved within a couple of weeks. I've had my first period which wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be, no rocking in a corner crying at least!

We'd been trying for 10 months before we got pregnant, so not holding out too much hope of conceiving again before I'm 37. Started the OPKs on CD10 now CD13 and just waiting to see what my new cycle is like... Same/ different? Who knows?!

I'm so sorry that some of you have had such horrendous times, yet have shown such strength and resilience getting through it. ❤️

@lamby12 I am sorry to hear you have been furloughed as well. I completely understand you not wanting to be on MN for a while. Take as much time as you need to feel better, look after yourself and be kind to yourself. Lots of love and hugs and hope we hear from you soon!