TTC after miscarriage

@Absy I hope you are doing a bit better. Sending hugs. Triggers are hard. I’m sorry about Af too.

I saw my best friend for a walk yesterday - I would have been 6 weeks behind her. Actually it was really nice to talk to her and be excited for her - but I think that is because I have hope for this cycle. I feel like it might be harder if I wasn’t in the TWW And hopeful.

7dpo (I think). We will see... possibly slight cramping this eve but I know I symptom spot too much 😂

@lamby12 hey. I know exactly how you feel. I’ll have days when I’m fine and it’s all ok, and then the unfairness and sadness of it all hits me again. I’ve been seeing a therapist (was for other reasons, and then it conveniently overlapped with the miscarriage). She said it’s bound to happen, particularly if there is something that triggers the memory. I saw a pair by Chrissy Tiegen (John Legend’s wife who lost a baby in October) and she was talking about how he’s the due date is. That’s something I’m going to try and prepare myself for. If possible take a day off work and do something nice.
This weekend has been a bit rough. AF arrived yesterday and then today some friends told us that they’re expecting. Their baby is due a couple of weeks after ours was. It would have been amazing to be able to tell them that we were expecting as well. Of course I’m very happy for them but it’s hard. I’m just trying to focus on when we start IVF again (probably April).

Oh @lamby12 absolutely - it is an up and down process dealing with any loss. Sending you big hugs. Everyone has different trigger points. It is so hard. 🤗 be kind to yourself. Even if you know you WILL be ok, it is ok not to be okay right now.

When is your appointment? Will be thinking of you.

I do know what you mean w the start of the cycle. I’m now FINALLY in the TWW, think I ovulated yesterday or day before... waiting for temp to rise more. I’m enjoying a few glasses of wine, and hopefully I won’t stress until next week 😂

Hope everyone is doing ok!

Hi all,

Hope you don’t mind me joining. I had a miscarriage nearly two weeks ago on 7th feb. I was around 7 weeks and had taken a while to get pregnant, although I’m we have two sons so I know we are lucky.

Been really sad and disappointed, it was so shocking and just. Well just really shitty. We were so happy to be pregnant again.

Anyway, I know it’s early but I’m 37 so not keen to waste any time and we are trying again. I think I’m ovulating today (according to app and a few ovulation tests) so will see. Hoping for a quick bit of luck but I am worried.

Good luck to everyone, not read the full thread so going to try to catch up now xx

@SG121 oh that’s good to know! Annoying though! The body is a strange thing; I guess it knows what it is doing! I guess I can have a drink for a while longer 😆 and enjoy half term. Hope you’re having a good rest yourself!

@AmyFr I was clockwork ovulating on day 14-16 but then for the last few months I was ovulating on day 23-25 so my cycles would be about 5 weeks long so it’s definitely normal but I, too, would be annoyed at having to wait longer. I tried to enjoy the first 3 weeks of my cycle but it’s easier said than done! Xx
@Toblerone12 I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Sending lots of love and positivity to you xx

@Toblerone12 I’m so sorry for you loss. It’s so unfair. Look after yourself, be kind to yourself. Do what is best for you.

@Emmav2020 aww lovely! Glad all is well - when is your first apt?

@SG121 glad you’re feeling ok and not too bad.

Ooh ok - I have just got two stronger lines so I think I will ovulate tomorrow or Saturday - mad, as it will be day 20 or 21 and my cycles aren’t normally this long (normally I ov day 16, pretty regularly), I wonder if it is the effect of the miscarriage, or just stress. I never thought I would say it, but I just want to be in the two week wait! If I have no joy this cycle, I will get the clear blue ones. Thanks 😊

Hi everyone,
Hope you don't mind me joining in... sorry for all of your losses ❤️

On Sunday morning I started bleeding heavily and on Tuesday it was confirmed I had a very early miscarriage 😓
Absolutely devastated and so worried to try again incase it happens again... I know it's not the right attitude but life is so cruel at times 😓
I think I'm going to wait until I have a period and then start from there...🤞🏻

@AmyFr hello lovely. I’m feeling ok thank you - haven’t got many symptoms just sore boobs and feeling a bit tired. How are you?
Ive read your previous posts - I used clear blue digital ovulation tests. So expensive but I found them reliable!! Sending lots of love to you all xx

@AmyFr im doing ok thanks. just feeling little hungover every morning, tired and bloated. waiting for my first appt. how are you? x

@AmyFr Thankyou! Good luck to you! Sending you all the baby dust possible ! ✨

@jodielouise26 haha I know that feeling! Good luck!

I am going to go for it once more tomorrow (both knackered today 😂) and hopefully I will have covered all bases if I have had / have a late ovulation.

If I have no joy this month I might try the clearblue tests... just so expensive!

@AmyFr so I actually got a high reading, last night, this AM and this evening 👀 will have to inform the other half and beg to BD 🤣

Hi ladies how are you all doing?

@jodielouise26 I’m so sorry for your loss. I think trust your own reading of the tests more than an app saying “low” - fingers crossed for you this month.

I’m not getting positive OPKs yet this month but I think I have just missed it with the testing. Only using cheap ones. My temp should change soon if I’m right 😂

How are you feeling @Emmav2020 and @SG121 ?

How were your bloods @lamby12? Hope you’re ok.

Hope you’re all ok. I feel better this week, most positive. Fingers crossed it lasts!

Morning ladies ☺️

Sorry to hear of all your losses; but congratulations to those who have their bfp again! And sending baby dust to all of those ttc like me ❤️🌈

Hope you don't mind me joining in here.

I had a miscarriage in January between 11 and 12 weeks. Like most of you say I was told to wait until first cycle (I think, unless it's just what I've been reading everywhere, I was so upset I can't remember what was said to me really)
I don't want to wait until first cycle so we've been DTD a lot more than usual tbh.
I'm tracking ovulation on premom strips.. just waiting for that high/peak to appear! Although on 11/2 the darkness of the line was pretty much on par with the control line although saying low..
I guess I'll just keep testing and hoping & praying. xx

Hi to those who have just joined, and sorry for your loses.

Oh @lamby12 that’s disappointing. I’m so sorry to hear that AF came 😞 . I hope the consultant is helpful though when you see them, and that you are feeling a little bit better than yesterday.

@Absy hope you’re doing ok. The TWW is so crap. I’m due to ovulate tomorrow or Tuesday I think... who knows? What will be will be. Trying not to obsess over it yet. I’m sure I will though! 🤦‍♀️

@lamby12 have you checked what your NHS trust is willing to fund? Normally under NICE guidelines they should fund up to 3 cycles, though not all do. Worth checking

@Emmav2020 congratulations! I hope that it all goes well

I’m in the 2WW so at the moment I’m trying to forget that I am. I’ve been feeling a bit weird, but that could be down to the new medication I’m on so I’ll see.

Hi ladies, I was wondering if I could join as I’m currently TTC after my miscarriage back in January (at 8 weeks) it was my first pregnancy :(. I had a natural miscarriage at home.

Congratulations to everyone that have got their BFP, I hope you all have a happy and a very healthy pregnancy.

I asked my midwife when I can try again and she said after 1 cycle. It’s been 3 weeks and 3 days since my miscarriage and I feel ready to start TTC again. I’m not using any OPKs and just trying every other day and hoping to catch it. Reading all your messages have been very uplifting and encouraging. Xx

Have just read this whole thread and really rooting for you @lamby12 fingers and toes crossed.

I miscarried at 5 weeks on 31st Jan so I'm cd11 today. My son is 3 and we have been ttc for 5 months now. I'm hoping desperately that we can conceive again this cycle. I can empathise with the grief not only for the future baby but the "plan" being ruined. I was also holding onto the positive news of a new baby in an otherwise shit time.

Good luck to everyone trying again.

@lamby12 fingers crossed for you! Not too much longer to go hopefully!

I’m not even in my fertile period until tomorrow (low fertility). Already dragging. 😂

@Emmav2020 that’s so good about an understanding doctor. Keep us posted!

@Emmav2020 wow your doctor sounds lovely! Hope the midwife referral goes well :)

@lamby12 those sound quite positive! How long is your LP usually? Fingers crossed it is implantation!

2DPO for me and my gosh is it dragging already! I am trying to ignore any symptoms because I know it means nothing at this stage!!!