TTC after miscarriage

Hi All
Hope nobody minds me jumping on this post. I have been reading through the thread and you are all so lovely and supportive, I am so sorry for everyone's losses.
I have now had 3 chemical pregnancies in a row and am currently 6dpo to see what this cycle brings - I am extremely nervous.
I had to self refer to a private clinic as my GP wouldn't help me as I already have a healthy 3 year old girl. I have been prescribed cyclogest pessaries to starting using when I next get a BFP but I am scared to use them as they don't sound pleasant 🥺 all my tests came back fine and the consultant just said try these and see as they won't do any harm 🤷‍♀️

@Emilu89 I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been going through, and for your loss. I don’t think it can hurt to ask for bloods. You will have had so many hormones and the body can take such a long time to regulate. I hope you get a positive OPK soon, and that the doctor can help too.
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Hi Everyone, hope your all OK? Everyone's journey sounds so up and down. Who knew ttc would be so hard! I had a miscarriage in October 2020 at 12 and a half weeks. It had taken 11 months (and a huge toll on my mental health!) unfortunately my bleeding didn't stop so had an MVA in November. Because of the lengthy process I only had 2 weeks of not bleeding and then my period returned in December I've had a 44 day cycle and a 31 day so very erratic. I'm just not sure what to do next I was thinking of having some bloods don't with the GP because it feels like ages now but then its been 2 (coming up 3) cycles.
I do feel so so fortunate I have a 6 year old DD and she took 15 months but the age gap is forever getting bigger and annoyingly so are we haha! Why is it so hard? I tracked last month got a postitive opk day 14 or 15 DTD loads.... Nothing. This month haven't even had a positive OPK. I'm fed up sorry for the essay!

@AmyFr @lamby12 I'm okay Thankyou :)

AF arrived.. 😒 onto the next month 👍🏻

Hope you're both okay x

@jodielouise26 oh I’m sorry to hear you think you are out. You never know though... I hope you’re ok.

@lamby12 I’m sorry to hear that. Premature ovarian failure is so unfair, especially after what you have been through, but I’m pleased you have a plan with IVF, and put everything in place to start soon. I will have fingers crossed for you! Sometimes a clear plan can help you mentally. Sending hugs.

Well I think I'm out.
We dtd last night; I woke up this morning spotting 😒
Deflated.

I did take a hpt, a very faint line came up as the dye started to rise but it had gone after a couple of minutes; although it looked more white.. I guess maybe an evap. I took a couple of tests last week too and they showed this also.

Nevermind.
Good luck to you all ❤️ x

@SG121 I’m ok thanks. Nervous. I feel bloated (not helped by excessive eating but maybe if all goes well future nausea will help this). My boobs are sore. I’m taking these as good signs. I think I will feel better if I start to feel sick in the next few weeks 😂 I was quite sick with my daughter so kind of expecting it... we will see! How are you feeling?

I hope everyone is doing ok. Sending hugs to you all. 🤗

@AmyFr sorry I’m only just reading this. No I booked a private scan - I did enquire with doctors when I told them I was pregnant but they said they normally only do early scans from NHS with recurrent m/c. I don’t mind paying for it privately - I am sooo nervous and anxious and feel like I’ve already waited ages for it! Yeah I would definitely speak to work if you’re that spread out. They should be able to put in your risk assessment how they’ll minimize contact etc. How are you feeling? X

@AmyFr not too bad today thankyou lovely ! Hope you're okay too :) x

@jodielouise26 I hope you’re doing ok today lovely. That sounds so hard. It is ok not to be ok. 🤗

@lamby12 Thank you lovely. Oh bless you! I hate the wait. Fingers crossed for you! Sperm survives for five days too, so you’re not out by those dates!

@Absy Thank you. I hope you’re doing ok yourself.

I feel so nervous each time I go to the loo and wipe 🤦‍♀️ I hope this goes....

🤗 x

@Absy yeah not the easiest but I'll get there :) x

@AmyFr congratulations! That’s amazing news. I hope it goes well

@jodielouise26 that must be unbelievably hard. I can’t imagine having to go and work with lots of babies after going through a pregnancy loss. Must be so hard

@AmyFr
Aw Thankyou 🙂

I told maybe 5/6 people at work because there's so much you're not supposed to do if pregnant (X-rays, potential covid patients etc)
Can't work anywhere else, we only look after babies so I'm surrounded by up to 20 little ones a day; even collecting then to bring to special care straight after birth! My manager is supportive of the situation; she's been there three times herself but there's not much that can be done about where I work.
It's when having conversations with the new mummies they say "do you have any children; you will be well prepared" 😬
I'm sure it will get better; my time will come I guess.

That sounds promising; fingers crossed for me too!

Sending you all the best wishes possible ! 🌈 xx

Oh @jodielouise26 all of this is so difficult, and so triggering. I’m so sorry it’s all so close to home. It must be so difficult to have someone else pregnant at the same time; someone I know (but don’t see anymore) announced on facebook and we would have been the same week, which was hard enough. My best friend is two months ahead of where I would have been too. I found that incredibly hard. I wish I could give you a hug. Have you told anyone else at work? Could you work in slightly different areas for a bit?

I will have fingers crossed for you. Maybe you ovulated late? I honestly thought I was out on Saturday morning, and was incredibly fed up, so I will have fingers crossed for you.

Be kind to yourself. I hope your day improves a bit and you can do something nice for yourself. Thinking of you. 🤗

First of all huge congratulations @AmyFr !! ⭐️

Haven't posted in a while; just feeling a bit sh*tty about the whole situation again.
I think I'm around 13 dpo, I've done about 3 hpt and all negative, so deflating. Although I don't feel af coming along...
I'm pretty sure we missed the window for dtd but I'm just hoping and praying 🙏🏼
If I'm out for this month I'm setting out a written schedule for my OH for next month!

Also one of my work friends who I'm fairly close too, announced her pregnancy yesterday all over Facebook.. we knew eachother was pregnant at around 6/7 weeks ( we had our due dates the same week 😢)
Then I had to tell her I had a MC and now I have to watch her grow until she leaves at 28 weeks!

To top it off... I work in a neonatal unit and I didn't think it would be so hard going back to work.. but I was wrong 😞

Anyway rant over.

Hope everyone is feeling a bit better than me on Monday morning! xx

@SG121 Thanks lovely. I really appreciate it.

And that’s really good! My head of department was fab when I had the m/c too, so I know she will be supportive. It does help having supportive and approachable management. I think I am going to push for a risk assessment asap as I teach across four year group bubbles and do the radio for students who are kicking off in a different year group so I’m hoping I can switch the radio duty to one of the year groups I actually teach to limit additional contact but we will see... I don’t really know what accommodations can be done for social distancing; it’s not possible to get to lessons without walking shoulder to shoulder with at least fifty plus pupils in the same corridor 😂 So I am definitely nervous about that... I’m sure other people at my school must be pregnant (we have 200 staff 😆) so I’m thinking someone will have gone through this...

Exciting times for your early scan! Did you get it through the EPU or go private? Will be thinking of you! Is your other half able to go too? And glad you are feeling ok symptom wise too! x

@AmyFr yes I think it worked out that I was in the day after AF was due so that’s when I told her - I was going to wait but she was so great when I had the mc so wanted to let her know early. She’s been great - haven’t had a risk assessment or anything yet though but will see what it’s like when kids are back and talk to her if I’m uncomfortable. When we go back I will also tell deputy headteacher if all carries on well. I’m feeling ok - hardly any symptoms and they seem to come and go! Got my 8 week early scan next week so anxiously waiting on that. No the midwife asked if she was supportive and I said yes so didn’t need to give advice - suppose it all depends on if government advice changes or not? Very exciting but nervous times - message me whenever as I totally understand x

@SG121 Thanks! 🤞 How are you doing? How are you feeling?

If all goes well, I think I will let them know next week sometime, maybe the end of the week. I need to go past Tuesday when I would have AF. 🤞 I’m not in physically next week so we will be back before I can do it. I will have to let four people know (two head teachers, HR and my Head of Department). We will see.... I feel nervous typing this. 😬

Yes, I’ve heard work from home from 28 weeks. Some schools are not happy about that though. We will see what happens. I’m glad your headteacher knows. Is he/ she supportive? Did your midwife have any advice? x

Yay huge congratulations @AmyFr!
Yes I spoke to work when I was next in so I would have been just about 4 weeks but I wanted my head teacher to know. Haven’t told anyone else in work but wanted her to know incase anything happened again and also for when the kids go back! I would let them know and let them know how early it is. My midwife said you work from home from 28 weeks x

Hi ladies, how are you all? I am 11dpo and felt miserable yesterday. I was so sure I was out. But out of habit, I took a test in the afternoon and a faint line came up. I then went to the pharmacy for a First Response, and had a pale pink but clear BFP. I had a negative test in the morning! This morning’s was clearer too. I will do a digital tomorrow (and then stop testing as I think I will just worry).

So now I have fingers crossed for this pregnancy. I am nervous and scared. I won’t be telling people except I need to tell my work - I will be back face to face teaching hundreds of kids a day from next week, which scares me as I had Covid when I had the first miscarriage. I don’t know what they can do for a risk assessment though... and I might be getting ahead of myself as period is due Tuesday. So we will see what happens.

@SG121 did you speak to your work?

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@lamby12 good luck with your appointment. Will be thinking of you!

I’m 9dpo or 10DPO. I feel crampy though and hungry like AF was coming so I am not sure I trust my DPO. I have tested and the usual faint or possibly imaginary line 😂 testing early is never kind; I wish I didn’t feel a compulsion to do it. We will see. I am grumpy and fed up so I think I am out. We will see... feeling very much like usual PMS. 🤦‍♀️

I have fingers crossed but I am losing hope a bit... 🤦‍♀️