TTC after miscarriage

Hey, I'm so sorry for your loss x

When I had an early mc they told me the advice to wait 3 months was actually outdated and now they encourage women to try sooner because you're actually more fertile. But as long as you're ready I would try or wait, whatever you feel is most important.

GL x

@lamby12 that is one thing I have never really had, EWCM, and I was taking evening primrose oil for that as its suppose to help but never noticed much difference. I always get watery CM instead (But I recently read that both are fertile and it just means I have more water in my body - makes sense as I drink about 3litres of water a day!)
I'm 33 (34 this year). I do worry I have left it a little late sometimes! This will be my first child and me and OH foolishly thought that although we know it can take some time, that it would happen first time anyway! When we got pregnant it was our 3rd month of trying. I defo know what you mean though, and especially now after the mc, I feel like getting pregnant and worrying about my fertility is literally on my mind all day long! Its exhausting! Especially when you then think I would have been past 7 weeks this week. If the spotting is ovulation I will be happy as I will have DTD 3 times in the run up.

@lamby12 ahh its driving me up the wall to be honest!! And then I read on a forum last night that this girl after her miscarriage ovulated, but none of her OPKS were positive so she didn't realise she did and still somehow managed to fall pregnant... so I am not putting too much trust in my OPKS at the moment! And weird how you mentioned about a little bleeding..because I have just come back from a walk and had a tiny bit of spotting on my underwear and we had also DTD Saturday and Sunday. I have been cramping here and there so I am half thinking its just an irritable cervix or that I could have ovulated and its not shown up in OPKS. I guess I will find out over the next couple of days if my temp goes up. I would normally ovulate CD 12 so fairly early and I am currently on CD15... this cycle is defo dragging!!

How old is everyone, if you don't mind me asking?

@mummytocrazy1 I am so sorry to hear that, that must have been awful. How are you feeling now? Has things subsided a little? I would consider calling 111 if its still so heavy!

@lamby12 going by what a lot of people have said, generally people seem to have ovulated a week later than normal so I am hoping I get my peak at the back end of this week! Still DTD when we can just to make sure there is always some sperm in there! Strange about the bleeding during sex, I have never had that either... what DPO are you? Is it possible it could be implantation? You are right though, it could just be a bit of irritation. I have heard that ovulation is more painful after a MC and I have noticed I keep getting sharp pains on my sides and I think its my body trying to ovulate but then it fails, so I imagine when I actually do ovulate, its probably going to be noticable pain (Sometimes I dont notice it if im busy)

@eloiseislost I am so sorry to hear about your loss fingers crossed you get your sticky bean soon too!

@emmav2020 I am so sorry for your 2nd loss, that must be heartbreaking! In regards to supplements, I am just taking folic acid, Vit D and Omega 3 (I also usually take evening primrose oil up until ovulation, but I havent done that this cycle)

@RBCoxie waiting for the bleeding to stop was the most annoying! My bleeding generally stopped after 5 days but I was spotting brown blood for a while after.

Still negative OPKs and no sign of ovulation, but hoping its the back end of this week now as I have such a busy week, I already know trying to DTD is going to be stressful if I get a peak!

@CookieMonster3001 thank you so much. It's good to hear from others that didn't wait either - hopefully you won't be waiting too long before you get a peak OPK! I'm hoping my bleeding properly stops soon. It's light and only there when I wipe but definitely still there unfortunately.

@lamby12 thank you - still bleeding but I got a negative pregnancy test today using a CBD so at least that's something. Just got to wait for the bleeding to stop now. Keeping everything crossed for you.

@lamby12 hi, sorry i thought i wiukd jump on this post. I am new to mumsnet. I am currently going through my 2nd MMC, started bleeding heavy yday but was told last week they could see the ges sac but no baby so been waiting for the bleeding to start. All i keep thinking is TTC again but after 2 miscarriages im terrified. Is anyone taking supplements? Xx

@lamby12 I'm really sorry for you loss. 💔

I went through the EXACT same thing as you in December. On my DH's birthday, of all days, I started miscarrying at 6 weeks. I was heartbroken to say the least. But I just wanted to try again, the feeling was overwhelming. I counted the first day of bleeding as CD1 and used OPKs that indicated I ovulated at CD17 (my usual is between CD13-15). So I was a bit behind, understandably. We started TTC right away and even though I didn't get pregnant that cycle, the fact that I was at least trying gave me some sense of control and comfort. I'm on to the next cycle now, ovulation any day! Even though I thought the MC would break me, it actually renewed my determination and I find strength in taking care of myself to make sure my body is ready for the next bean.

I really do hope you get a healthy, sticky bean soon! 🌈 🤞🏼

I have woke up this morning which is day 9 of bleeding with extreme cramps, and alot of bleeding with bigger clots than before, I think I've just passed the sac, tmi I'm sorry, but it really frightened me, it was like a big gush of bright red blood, I thought by day 9 I would be easing up, but this is horrendous this morn, any advice ladies? My OH has work and I'm getting DS minded cause I can hardly walk atm let alone run after a 3 year old, xox

@lamby12 defo sounds like you have ovulated!! I generally get that pain too! Fingers crossed for you lovely! I did do a preg test the day before I had my scan which was a super faint positive but the day of my scan they confirmed everything had come out and did another test which showed negative. I watched a youtube video yday that said we always have hcg in our system and I think if it drops below a certain threshold it allows ur body to ovulate so I would imagine a preg test for u now should be negative but i would check anyway

@RBCoxie welcome lovely! I am so sorry to hear what you went through, you must have been devistated. I would imagine if you have super faint lines now you would prob be getting a neg test quite soon! Fingers crossed for you. We also didnt want to wait and have been BDing since bleeding stopped but no sign of ovulation yet. Still nothing on my OPKs and I would have usually ovulated yday (CD12) really hope it doesnt lengthen my cycle too much!!

Hey everyone, I hope you don't mind me jumping on this thread. I also had a miscarriage on Monday - I was 13 weeks, first pregnancy. It was a pretty horrific experience as it happened very suddenly and within the space of a few hours I had passed everything. I'm still bleeding but it's lighter now so I'm hoping it'll all be over physically soon.

I've been tracking my HCG levels by using OPKS (I know it's not a foolproof method, but it's helped by watching the OPKs get lighter across this week) - when those tests get back to a very low level I'm going to take a CBD and hopefully that'll come back negative.

My doctors suggested we wait for a full cycle before TTC again and also suggested doing a pregnancy test in 3 weeks. I asked why and they said for dating purposes (no mention of infection) and because they thought that's how long it would take to see a negative result. Things seem to be happening quite quickly for me though so I've done cheapies over the last 2 days and they've been extremely faint (so faint that if I was looking for a BFP, I would probably be posting asking if anyone else can see a line!!), so I'm definitely going to be testing earlier than the 3 weeks.

Our plan is to start TTC again as soon as I have stopped bleeding fully and I have a true negative pregnancy test using CBD.

I know everyone is different and everyone needs to do what's right for them - I just thought it may be helpful to show what's happened to me in case it helps any one. I hope you're all okay and sending you all positive vibes for your TTC journeys!

@lamby12 oh I am glad DTD went well and it felt right for you! You are absolutely right, your body is giving you all the signs you are ovulating so your body must be ready. Just go with this flow this month instead of full on TTC (like me - its already driving me insane!) and fingers crossed you will pregnant again in no time!

@Mummyto1crazy1 absolutely, once you have stopped bleeding, you will have to let us know what you plan to do and keep us updated as well.

Still no signs of ovulation for me. I am on CD 12 and usually would be ovulating today but all my OPKs are showing up negative. I really hope I ovulate Sunday or Monday as the weekend is the best time for me and OH to DTD and it be more relaxed and natural. I really hope it doesn't drag out for too long as I just want ovulation to be over and done with now!

Fingers crossed! Will keep you updated :)

My fingers are crossed for u both, really hope use get ur little rainbow, if use don't mind keeping me updated too, cause I'm tracking behind use by about a week. Xox

@lamby12 totally know the feeling! When I fell pregnant, I was so happy that I didn't have to carry on TTC as the pressure was just hard to manage, and my OH is exactly the same. We don't have sex very often anyway and at the rate we were going, we would never have fallen pregnant so I had no choice put to push us to DTD more often which is fine on a weekend, but on a weekday was almost an impossible task.
The thought that we have to go back to that is frustrating to be honest, but not much we can do.

Just DTD when you can and fingers crossed you catch it! If not there is next cycle, but at least you know that you would have tried.

I never really get EWCM and always worried that was an issue, so we tried Conceive plus and that was the month we caught. So have been using it again this month and fingers crossed it works its magic again!

@Mummyto1crazy1 I am so sorry to hear that, that must have been awful! I would imagine that's the reason you are still bleeding heavy as you probably had a thick lining and more to come out. Hopefully the bleeding will ease up over the next few days xx