First month TTC

Hi Ladies, I’ve just been eavesdropping this whole thread. I’m not TTC and had my little boy a few years ago, we caught the first month with lots of advice on a similar thread. So I’m just popping in to say good luck to you all and here’s my advice.

If you’re quite in tune with your body and cycles then don’t waste time/ money with OPKS, listen you your body, your CM will tell you lots more about when you’re ovulating than you think.

Keep an app to track when you’ve DTD and period dates but don’t rely on that to tell you when you are actually ovulating, it just gives you a ballpark.

PreSeed is amazing, I honestly rate it SO much, I know lots of people who have caught very quickly using it and tbh, it’s just a good lube anyway!

If you haven’t looked into the sperm meets egg plan (SMEP) then google it! Covers you on all bases so you’re not exhausting yourself every month on unnecessary days.

Baths - don’t take hot ones.

Don’t pee straight after sex, try and lie still for 5-10 minutes.

Symptom spot away! I know people say not to etc but I honestly think it teaches you so much about yourself. Of course it doesn’t mean you’re pregnant but I think it’s great to learn more about your body. They’ve probably always been there you’re just noticing more now as you’re TTC and every tip from your own body is gonna help that to happen.

Good luck to you all, I hope 2021 is the year for all of you ❤️

Yes, the same here!! I think if I was seeing BFN's everyone morning from DPO10 I'd get a bit down, but there would also still be a bit of me that remained hopeful. Ignorance is bliss 😂

I see you were starting the OPKs again today. In for a weekend of BDing?

@greenfrogs1 I was exactly the same. Now on 2nd of TTC feeling much more chilled about it and definitely indulged in some vino while on AF. We have to make the most of whatever part of cycle we're in :)

@FieldView I'm the same. Reading through so many threads, it seems like it can take around a year for no good reason. Last month I was also determined not to test til AF was last by a few days. She arrived on time, so didn't end up touching my pregnancy test stash.
Also, I think seeing a BFN would be really sad... I'd rather be ignorant and hopeful until AF shows...

@greenfrogs1 sorry to hear about AF! Definitely treat yourself to all the things you can't do once pregnant. I went nuts on wine and soft cheese and seafood 😂

@Dixie1488 it's not so much willpower! I think I've just got it in my head that it's going to take ages. I've even spoken to DH about fertility treatment and whether it's something he'd be open to, and we're only on cycle 2 of TTC! 🙈 I need to dig out a little bit of positivity!

How are you feeling today? Still thirsty??

@Dixie1488 when I was symptom spotting last week I did actually see something online saying that because peeing more frequently happens in early pregnancy it can affect your thirst too. X

Morning lovely ladies,

I'm slightly ahead of all u in terms of our cycles!

So my AF has arrived today. Tbh I feel a tiny bit relieved, I worked myself up to such a state this month going crazy (it was our first proper month trying). I kind of feel I've got that out my my system now and feel a lot more chilled.

Going to treat myself tonight to a glass of wine and a salicylic acid face mask (Nip and Fab). I love this face mask so much but apparently you can't use salicylic acid when pregnant so I haven't used it in like a month 🧖🏼‍♀️🍷

I'm sticking around though for all your TWW! I am keeping everything crossed we get some more BFPs!! ✨

@LiGigi haha I know that feeling! He has no idea how much time and energy I spend researching and obsessing 🤣

Ooooh enjoy! 😉 My partner is getting no sex from me, I can’t take anymore this month haha 😂

@FieldView I need your willpower! I am going to try to wait until 12DPO at the earliest.

@Dixie1488 definitely waiting until to see whether AF arrives before I test. What about you?

Sounds like you've got a fun Valentine's weekend ahead of you @LiGigi!

Hi everyone

@Eaststreet I'm the same, symptom spotting and waiting to see if AF arrives. AF due in 8 days so really resisting the urge to test. I've noticed a couple of 'signs' or so I think. Probably just symptom spotting.

@FieldView that makes a lot of sense. Sounds like its a crazy time for you already! Fingers crossed for that late November baby :)

@Dixie1488 'performs' when needed I know how you feel! I feel like I'd have to sit him down for an hour to pass on the information that took hours and hours worth of Googling.

Due to ovulate on the 15th... so extra excited for Valentines day this year :D

@FieldView That’s good! Well done 😊 I haven’t been really either but I have been so much thirstier than usual for the past few days, I think it’s a bit odd! No matter how much I drink, it feels like I’ve had no drink at all!

Are you planning to wait for AF or test early?

7DPO over here! I've been good at not symptom spotting this time around but I'm getting a bit impatient now to see if AF will arrive 😂. No symptoms though!

I don't know if thirst is a sign @Dixie1488! You'll have to keep us posted!

@Eaststreet ohhh we are around the same time then!

Haha mine said the same to me! I think he’s pleased I’ve stopped because I was always moaning I was thirsty and desperate for a wee when I had to hold it for 2 hours and avoid drink 😂

Atleast yours take an interest, mine just “performs” when needed and asks no questions 😂 I tried to explain cycles, ovulation etc but he looks so bored!

What TTC cycle are you on?

@Dixie1488 I’m 6DPO so just behind you!

And yes also obsessed with opk’s, even my OH said ‘why aren’t you peeing on those sticks anymore ’ which led me to having to explain the whole bloody conception cycle to him again. He also keeps asking when ‘the window’ is coming back , literally days after ovulation. I’m probably just being harsh but it’s doing my head in that he can’t remember all of this 😂. Maybe he’s trying to take an interest 🙈 .

Hi everyone! How are you?

Just like @Eaststreet I have also been quiet for a while. Had a break from chatting after AF arrived mid Jan. I am currently 7DPO so a little while longer until I can test! I also have no symptoms @eaststreet other than REALLY thirsty. No idea if that’s a thing? Haha.

Has anyone else become a bit obsessed with OPKs? 🙈

Hi all
I’ve been so quiet on here recently but starting to lose my mind again in the tww.

Last month I was symptom spotting loads! I had convinced myself I was going to get BFP and obviously didn’t. This month I am feeling absolutely nothing 😂. Not a single symptom.

How is everyone else? Is anyone else in the tww?

Definitely each to their own though, and if our set up was different I probably wouldn't fuss too much!

Hi @LiGigi,

I've been lurking in the shadows a bit this cycle. Currently halfway through the TWW and trying to stay but cooler about everything this time around.

Definitely still planning on trying to avoid a December baby. My cycle is quite long though, so based on predicted ovulation, it would be due end of Nov and for the next cycle would be due first week of Jan - both of those are out as I wouldn't want it to be early or late and then end up in December 😂

It goes against everything to be delaying it further, but a December baby would be a nightmare for us in the long run! DH has children that we have on Christmas Day every other year, and our respective families don't live near each other (mine are further away). It's quite tricky trying to juggle things over the festive period to keep everyone happy, and adding another grandchild/birthday to the mix would complicate things even further.

December is out for us, and I think my due date for a January baby would be the first week of Jan which is also pretty rubbish, so I think I'm out until Feb!

@Chels139 I think the idea is that sperm don't do very well in hot environments so from what I understood you should try to keep cool to preserve any sperm that might be lingering around waiting for an egg and maybe for 48 hours after ovulation. But if the egg has been fertilised, I dont think temperature has much of an affect after that? Not a doctor here, but unless you have boiling baths I think you'll be OK :)

I'm due to ovulate in 4 days. Going to DTD tonight and get started with OPKs tomorrow. Would so love a November baby! I read earlier that a few of you won't try in March as having a birthday around Christmas isn't great... has anyone changed their mind?
I was thinking along the same lines initially but then thought what if March is my month and I get to meet my gorgeous baby in December? So I think I'll be TTC in March as well if it comes to it :)

Also I haven't heard anything that says you can't have a bath when TTC? I know you're not supposed to have mega hot baths though. I may google it x

Morning girlies!

AF due tomorrow and I THINK I'm beginning to get a few AF like symptoms.

Tbh just looking forward to her showing up now so I can have a nice glass of wine 🍷 and then start a fresh cycle. I'm banning myself from early testing/symptom spotting next month!

@Mum2Girls19 welcome. I'm afraid I can't advise on the OPK tracking as I haven't done it yet. Hopefully someone else on here can fill u in.

Eeeek let us know how your scan goes @PineappleSun. So excited for you!!

Xx

@JoannaRose still getting cramps now and again bleeding left me a day n half after it started so it stopped Saturday afternoon , all the is it af or isn't it is driving me insane so I am just going to keep trying and if I get anymore signs of pregnancy then I will retest , hope your well? I was using opks last month and I got my peaking the 21st but I find that very stressful, all my other kids were conceived without that so I think am going to leave doing that for now and just go with my bodies signals 🙂

Hi all

Can I join here?

I am CD6 today
Juts had my first period after my copper coil was removed last month :)
Taking my temp and opking once a day but what do I expect? How do I know when to expect ovulation as I dont want to miss it..

@JoannaRose the cramping never ends so it might not be an AF sign. I'm good thanks, 7+2, just about coping with the nausea and got an early scan on Saturday, hoping for a heartbeat.

@JoannaRose I literally posted about the same worry yesterday 😂 but I did some research and I think it seems fine.

www.romper.com/pregnancy/can-you-take-a-bath-when-youre-trying-to-conceive-science-weighs-in-76130