Can't take this anymore 😞

I completely understand how you feel!
Feeling very deflated, lots of new babies arrived before Christmas and then lots of baby announcements on Christmas day.
My husbands best friend is expecting a baby in July and although I am very happy for them they have only been in a relationship for 6 months and are putting pictures of the crib and pram all over social media and she's only 12 weeks pregnant!
I'm excited for them but dreaming that it will be our turn next....

Bonnie. I get that, sorry I was just addressing the comments that she had claimed infertility and was smug, I’m not sure it was accurate, that’s all 💐

@Bluntness100 I actually love Mrs Hinch and was happy to see she was pregnant (I don’t know if she has fertility problems) - I thought it was a little extra but it’s exciting for everyone. Just was another person announcing pregnancy which is what I find difficult from my own background.

I don’t think mrs hinch did say she was infertile, was it not she was saying her body hadn’t recovered from her first pregnancy as she was hospitalised due to blood clots? There is clearly something there though as she must be about six months pregnant and has just told her family also, so I imagine she’s considered high risk.

I also don’t think her announcement was smug, it was more twee and a bit cringe, but I think it depends on your own mind set on how you view it.

I saw this thread and just wanted to say I feel exactly the same!
We’ve been ttc since May 2020. Had a chemical October 2020 then Fell pregnant straight after in November but miscarried at 6 weeks. Honestly found it really difficult seeing Celebs posting their announcements. I know I don’t know their backstory and I’m happy for them but I also can’t help but find everything so unfair!!!
One of my friends is starting ttc this month she has a 3 year old already that she fell pregnant with straight away and I know she will again and I will be so happy for her too but I know I will end up feeling jealous!
I go through days of being fine again and then suddenly just start crying. People try to reassure me that it’s a positive sign that I’m falling pregnant but what’s the point if It all ends at 6 weeks?!

This post made me feel a little normal about how I was feeling (I was up at 2am reading it) OP you’re not alone - I know how you feel.

This is a really brave post, I love your honesty.

I am 36 and have been trying for 16 months now (1 miscarriage at 10 weeks). I find each period a gut blow and lose myself in self pity every month- much to my partners frustration! But you’re so right! It gets me nowhere other than down and putting more pressure on both of us for next month.

Thank you for this post, it’s really resonated with me. Sending love your way x

Oh thats fantastic chica my copy arrived today im really excited to read it

@Shaniac I have and was really into it and applied changes for 2 and a half months before I conceived. I’m going to give it another go now!

Hello all hope everyone is doing ok. Has anyone read the book: it starts with the egg?

Also, just a thought, I've noticed that following my first loss I've developed PMDD. It is definitely hormonal but I found taking vitamin B complex has helped me enormously and lifted my spirits during TTC. I was able to go through the BFN cycles far better than before. Your reaction is understandable, but the background might be hormonal as well, might be worth giving B complex a go

Oh OP I know that's not what you want to hear but it really is normal to TTC for 5 months, especially if you had a CP it might take a bit of time. I had 3 MCs in the last 22 months, now pregnant again and TTC journey has been hell. I thought by now I'd be a mum and maybe even pregnant again, turns out not one living DC yet. It's so hard.

TTC between MC no 1 and 2 took 5 months and it was very hard, I have every sympathy for you. It becomes very urgent after loss. But please give yourself more time Are you using any tracking methods?

Hmmm I do have a friend who likes to tell everybody she ‘fell’ I her first month. It’s like a badge of honour. She’s proclaimed it more than once in social media too. Except I know it’s not true. Why lie?!

*google

I did have a goodie on Mrs Hinch’s claimed fertility issues but nothing came up.

I'd be interested to know what Mrs Hinch said in her book re fertility issues too, as that pregnancy announcement was just too perfect!

I'm really early at the start of my journey but got to say that being on here and reading threads like this have made me re-evaluate how I'd announce things when it came down to it. You don't realise how many people may be upset by it. It's just such a shame it's such a taboo topic.

Doesn't help that I'm 30 and all the other people my age who have had kids in my friendship group either fell by accident or in their first month of trying, so the 12 month average seems impossible to believe to me unless they were lying!

Absolutely , close friend has a due date within a week of my should of been due date. Just as i forget another scan/ gender reveal pops up to bite me and i remember where i should be in my pregnancy. Hoping i feel better after march when my due date has gone by

I do also know that I like many of us here, haven’t been actively trying for long in the grand scheme of things. But I do think it’s very hard to have conceived and then lost it and then as the months roll by and you see other’s scan pics etc it’s not difficult to see how it can leave a bitter taste. Like ‘here’s what you could have won...’ here’s what I could have had at Christmas, my scan pics could be stuck on the fridge, I could be looking at prams by now etc. It’s bloody hard!

just keep doing what you are doing - ovulation tests, supplements, regular sex in the fertile window - the odds are on your favour

This is exactly my plan for the next 6 months, if nothing happened by then we are going to look into IVF I think. Just keeping everything crossed for everyone this year

Oh i read your story and so similar. Ttc since june, cp in july. And just to reassure you it is HARD so don't beat yourself up. If you're anything like me this time of year us extra hard because i feel like i should be heavily pregnant with our baby now.

Maybe try a social media detox? I found when i started speaking to peoplr at my mc actually wayyyy more people friends i thought had one. But that wasnt what they broadcast on their social media.i also had 2 friends who id assumed had conceived fairly quickly but turned out itd been like 10-12 months for them both.

No words of advice really. We took a month off ttc and that helped me mentally but im right back to obsessing lol. Just know its pretty normal for conceiving to wait a while/not conceive straight away ❤

OP - glad ur feeling a lot better 💓

@SmidgenofaPigeon - I agree with u x

I'm glad I don't know who Mrs. Hinch is!

I've been TTC since coming off the pill in March 2020. 2 possible chemicals but hard to say as I only got a super faint line on a frer each time and AF around normal time or a day late. I thought af started yesterday a bit early at 10dpo, but it seems to have retreated so who knows.

I can say for me the strain of it all seems to come in waves. I had a bit of a downward turn after the first chemical where I was convinced I was pregnant on month 5. I remember thinking how lucky I was to get a bfp at 5 months. Then AF came and the next couple of cycles I basically cried like a crazy lady every AF. In October I cried so hard I nearly passed out. DH was kneeling on the sofa holding onto me trying to stop me passing out onto the floor.

Weirdly, the next month when I turned 35 was surprisingly ok. I've no idea why. Maybe I got it out of my system the month before. Some months I've just managed to find other things to focus on or look forward to, which has helped. I don't think you can force it too much tho and sometimes it's ok to be upset about it too.

Fingers crossed for you. 5 months isn't too long as many people have said above.

I just want to let you know that I’ve said the exact same thing to my husband about celebrities and also general people I follow on social media/ who I’m actually friends with who have announced their pregnancy announcements or their babies being born over Christmas/New Year.

I can’t help but feeling jealous!

You are not alone. I’ve been off the pill since March, haven’t used protection since then and we’ve been actively trying (ovulation tests etc) since August now.

It’s difficult but you are not alone! I’m sure it will happen for all of us eventually.

My fertility window for this cycle should start Monday. Let’s be hopeful together!