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Covid vaccination

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Rudolphian · 24/12/2020 15:34

I think only you ladies will understand.
I work in the NHS and have been asked if I want my name down for the vaccine.
I have two kids. I am 37.
I've been trying to conceive for over a year.
Last year I suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks just 2 days before my 12 weeks scan. It took 4 months to conceive.
Then we waited a couple of months before restarting at the start of the year. But only a month. I got a letter stating I would need a procedure done at the hospital. And it wouldn't be safe if pregnant so stopped. Then covid struck and we waited a few months.
We have restarted only about 3 months. In the second month I had a chemical pregnancy.
Now I've been offered the vaccine.
I feel like I'm getting older and time is just passing. You're not supposed to get the vaccine if pregnant and not to get pregnant for 3 months after having it.
I dont know when I will get the vaccine I could be waiting a few weeks or could get it earlier if I put my name down.
Maybe in mid January?
But that would mean skipping next month. Then I'd need a repeat dose and then skip TTC for 3 months after?
Every month my period arrives I feel my mood dipping, and feel so low.
I just want another baby and my family would be complete.
I'm not sure what to do especially as I feel I'm getting older and so it would take longer.
Everyone I speak to says just get the vaccine.
I'm not antivax.
If I wasnt planning a pregnancy I'd get it.
Advice?
What would you do?
I dont want to wait another 5- 6 months and then I'll be nearly 38 and then have issues getting pregnant.
But equally I dont want to catch covid and get really unwell.

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Wildflower2 · 02/01/2021 09:59

It's a difficult one and I've been trying to decide likewise. Covid has disrupted so much and it's not really something I feel okay with sharing with other people. I couldn't get my coil removed for about 4/5 months because they stopped doing this. Now we've been trying for 6 months and I'm 35+. So we've decided to stop trying until I've had the vaccine. Whilst I really just want to keep on ttc, it's thought of having Covid, the potential long term side effects, plus the risk of transmission to others. Hopefully I'll have the vaccine soon and then we can carry on with ttc, it adds a few months into our ttc journey.
It's such an individual choice to make, there's no right way to go on this.

ChristmasBubble · 24/12/2020 21:41

I'm TTC and over 40 and work in NHS. I won't be applying for the vaccine as a result.

Presumably the Oxford one will be ok to take so if so I'll put myself forward for that.

Mooey89 · 24/12/2020 21:41

Same here Op. we were TTC for 18 months, got a new job in July (NHS) have been waiting since then losing weight and to be eligible for MAT pay. Plan was to start IVF in Jan/Feb. They’re offering us the vaccine.
I’ve been reading it, and my thoughts are that they don’t want you to TTC for three months because obviously it’s an unknown. They can’t test on pregnant women and they don’t know enough about it yet to confirm it is safe, but they also state that there’s no reason to believe it will be unsafe in pregnancy.
I’ve put my whole life on hold not doing this or that ‘incase we’re preganant’. I’m having the vaccine and still resuming TTC in Jan.
Good luck x

Fluffygreyjumper · 24/12/2020 21:29

The more people you ask the more conflicting and confusing advice you will get, and you will start to doubt your decision. I havent asked a single for an opinion, for that reason.
I'm sure you will do whatever feels right

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Rudolphian · 24/12/2020 16:44

Yes. I'm in the 2ww.
It's just I've asked my sisters for advice and they said just get the vaccine.
I don't think they understand what it's like when you are TTC. Especially as it's been over a year what with waiting for one thing and another. And then you dont know what might happen in 5 months time.

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Fluffygreyjumper · 24/12/2020 16:24

I am really sorry to hear what you've been through with MMc's/CP's.

Our stories are only vauguely similar in that I also work for the NHS, have been offered the vaccine and am TTC, in my second cycle of trying currently. I have declined the vaccine, like you I'm not anti vax, was offered it during my 2ww. Now that I'm into the swing of TTC I'd rather continue uninterrupted.

When it comes down to it, vaccine is a choice, you shouldn't feel pressured to take it if it doesn't fit your personal circumstances.

Baby dust x

Bizawit · 24/12/2020 15:58

Unless you are at particular risk from COVID, I would say follow you heart and keep ttc. ❤️