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Post Pill TTC - Rave on

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Juno231 · 24/12/2020 02:56

It’s that time again, the 6th post-pill thread of ladies who are experiencing the highs and lows (mainly the lows…) of coming off the pill and TTC! Here you’ll find stories of delayed ovulation, crazy long follicular phases, crazy short follicular phases, light AFs, short luteal phases, long luteal phases, confusing temp charts and blindingly white OPKs, to name a few.

Join us, won’t you? We're a lovely bunch and we'd love to help you make sense of post-pill life if we can!

Welcome back:
@kay00
@Moocher90
@MintGreenLife
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@MancMama39
@sperr
@crabette
@charwils
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@luna57
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@mrsmacmc

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Sperr · 14/01/2021 15:56

@MissC07 that comment made me laugh! I swear men think that it’s an automatic if you have unprotected sex that you’ll get pregnant.

@Nellieee I have nothing lined up! I might treat myself with a trip to Superdrug on the weekend and get a selection 😂. I’m going lockdown mad.

Nellieee · 14/01/2021 15:44

Ps @Juno231 just saw you did a sneaky test. Sorry it was negative! Butttt as you say, it's an IC ANDDDD it's the afternoon!

@MissC07 LOL! Oh I really felt that comment. Mine says it all the time "reckon your pregnant". Have to remind him I'm not the Virgin Mary and it doesn't happen like that! 🤣

@Sperr absolutely. Have you got another frer lined up?

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Juno231 · 14/01/2021 15:16

@MissC07 hahahahahahahahahahah

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MissC07 · 14/01/2021 15:07

@Kay00 hoping your O comes soon and your OPK's spring to life again.

@Sperr 🤞 for testing at the weekend. You have such restraint lol!

@Nellieee completely get you with the OH not giving two hoots about the science behind it all. The first time we DTD after I came off the pill he was surprised I wasn't pregnant later that evening! I asked him yesterday if he wanted to see my OPK and BBT temp chart and he couldn't run away fast enough! MEN!!

Sperr · 14/01/2021 14:30

@Nellieee @Juno231 I just figure the longer I leave it the longer the hormones have to brew 😂. I’m so glad I’ve seen more threads about people not getting a BFP until way later because I definitely started to think I was broken. I mean as long as there is no AF there is still a little bit of hope.

The weather is terrible where I am so I’m not even a little tempted to pop to the shops to get a test.

Kay00 · 14/01/2021 14:12

@juno231 Damn!!

Nellieee · 14/01/2021 14:12

@Juno231 ha! Sometimes it feels like he thinks I pop them like sweets. I have informed him of the health reasons, not that he'd remember!! In one ear out the other. If it was to do with sports, he'd know it like the back of his hand!

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Juno231 · 14/01/2021 14:11

@sperr omg your will of steel!!

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Nellieee · 14/01/2021 14:10

@Sperr have you still not testing again?! Omg you are so restrained!! Good luck for the weekend test!!!

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Juno231 · 14/01/2021 14:09

@Nellieee ha mine took supplements when I bought them AND handed them over to him to take. If I just reminded him to take them, he'd inevitably grab the female ones by mistake - even though the pregnacare ones are pink for women and brown for men... When I figured f* this he can do it himself he's obviously not taken a single one since!

Also does your OH get that folic acid is to prevent spina bifida and isn't a magic bean we're dumb enough to take lol!

@kay00 I actually caved in and did a cheapie half an hour ago lol. Very much a BFN! I know I could still get one and random afternoon wee isn't great for an HPT but I just don't think it will happen this cycle either!

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Sperr · 14/01/2021 13:57

@Nellieee my OH was the same about vitamins to start with- I ended up just buying them for him and for a week having to remind him to take them. Now he just does it on his own!

Still nothing to report and officially 1 week late for AF. Counting down to re-testing on the weekend!

Kay00 · 14/01/2021 13:53

@nellieee probably is. I am pretty sure I have ovulated every other month so far since coming off the pill, so my body will have another attempt soon.

@juno231... so when are you testing???

Nellieee · 14/01/2021 13:24

Ps @Kay00 maybe it's another delayed O? I hope so!! Bless you

Nellieee · 14/01/2021 13:23

Amen sisters! I was talking about the exact same to my boyfriend yesterday when having a little rant. He shows very little interest in the science behind it all. So lax. It grinds my gears tbh. It seems most people on here have similar experiences with their partners, so hopefully no one thinks I am making sweeping statements.

Also bored at the suggestion that I am being over the top buying OPKs, pregnacare etc. It's not OTT at all. Folic acid is so important! And what's the point in TTC if you're doing it on the wrong days?!

Last week I asked why he doesn't take any supplements. The retort was "I don't need them!", which shortly changed to "tell me what I need and I'll take them". 🙄 here's an idea, try this thing called google. It's got loads of info on it! 🤣 Rant over!!

@TheDaydreamBelievers good luck to you TTC again!! Glad it was good news from the docs!

@Juno231 chart still looking great! Plenty of charts on FF have fluctuations in LP resulting in positives!!

ChinChilly · 14/01/2021 13:17

@TheDaydreamBelievers the hummus tub worth of wee made me laugh 😂 @Juno231 I’m not sure he could of missed it, it was luminous FMU 😂

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Juno231 · 14/01/2021 12:48

@ChinChilly ha I'd guess he didn't even see it!

@TheDaydreamBelievers totally understandable - was just checking in case there had been any of the emotional support kind perhaps!

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TheDaydreamBelievers · 14/01/2021 12:29

@Juno231@ChinChilly I have left my cup of wee about on several occasions, my DH didnt notice a giant hummus tub worth of wee the other day!

ChinChilly · 14/01/2021 12:21

@Juno231 I left a wee cup with wee in it on the side the once, OH must of just pretended he didn’t see it 😂

Kay00 · 14/01/2021 12:09

@TheDaydreamBelievers Great news!! Hope you get what you need today Wink!

@AMS19 Hopefully your tests will start showing a negative soon too xx

My OH is pretty useless too. He would rather I just never talked about it, and he thinks I'm completely nuts taking all the supplements that I take. When AF turned up last he said he was upset too... but that was because we couldn't DTD for a few days - haha! Grin Cheeky F*!

My OPK this morning was very light... so my body has stopped any LH surge it was attempting. Sigh. I just want AF to come now. CD31... my latest Ov was CD35, so my body might try again yet! Urgh!

TheDaydreamBelievers · 14/01/2021 12:09

@Juno231 sadly no, MMC isnt a very sexy fun time haha. DTD has been a bit on the backseat

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Juno231 · 14/01/2021 11:55

@TheDaydreamBelievers yes!! exactly that! Like OH at one point last summer freaked cause I forgot my (empty!) wee cup on the sink. And I told him to man the hell up, at least he's not the one to have to dip wee sticks a million times a month to make this baby so he should just be grateful!

Bang it out asap btw! Did you manage to get any in the run up too?

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TheDaydreamBelievers · 14/01/2021 11:23

@Juno231 got a peak OPK and temp went up this morning, so hopefully this is ovualtion time Grin.

Its interesting, I showed my DH the OPK this morning then immediately thought ooh perhaps that's putting a lot of pressure on tonight maybe I shouldn't have showed him but... you know what f-that. He wants a baby just as much as I do and he knows that we are having sex both cause we are attracted to each other AND to conceive. I already have to do all the tests, why should I be alone with the cognitive and emotional bits too?

Robyn101 · 14/01/2021 11:18

@Mol234 I’m so pleased for you and amazing catching it on your first ovulation too!

@TheDaydreamBelievers such good news welcome back into the game lovely ❤️

ChinChilly · 14/01/2021 11:04

@Juno231 talking of emotional intelligence with OHs mine is a right miserable shit this morning FFS, not sure why they say women and confusing we have hormones...men are just fucking wierd 😂

@TheDaydreamBelievers that’s great news, glad things have settled down for you

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Juno231 · 14/01/2021 10:56

@TheDaydreamBelievers yay! where in your cycle are you now? here's to hoping the whole higher chance of conceiving after an MC is true!

@abi555 I get what your OH is saying but I think I'd still be upset. It just shows how secondary/passive they are to this whole process I think. In contrast, one of my male friends would have a period tracker on his phone with his wife's details on it so he could be on it for FW. Meanwhile with my OH I could probably get to 5 months pregnant before he'd think to ask how TTC is going lol.

I find most OHs involvement in TTC woefully inadequate tbh. 90% of them seem to have no inclination to learn any of it themselves, don't check in on when you think you might be ovulating, when you will be testing etc. When we were 6 cycles in and I was starting to get worried it wasn't happening - my OH thought we were maybe 2 cycles in! Not to mention he seems to have zero clue why I get upset when AF shows....

Gah don't mind me, just wishing I had an OH that had more emotional intelligence than a goldfish!

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