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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Ttc guidance and advice.

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Tonimays · 16/12/2020 23:25

Hello everyone, I've been ttc for over two years now and had no luck unfortunately - had 2 chemicals and a miscarriage at 6+4 weeks Sad I've never used OPKS or measured my BBT or checked my own cervix or any of the stuff I read about on here as it seems so confusing for me - I was just wondering if any of you lovely ladies could explain it simply to me - I don't understand when to use opks as my cycle is constantly irregular and my temperature is naturally always low as I'm a cold person.
Could anyone kindly explain the ttc process and pass on any tips of the trade you have?
( I have had bloods, smears, internal and external ultrasounds and all are okay)

Just a wanna be mamma waiting for her rainbow baby :( thank you all xx

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Horehound · 17/12/2020 00:00

Yeh I know what you mean. I'd deffo try an app to start logging your cycles properly if you aren't already.

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Tonimays · 16/12/2020 23:55

Thanks!!

It's such a stressful process and I know it shouldn't be and stress isn't good for the body but I can't help it!!!

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Horehound · 16/12/2020 23:38

See that doesn't seem too irregular to me and I don't think a GP would class that as irregular either.
Just extend the amount of days you have sex by two or three days.

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Tonimays · 16/12/2020 23:36

Thanks so much for replying so fast! My cycles are strange - one month I convinced myself that I was pregnant as I had two faint pregnancy tests and AF was a week late then suddenly AF showed her ugly face Sad but for the last few months AF has either been two days early or 3-4 days late - it's never certain to pinpoint it. I get cramps throughout my cycle and tender breasts throughout.

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Horehound · 16/12/2020 23:36

Hello.
Now I'm not gonna say I'm an expert or anything but I did buy a thermometer. Basically for one cycle you should wake up and take your temperature immediately. Note it down. If you are an increase over a few days then this indicates you are ovulating so you know to get at it ;)
Once you've done this for a month or two or three you might see more of a pattern in your cycle.
Also, download the app called Flo. You select that you are trying to conceive and you log when your period is. Since your cycle is erratic it may take a few cycles to get into the swing of things and figure out the best and most likely time you're ovulating. Start having sex every other day during the lead up to ovulating. Sperm can survive up to five days so it's good to have a sperm sitting there waiting for your egg to be released.

Opk's...hmm I am currently using them and I used them when I was pregnant with my first but actually I don't think they are very useful.i don't think I ever saw a positive one.
I'm just doing it right now just to see

The best thing you can do is monitor your discharge so if you have what seems like egg white that is a big sign you are about to ovulate and this discharge helps sperm reach your womb.

Good luck

Lemondropsandgumdrops · 16/12/2020 23:32

When you say your cycles are irregular, do you have a minimum and maximum length? This could help determine when you start doing OPKs. If not I’d just do them from about a week after your period ends daily, you can get really really cheap ones on Amazon so it’s not too expensive that way.

With BBT, even if your temp is naturally low it’d still rise post ovulation. BBT used alongside OPKs can help pinpoint ovulation which can hopefully help increase your chances of falling!

I’d recommend the ‘Premom’ app for OPKs as you don’t need to read them yourself, the app takes a photo of the OPKs and figured out the test to control ratio and let you know if they’re low/medium/high so there’s no guessing game of ‘is this a positive of not’. Good luck!

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