Magic dust for 2021 5month+ crew continued

Oh gosh @Lynne425, I am so sorry and heartbroken for you. I know there is nothing we can say to make it any better. If you do want to come and rant we are here for you! Switching off from TTC for a short while will do you the world of good xxx

Hey again @8LPS, that is exactly it! Genuinely so happy for all my friends but every announcement chips away at my positivity a little bit more. Absolutely, I worry about DH and I have told him he should open up to a friend about it! I told him about one couple we know struggling to TTC, and suggested he talk to that guy about it, he said he would if the moment presented itself.... So obviously he won't! Re your ovulation day, it probably just was 3 days ago (agree with @Louisa199). My app does that too, because it all depends on your BBT it is normal to move around each month. Mine often does it but the other way around, making it later than the app thought.

Also my symptoms are so much more noticeable now!! When I ovulate I feel sick, pee a lot, loss of appetite, cramps. I am sure I never had this before! The first month we TTC I thought I was pregnant because of this ... what a wally.

@RedLippyK8 Hi! It sure is, that's what we're here for...I swear this wee group has been a lifesaver when I've been struggling with what feels like the never ending TTC journey!

It's very difficult and really conflicting - you're happy for others but so wishing for that happiness yourself! I had to take myself off social media - I sadly lost my wee boy at 18 weeks in July, since then my sister is due next month, my best friend, another friend and four women at work. So happy for them but it's just too many reminders so was best to come away for a bit!

Oh, that is so awful :( I'm so sorry to hear that, of course that will be an added pressure as you'll so want to share this with your fiancé's mum ❤️ However, please don't give yourself even more stress or pressure than you likely already are - it would be so lovely if you can share this with her but you can only do what you can. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞xx

Hey ladies - I’ve not managed to read all your comments as there’s so many of them but is this thread still going?! I hope so, I could do with the mental support!

We’ve been trying for 7 months and I really thought it would have happened by now! I get what you mean by friends around you getting pregnant! I have several friends who are pregnant, not close close friends but one of them started trying before us, I am very happy for her but I am also VERY jealous and frustrated it’s not us pregnant! Also I really want to get pregnant soon as my fiancé’s mum has terminal cancer so I want her to know I am pregnant before she passes...

Hope to hear from you all soon! Much love X

@8LPS sorry for breaking in, If the app changes your ovulation day, it is probably you upload a positive ovulation test result in the app and it labels it as an LH peak. Or if you are uploading BBT to the premom app, when the app notices a BBT spike, it will change the ovulation day as well. I might be a little bit more familiar with the premom app, I have been using it for almost a year, just thought I can share some experience with you ladies.

That’s such exciting news @jules5232 congratulations 🎉!!

@KerryW87 hmm I’ve not had this before but I’ve heard of people spotting a few days before ovulation. Maybe keep an eye on it and see if it’s just a one-off?

On a side note - I had a bright red bleed today on CD10. Period ended 5 days ago! Now reduced to just sort of pink/brown tinged CM. Bit concerned 😩 Was a negative ovulation test today and don't usually get a peak until CD13 anyway so can't be linked to that....has anyone had similar and was it anything to worry about?

@jules5232 Aww amazing news! 💕🎉 Congratulations, so happy for you! xx

Thanks!! Im so excited but also trying to remain calm until the doctor verifies. Today was 17DPO on cycle 12 (a couple months didnt stand a chance from a UTI/antibiotic I had to take). Been having light brown/very pale pink CM when I wipe off and on since 14dpo with cramps so I've just been waiting for AF to show, everything feels like a normal cycle. Finally cracked today and ran to buy some first response tests and was shocked!!

Omg ladies!!! Spotting and cramps for days now.

@AKcheer I usually do spot the evening before AF starts, more like a warning sign. Then she comes on full strength the next morning. However it still hasnt started and I'm over it. I called to schedule my hsg because of the spotting and now it's been three days with small spotting and AF cramps just waiting for it to show. Otherwise I'll have to cancel and hope they find me another date.

@Lynne425 I'm so sorry to hear that, I'm heartbroken for you. Please feel free to come back and talk if you have a day where you need some outsiders to listen! 💕

Lynne, I’m so deeply sorry 😞 take all the time you need to heal. Sending you lots of love and well wishes 💐 xxxx

@Lynne425 Oh I am so, so sorry ❤️ I'm heartbroken for you. We're all here for you if and when you decide to come back onto this. Please look after yourself ❤️ xx

I’m so sorry to hear that @Lynne425 Sending you a big virtual hug. Hope you are able to take some time for yourself xx

Morning all

Thought I'd just let you know I went for my early scan this morning and I'm absolutely heartbroken that there was nothing there 💔! Just an empty sac.

I'm prob gonna come off this and social media for a bit to heal but just to let you all know I'm thinking of you all xxx

Oh dear for some reason I seem to have missed reading loads of messages! Sorry for the spam all!

@AKcheer - can I ask what you said to GP to get them to check your bloods? I've not been to GP at all yet because I'm 32 and been trying less than 1 year (I'm currently on cycle 10 of TTC). I'd be grateful for any info as I'm dying to get the ball rolling on getting any tests done on me/DH to see if there are any problems! Just feel so impatient and fed up now and would rather they tell me if something's up! But I know that's not always the way these things go..

@Rose2108 sorry, I missed your message about your friend who is pg. I had the same thing when my friend told me she is pg back in December - nothing will take away your happiness for them, but god is it a slap in the face when they say that they didn't have to try hard! I'm sorry you were so upset, I know the feeling exactly!

Sorry for being MIA - sometimes find replying to messages on my phone so annoying cus I have to scroll so much lol! So I have to get my laptop out which I have done now :) Just caught up with the messages!

@Rose2108 - yes AF making an appearance is definitely less devastating than a BFN! AF came a couple of weeks ago and I was absolutely gutted. First time I've cried about it, and each month it gets harder to cope with.

@AKcheer & @Rose2108 - I completely agree with DTD every other day, that's what I'm doing as well. For a couple of months, we tried to do it once a day for 4 or 5 days straight and it was just too much to cope with. I have seen online that DTD in the morning means better sperm..or something..? So we even tried that and DH was just too exhausted.
@AKCheer I'm sorry that you and DH couldn't DTD - hopefully didn't affect your chances given that sperm can live in your body for a few days after sex. Where are you at in your cycle now?

@KerryW87 - hope you're feeling better now! Or hope feeling sick is a sign of something good!

@Lynne425 - hope your appt went ok!

So AF arrived a couple of weeks ago and I just felt like shit. So did DH, but at least I have you girls to rant to if I need to! However DH has no one else and I wondered if anyone knows of any support forums like this, for the men who are TTC? The only decent one I found was on FB but looked like it was only for men going through IVF and other fertility treatments/problems. Plus I'm not so sure DH or I would like it if the following notification popped on his friends/families pages: "XXX has liked a new page on FaceBook - Chat for men with fertility problems" lol - definitely not something we want to broadcast at all!

Has anyone noticed that their PMS symptoms have worsened or changed since TTC? Even where I am right now in my cycle, my boobs are pretty tender and I'm not anywhere near AF!

At the mo, I'm in the functional DTD phase of the cycle lol, and I could be ovulating today or tomorrow. I have been inputting my temp on Premom app and overnight, it changed just magically my ovulation day from today, to 3 days ago?! I saw on the App Store reviews that the app can have glitches sometimes - but how annoying! I got a static smiley face on my OPK on Tuesday if that makes any difference. I'm still not au fait with tracking when I usually ovulate so the app change has really thrown me off now.

@Rose2108 Aww no, I so feel for you 😭 It's a horrible feeling, isn't it? Of course you're happy for your friend, but it's also so upsetting when it's something you've been wanting too, especially when you've been trying for a while. You had every right to have a wobble and a miserable night, just hope you're feeling better today ❤️

Ohh is the online panic room quite good then? I've always thought the real ones looked like great fun, might look into the online one and rope some friends in just as a way to kill some time during Lockdown 8.3 😂🙃

@AKcheer Ahh, amazing! That's definitely reassuring. I'm so glad you managed to get through to your GP and get some clarification, it would have just played on your mind otherwise!

Hahaha, fair enough! Ah well, keep the money you'd have spent on that and buy yourself something instead 😂🎉

My partner phoned the hospital this morning because we thought we could do the sperm sample today and drop it off for analysis...must be one hell of a lot of couples also doing the same because turns out the next slot they have to drop off a sample is 10th February! 😱 So sadly we won't get any answers this cycle, but nothing we can do. I usually feel fairly hopeful every cycle but I'm on CD8 now so should be starting SMEP but honestly don't think we'll bother following it - didn't work the last two cycles we tried it so think we'll just try and cover a few days of the window and not stress even further. Just don't feel this will be our month at all...not sure why I feel so negative but I do! 😂🙈