Aunt Flo 4 days late but negative test?

@Foundmyfeet wow you've had quite the rollercoaster journey then, I'm so sorry for your miscarriages😢

How did you find IVF? I'm 28 so I know I still have time, I'd just really like to have my first by the time I'm 30. I wanted to have a big family as my own is so small but now because of how long it's taking I'd be happy to just have one child.

@Mikamee hey welcome! Our bodies are so annoying aren't they nothing is ever black and white there's always maybes and possibles and it just makes it more stressful. How long have you been trying?

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@hopingforhappiness92 - I've spoken with the doctors many times about my fertility. DH and I have been checked out and all is good. I've got good egg reserves for my age also so I'm thinking there has to be one good one in amongst them! I'm 43 next month so have been feeling the pressure a bit.
We had a round of IVF on the NHS because DH doesn't have any biological children and we'd been TTC for a year (I lied and told them 2 years otherwise the referral would not have been made plus I had to have it all done before turning 42 as per their regulations). I had a low dose of meds because I was high risk of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome but still produced 5 eggs, of which 3 fertilised but 2 were good quality. So the 2 were implanted, however it wasn't a success.
3 months later I fell pregnant naturally and had an MMC. Totally broke my heart when they couldn't find the heartbeat and the process of miscarrying was a huge, painful trauma.
Then I fell pregnant at the beginning of lockdown, but I knew it didn't feel right. True enough I started spotting 2 weeks later and miscarried naturally at home. Nowhere near as traumatic as the MMC but saddened me nonetheless.
Spoke to my GP and asked if I could be referred to the miscarriage clinic but was denied one must have 3 MC's before being referred! I explained that I don't have time on my side and I don't want to have to go through another MC just for a referral. I want to know if there is something going on that I can fix with a tablet/vegetable/fruit/vitamin/extra glass of water/whatever!

@Em39ma - welcome aboard the boat! Is this your first time ttc?

I’m with you too. 3 days late only getting BFN. Got sore boobs, slight cramping. No sign of AF at all.
Will wait another few days and test again.

Yes life certainly keeps you guessing doesn't it.

Sorry to hear you started your AF. Onwards and upwards though!

I think I had a tiny bit of spotting today so I'm pretty sure AF is on its way, I thought the same too about wasting £10 on a FRER 😅.

Have you spoken to the doctors yet?

@hopingforhappiness92 ah I'm sorry to hear that you've miscarried also. It's so heartbreaking and then to lose your mum..you have my deepest sympathies. Life certainly likes to throw some curveballs.
It's easy to start imagining all sorts is wrong with our bodies when it doesn't do what we want it to! And it's easy to get stressed and obsessed about it which can hinder the natural process. That's why I've handed it over and not stressing about it. What will be will be. And I know it's easy for me to say as I have a 14yo DD but she is not my husband's biological child and I would love for us to have a child together.

Aunt Flo greeted me this morning on waking up! Just wish she came when she should've so I could've saved myself a tenner on the pregnancy test!

How are you today?

Well it's a bit of a long story really but 3 years ago we started trying and I fell pregnant the first try. I sadly had a miscarriage around 7 weeks and after that I didn't feel ready to start trying again for probably 5/6 months. I figured at the time as I'd fallen pregnant the first month we didn't have anything to worry about when it came to our fertility.

We started trying again after that but my mum had cancer and she was starting to get really sick by this point- she had a terrible time of it and no doubt the stress of it all impacted on my fertility or I least I assumed it was at the time as we weren't falling pregnant.

When she died we stopped trying altogether again as I just couldn't face it on top of the grief. So we had another break from trying but even when we weren't trying I'd started bleeding in between periods- and in the end I was convincing myself I had all sorts wrong with me even though I'd gone for checks and they couldn't find anything wrong. Anyway I ended up going on the pill for 6 months and thankfully since I've come off I haven't been bleeding in between anymore.

I've spoken to the doctors about it but because we haven't had 12 consecutive months ttc we aren't eligible for any checks or treatment yet. So now since I've come off the pill it's been 3 cycles- moving on to cycle 4 once AF decides to show up.

Sorry that was really long 🙄 haha but I just can't believe that 3 years on from that first pregnancy I still don't have a baby and it's been the only BFP I've ever had. I dunno what to do other than keep trying until docs agree to look into it more.

@hopingforhappiness92 - do you mind me asking how long you've been ttc? I've been trying for almost 3 years. I've put so much pressure on myself but decided to just put it in the hands of God/the universe now. Can't keep beating myself up about it every month.

Sounds like a plan! No more testing.. in some ways I feel a bit relieved, just dropping all that expectation and worry.

What will be will be and in the meantime I'm gonna chill the f out 😅

@hopingforhappiness92 the stress thing is very true. I had massive anxiety over the summer but have found my feet again (hence the name of my handle ), and now I'm in a good place and practicing peace and harmony, so it's a bit of a surprise to me that my period is late! Who knows why? All I know is that I'm not pregnant...again! Lol!
It is disheartening to keep taking tests showing BFN's all the time.
Let's make a pact together not to test until late next week to save our sanity! Whaddya reckon?

[quote Foundmyfeet]@hopingforhappiness92 - I've been reading the same posts as you too! I'm leaning towards this being a long cycle rather than resulting in a BFP now. I just hope it's not too long a cycle! I'm going to test next Friday if AF hasn't made her appearance as that will make me 10 days over.

The last time my cycle went out of kilter was when my grandmother passed away over 2 years ago but rather than a delayed or missed period, I had 2 within 7 days of each other! [/quote]
@Foundmyfeet

Bless you, lots of things can affect cycle length including stress! But at the same time it's perfectly normal for you to have a cycle that's longer than others every now and then. It's just a massive pain in the bum when ttc because we psyc ourselves up so much! Normally we probably wouldn't even notice 😂

I've been taking pregnacare supplements so I'm wondering if that's had an effect on my cycle length as I've seen from others that can happen. I'm doing my best to just forget about it for now because it's too much hard work testing all the time for it to only be negative.

@hopingforhappiness92 - I've been reading the same posts as you too! I'm leaning towards this being a long cycle rather than resulting in a BFP now. I just hope it's not too long a cycle! I'm going to test next Friday if AF hasn't made her appearance as that will make me 10 days over.

The last time my cycle went out of kilter was when my grandmother passed away over 2 years ago but rather than a delayed or missed period, I had 2 within 7 days of each other!

I'm 2 days late for my period too and had 3 negative tests. I've been reading a lot of posts about BFNs but no AF and the majority of the time it's just a late period. That doesn't stop me from driving myself crazy though!

Going by other threads it seems to be quite rare that people go on to have a BFP when they're in this situation.

That's not to say there's no hope you could be the exception, just to try and keep sane give it a week and see what happens. That's what I'm going to do at least.

Good luck to you ! X

I wanted to reply to your post yesterday but waited to do my PT this morning to see if I'm PG..but I'm not! I got a second BFN and I'm 4 days late. So I'm in that boat with you!
I have a 26 day cycle like clock work so I put my money on pregnancy when I'm late! I'm 43 in a couple of weeks time so I'm now worried it's menopause! I've got a 14yo DD but within the last 18 months I've had 1 failed IVF, 1 MMC and 1 MC.
My lower back and hips are killing me and my boobs are so sore. I've been feeling a little off the last couple of weeks so was surprised at the BFN. In saying that, my previous BFP's came after being 6 days late and onwards but the positives came up in seconds and were dark. I would've thought because there are only 2 days before I'm 6 days late, it would at least show a faint line?
I used that CB 6 days early test so surely it shouldn't be stark white if I am PG? I'm thinking that this is a long cycle...hoping it's not menopause.
Are you testing today again?