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TheHotelCalifornia · 25/11/2020 08:30

It’s that time again, the 5th post-pill thread of ladies who are experiencing the highs and lows (mainly the lows…) of coming off the pill and TTC! Here you’ll find stories of delayed ovulation, crazy long follicular phases, crazy short follicular phases, light AFs, short luteal phases, long luteal phases, confusing temp charts and blindingly white OPKs, to name a few. Join us, won’t you? We're a lovely bunch and we'd love to help you make sense of post-pill life if we can!

Welcome back:

@mintgreenlife
@juno231
@kay00
@sperr
@mrsmacmc
@chinchilly
@curcurbita
@tillybabs
@ams19
@moocher90
@trying4one
@flowerbudd
@pumpkineverything
@tatty1987
@mancmama39
@elsie2021
@danielle2012
@spencer22
@charwils
@ftm94
@lobster8
@musicaljojo
@laurat94
@crabette
@moocher90
@cams50
@thedaydreambelievers
@K80AWE
@emmgrem
@MissC07
@MOL234

Apologies if I’ve forgotten anyone, please tag them!

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LauraT94 · 25/11/2020 20:19

Hi @snow90 ! :)

I wish we were told how difficult it makes things before we start talking the pill! Might have made some of us think twice..

Deffo second the recommendation to start doing OPKs and tracking temps if you can?

I got the Femometer digital thermometer on Amazon, think it was £9.99?? But any thermometer that takes your temperature to two decimal points will work.

I also bought the Femometer LH tests. Think it was a pack of 50 LH tests and 20 HCG tests, also on Amazon.

I think most of us use Fertility Friends app to track. I also use Premom and Femometer whilst I'm working out which I like most!

snow90 · 25/11/2020 20:15

@Kay00 I've downloaded an app for the first time this month to track and I'm looking into OPKs. Are there any recommendations on which to get? After this AF will be the first time TTC eek!

Kay00 · 25/11/2020 20:11

@snow90 Welcome!! With super long cycles like yours you're certainly in the right place! Quite a few of us have long long cycles... my last cycle was 48 days for example. Do you do anything to track temperature? Or do you do OPKs?

snow90 · 25/11/2020 19:59

Hi everyone :) I'd like to join this thread please! I've been lurking for about a week and have just plucked up the courage to post.

I came off the pill in May and had withdrawal bleed in June. Didn't then get AF until end of Aug, then the next mid Oct and currently waiting for the next!

In hindsight I wish I'd come off the pill earlier but I didn't know it could cause such problems until I googled afterwards! I'd been on the pill for nearly 10 years so in all honesty I can't remember what AF cycle length was like beforehand!

Moocher90 · 25/11/2020 19:33

Thank you @LauraT94 :) I hope so too! I’m in so much pain and nothing I can do to ease it! I hope in a few days time I will be feeling much better

Moocher90 · 25/11/2020 19:31

@Kay00 thank you xx

LauraT94 · 25/11/2020 19:30

@Emmgrem that really does sound like a period then! It might just take you a couple of cycles to even out into a longer cycle.

I had the spotting for two days, thought AF was coming so didn't test LH. Then after a day of no spotting and no AF, feeling horny and lots of EWCM I took an OPK and it was really strong! And yes I cramped with ovulation. I think I'm 2dpo and still feel a mild cramping

@Moocher90 that sounds horrendous! Glad you managed to get some antibiotics and hope you feel better soon!

@TheDaydreamBelievers I'm sorry you have had such an awful experience. Thank you for sharing your story though ❤️ I hope the surgery goes smoothly and you feel better mentally and physically very soon ❤️

Kay00 · 25/11/2020 19:19

@moocher90 😔 kidney infections are really horrible, I hope you recover quickly xx

Moocher90 · 25/11/2020 17:45

@Kay00 yes mine is my kidneys! Wee doesn’t sting at all. Feel like the kidneys have done 10 rounds with Mike Tyson! So much so I had throbbing/shooting pains :/ and just hurt to sit, stand or walk. I’m glad to have the antibiotics as want to feel normal ASAP. Now at home in my onesie with a hot water bottle and just feel so uncomfortable as it’s a constant pain 😡

Kay00 · 25/11/2020 17:40

@thedaydreambelievers Sad It is indeed very sad, we are all so sorry for you. We will be here to give you all the support we can whilst you TTC your rainbow baby xxx Flowers

@moocher90 Shock oh no!! A&E!! It must have been really bad Sad I had a UTI last cycle... I was pretty ill for about a week but didn't want to take antibiotics (silly I know!). So i took some sachets to help with cystitis (even though my UTI was in my kidneys and not my bladder) they worked, but they work by making your system more alkaline... but you know what loves an alkaline environment? Thrush! Haha... I then had raging thrush for two weeks... I was not a happy bunny. Probably best you just take the antibiotics and get better soon xx

TheDaydreamBelievers · 25/11/2020 17:06

@meganchar1 I was 181 days so you dont want to emulate me! Can take quite some time.

@TheHotelCalifornia what a brilliant way to start the thread and all the congratulations in the world!!!

Intro to me for this thread:
Came off the pill March 2020.
Took ages to have a period. Honestly the second longest I have ever read (181 days).
However, got a BFP at day 47 of cycle 2.
Unfortunately learned last week that I have suffered a missed misscarriage at 10+5 weeks (discovered at 12 weeks +2 days pregnant).
I have surgery booked next week then will maybe be back here afterwards.

I know the above is a pretty sad tale, but I think it also shows that those of us with whacky post pill cycles can nonetheless get a BFP.

Moocher90 · 25/11/2020 17:02

@meganchar1

Sorry I mistyped..... see above post

Moocher90 · 25/11/2020 16:54

@TheHotelCalifornia congratulations on the BFP xx

@MeganCharl1 I came off contraception at end of august. Didn’t get withdrawal bleed until 1st week of October and just had my 1st period after withdrawal bleed at CD40. Now onto my 2nd cycle post pill and depo.

So I had to go A&E today. In complete agony and somehow have managed to get a water infection so I am on antibiotics for the next 7 days :( I’m CD7 today so I really hope this does not stop me from ovulating or delaying ovulation!!! Anyone worth experience of UTI and having this effect?!

Emmgrem · 25/11/2020 15:45

@LauraT94 oh really?! Hoping maybe I will still ovulate then, but I can't be right now- cramping, bleeding, feeling emotional and 0 on my OPK so feels more like a period but can't be at only CD19 🤷🏻‍♀️
Definitely no way I could DTD right now. Feel crap compared to CD5-7 when it felt like I was ovulating and had EWCM!
Did you get an LH surge at the same time you had ovulation spotting or did that all happen after and did you get cramps too?

JenLouNic86 · 25/11/2020 15:13

Thanks @Kay00 that’s true actually, I really didn’t think it would be ovulation spotting but maybe it was, I missed the boat with ovulation that time if it was though, so will see what happens this month, like you say not knowing what is what means it’s difficult to track. I’ve entered the details on the Ovia app so it’s now saying my average cycle is only 19 days long which obviously is just not long enough so maybe the vitamins etc will help

Kay00 · 25/11/2020 15:08

@JenLouNic86 hmmm... Ovulation at day 21 and a full period 14 days later sounds much better than a 21 and 14 day cycle, hopefully that's what it was Smile. Its difficult not knowing either was as either way it will effect how the apps predict you future fertile periods.

Kay00 · 25/11/2020 15:04

Excellent Smile i'm really looking forward to haring your full story @thehotelcalifornia

Flowerbudd · 25/11/2020 14:31

@TheHotelCalifornia OMG!! Congratulations what amazing news ❤️❤️ thats a lovely line for 9DPO!! 😀😀 xx

MancMama39 · 25/11/2020 14:07

@TheHotelCalifornia omg I have goosebumps reading about your BFP!! Absolutely over the moon for you, huge congratulations!!

What a week! It's wonderful to see so many BFPs! Xxx

LauraT94 · 25/11/2020 13:54

@Emmgrem sounds very similar to my cycle this month. I had a LH surge around CD18, but didn't ovulate. Then had EWCM and some fresh red spotting and ovulated at CD35 🤷🏼‍♀️ so as @Juno231 says, perhaps this is just ovulation spotting for you too!

JenLouNic86 · 25/11/2020 13:51

@Kay00 the one say at 21 days was light and only like 3 days but more than just spotting and then 14 days later was I would’ve said was a normal period. Maybe the previous one was from ovulation but I would say whilst light it was too much if you know what I mean! I was on the pill for nearly 15 years give or take so I wonder if my body is still just struggling to regulate itself. I started taking pregnacare at the beginning of this cycle so will see if that changes anything. I’m currently CD 12 and can’t say I’ve particularly noticed anything that would say I’ve ovulated but stil DTD in my projected fertile window so we will see 🤞🏻

ChinChilly · 25/11/2020 13:27

OMG! @TheHotelCalifornia what a fantastic start to the thread!! Congratulations!! ❤️

So many BFPs on this thread recently 😝

TheHotelCalifornia · 25/11/2020 13:24

@ams19 thanks lovely! Our due dates must be close!
@mintgreenlife 😊 😊 my cycle/pregnancy twin! It’s so crazy!
@kay00 thank you my love! Yes I really think our threads are lucky!!
@laurat94 thank you so much! It really does feel like a dream! I wonder when this feeling will end!?
@juno231 hahaha shut the front door cracked me up!! Thank you so much! Ahh that’s interesting that you think it’s a strong line! And yes, you were right about IB I think!! I think I must have implanted pretty early, 5 or 6 DPO! Crazy, crazy times.
@Elsie2021 welcome back and thank you so much! Sending you lots of baby dust 😊
@emmgrem thank you so much! Yes no probs I’ll share everything I’ve noted down!!
@crabette hahahah thank you so much lovely!! Can’t bloody believe it!!

Thank you so much everyone for all your lovely messages!! You’ve made me fully brim haha!! I just can’t believe it, honestly! Just trying to stay really positive while remaining cautious (which is VERY difficult!!)
I really hope this gives you guys some hope though as I really have had a blimmin nightmare since coming off the pill and feel so so so lucky and grateful that we have got a BFP. I will for sure do a full TTC journey recap don’t you worry about that! Got all my notes and still taking them each day so I’ll share in a few days! I’m only 3 weeks 3 days so INSANELY early. Still having sharp, needle-like twinges all over so hoping that’s a positive sign.

I won’t be going anywhere yet though if that’s okay, you guys have all helped me so much and I honestly don’t think I could have got through the last few months without this support system. Hopefully I can continue helping where I can!

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Kay00 · 25/11/2020 13:15

@crabette Haha, I saw it and tried to respond but it was closed :D

Hmmm... yes, we are in a very similar boat! My body was certainly having an Estrogen surge resulting in more EWCM than I have ever had... but my OPKs were flat at between 17% and 33%. I would have ignored my OPKs and got excited if my temps were higher, they they are so low!

My low temps, no LH surge and it all happening on CD16 makes me think nothing is really happening - haha! I'm going to wait to see if my temps rise again tomorrow and i'll keep testing with OPKs (another low at 20% this morning) to see if I can make head or tail of it.

I have bought a new thermometer in case my current one is calibrated wrong (my temps seem to be slipping lower and lower and were a lot higher a few months ago... and I have switched the battery, so its not that).

I have also ordered a progesterone test and a thyroid test online, so i'll keep you updated with the results... I will get to the bottom of this!! :D

crabette · 25/11/2020 13:07

And @Kay00 - sorry, I replied to you on the previous thread I think before I realised we'd moved 🙈

Your chart looks (kind of!) similar to mine. Very low BBTs, so a slight rise looks promising - FF actually gave me crosshairs a few days ago too, but I know from experience my post ov temps are higher than this, so I adjusted to fix it.

Funny you've had EWCM though, that's the only thing that would make me go, hmmm!

I've been ovulating I think around CD20-22 in the past few cycles, so see how the temps go for both of us! I'm still LH'ing too but getting nowt.

Post Pill TTC - Party Hard with a Vengeance