🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss

That's great news @AliceinBunnyland ❤️ I completely understand the need to protect your heart, but this is brilliant news and has given me a lift this morning. I don't know if this helps, and I can imagine the anxiety you must be feeling, but in my most recent pregnancy I really wanted to enjoy being pregnant, so each day I reminded myself I was pregnant and just took my time. I look back with happiness and I can't say that for my 2 previous pregnancies and I got a bit stuck with my grief. X

I'm relieved to finally have answers and I'm feeling hopeful that we might get our rainbow one day. Going into ttc with a plan and support is helping me. I don't expect it to work first time given our history of struggling to concieve, but I am hopeful. We have a plan to try medicated cycles and maybe even the nhs ivf cycle if nothing happens in a few months.

I'm very sorry to hear about your little boy @nchristie 💙 best wishes with your new job.

@Marshmallow123 I hope the hysteroscopy goes well on Monday and that you get done answers ❤️ I had a scan this morning and they confirmed all is clear, so I think I just had a small bit left behind and the antibiotics made it come away with my period. Let us know how you get on.

@kim80 hope you're doing OK. I know what you mean about waiting for test results - we're waiting for our genetic report from my last baby and I'm so anxious waiting for the postman. I've had a couple of letters from the hospital (they use distinctive recycled paper) and I can feel my heart racing when they arrive. I guess it's the trauma of always seemingly receiving bad news.
That's the strange thing about having our private tests and answers, I keep feeling like the hope is going to be snatched away.

I hope everyone has a lovely day ❤️ xx

@AliceinBunniland congratulations lovely fx for a sticky bean and a healthy pregnancy xx

@Mumlili9 I hope you get some answers.

@VenusStarr How are you feeling? I hope having some answers helps. I have been reading your updates even though I haven't been commenting much recently.

Hi all,

Thank you for adding me @Kiki275.

@Mumlili9 I am so sorry it was painful for you hopefully resting over the weekend will help. Sending hugs x

@nchristie sorry you find yourself here but I hope you gain some support as I have since joining these lovely ladies.

@Marshmallow123 hopefully Monday will bring some answers for you please let us know how you get on.

Just a little about me I'm 40 found out I east pregnant in July after going to the gap thinking I was menopausal after the initial shock we adjusted to the idea and became very excited. I had my 12 week scan when I heard the dreaded words no heart beat I was measuring at 11 +5 so was very close, I then had to have an erpc continued to bleed after this went for another scan and was told that I had lots of tissue left which looked like it had turned to cysts so they then started with a molar pregnancy and had to go back in for 2nd erpc after this we had the dreaded wait for the test results that came back clear phew, to we have now been given the go ahead to start trying again and each month having the support from this group which really helps as sometimes I feel if you havent been through this no one really knows how it feels.

Looking forward to positive journeys with you all.

Thank you for tagging me @Mumlili9 @VenusStarr and good to see you popping on to check on us @InDreamland and @frillyfucks (can't remember your new name!)

Sorry I keep NC snd confusing things. I have been Alice and SomeBunny and Yoga...

I am 36 and lost DD at 39+6 last year and then had an early MC / CP 6 months later.

DH and I had been trying again for over a year and I was at the point of giving up hence being a bit quiet on here but I got a BFP on 30 October.

It is early days and I am anxious. I wasn't sure when to mention this but starting the new thread with a BFP is hopefully a good start and I know in the past the BFPs have tended to come together so I hope there will be more for you all

Good luck ladies and welcome to the new people. This is a really supportive group 💗

Hi again, I'm 36 and had my first pregnancy this year. I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks in early August and opted for surgery. The baby had a high nuchal translucency at the 12 week scan which pointed to the possibility of genetic or cardiac issues, but NIPT (test for Downs and other chromosomal conditions) came back negative and genetic test they did on the placenta after surgery also showed the baby was a normal a little boy. So my best guess is his heart just didn't develop properly. Partially linked to the miscarriage I left my job of 7 years and just began a new one. I'm going to start trying for a baby in my next cycle. I'm on day 36 of this cycle and still no period. My cycles range anything from 24 to 37 days which is a bit of a pain for planning.

Thanks for the new thread @Kiki275 and thanks for the tag to make sure we know @VenusStarr

Hi to everyone, so sorry to hear that new people find themselves on this thread. This is a very supportive group of lovely ladies but obviously nobody would want to be in this situation.

I’m 30. MMC at the end of September, been bleeding pretty much every day since, scan two weeks ago because of bleeding showed a small piece of tissue still in there so I’ve got to have a hysteroscopy and that is on Monday.

Hi everyone, I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope you don't mind if I join in?

I'm Alexa, 34, I lost our little boy last Saturday at 21+4 after a severe diagnosis of spina bifida. I was due to be compassionately induced, but when I got there I was already in early labour, so he'd made his own decisions about what he wanted and was arriving on his own terms. It's so early, our hearts are so broken and obviously we're not actively TTC yet. But my entire body is screaming for a pregnancy so I thought I'd it was ok that I'd join in here?

He was a miracle in himself as I have suspected PCOS so I don't ovulate. I'm wondering if we lost him because of poor insulin control due to the PCOS. I'm looking for any reason at the moment. I have an older DS who is 4 next week.

@Jadem83 welcome and sorry for your loss. Hope you find this thread supportive xx

Hi ladies 👋 hope you don’t mind if I join you all . I’m 37 and incredibly blessed with 4 dc . Sadly experienced my first loss with a mmc of Twins back in April after ttc for almost 2 years and have been ttc again since June . Had a cp in August and no hint of a bfp again since . Cycles have been all over the place since the mmc anywhere between 24-32 days and currently trying opk for the 1st time this month hoping that it may help me out a little With ttc our rainbow . On cd 13 as I type . Lots of luck and baby dust to all x

Thank you @Kiki275, hope you're OK.

Hi @nchristie I'm sorry you find yourself here, but welcome ❤️

@Mumlili9 I'm sorry the hysteroscopy was painful - sounds like my hsg last year, never want to repeat that. I'm glad they didn't find anything and I hope that you aren't experiencing pof. Get some rest over the next few days, I remember after my hysteroscopy I was a bit crampy for a few days ❤️

Just a bit about me, I'm 37, I've had 4 losses - 3 MMCs and one very early loss. My last loss was October and I'm waiting for the genetic report.
I recently had some private testing and been told that my immune system is aggressive and likely to be the cause of my losses, so I've started a preconception plan with a couple of different medications and we're starting ttc again, which I'm absolutely petrified about.

@Marshmallow123 @kim80 @EatPrayYoga just in case you've not seen this new thread x

@Kiki275 thanks for the new thread

Hello everyone at the start of a new thread we usually do a little post introducing our selves so here's mine

Im 39 unfortunately I have 9 angel babies. The last loss was an ectopic and I also lost my left tube in February this year. We have been ttc since with no pregnancy.

I am currently recovering from a hysteroscopy preformed to see why my periods have become very short and very light. I suspected scar tissue but I don't have any, apparently my uterus was very healthy looking. So now I'm again waiting for the RMC to deside whats next on the list. The consultant made nods towards POF today but I'll need more tests to confirm this. I have to say the hysteroscopy was very very painful and dont ever want to do it again.

Hi everyone