Pre-conception, planning and trying!

So CD 23 for me opk finally back at low this morning. It seems like ovulation was trying due to LH high for so long but it just didn’t happen. In a way seeing the low this morning I was like okay atleast I know it’s not happening now :) gives me a solid 2 weeks minimum until next ovulation (praying it happens) to do as much exercise and healthy eating as possible :) I’m sticking to the no drinking for now but not going to lie I’ll be having a drink for my 30th in March with no guilt whatsoever :) hope everyone is okay! Nearly the weekend thank goodness! Sending all the positive energy and baby dust to you girlies :) we haven’t had a BFP yet during feb so waiting with anticipation and hoping it happens for one of you soon :) xxx

@Kayeyeem I know right :) sending so many positive vibes out in the hope that it happens for everyone here :) eek back in the tww! They creep round so quickly don’t they :) Hear you on the weight loss that’s my sole focus at the moment to try and take my mind of ttc lol! 36lb down in total so far and 21 since 1 Jan so replacing the obsession is working :)

@hollymaeres welcome good luck on your journey :)

@Arrierttyclock bless you it can be really frustrating but just know we are all here for you :) your cycle may take a bit of time to nofmalise but it will happen :) don’t blame you on the wine lack of ovulation this month is driving me crazy too :) hope you feel better soon :) re predicting dates and avoiding dates etc when we first started ttc in sept this consumed me I wanted a BFP to announce at Christmas and a summer baby- now I literally would have a baby any month of the year :) however I do still count from the start of AF every cycle to see what the due date would be and when 12 and 20 weeks would land so the planning never totally stops :)

@Wowthisisreal bless you so sorry to hear that af is giving you the run around really hope you get a BFP soon xx

@CookieMonster3001 that is so so true :) you always cheer me up thank you :) how are you feeling in tww?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 how are you doing?

@Curiosity101 @wrensandrobins are you both getting on okay :)?

@CookieMonster3001 that's so weird, we were going to wait until after my sisters wedding in July but when it got postponed a few weeks ago we decided to go for it but then I was panicking about her newly moved hen and there's jsut never ever a right time there will always be something!

@Kayeyeem it's so hard trying to plan isn't it because I'm told you can plan all you want but itl never work out- my friend didn't want a summer baby and was due in oct but her baby came super early in the august so now he's the youngest in the year but thankfully healthy!

@Wowthisisreal how frustrating for you, it's annoying but hopefully good news that AF hasn't come but you just want to know one way or the other! Xx

@CookieMonster3001 cycle is normally 29 days and today is day 30 so 'late'. Took the test today with FMU. It was the clear blue rapid detection one.

I have a bit of spotting 8 dpo which I was tentatively hopeful about after people on here said maybe ovulation bleeding, then nothing and then spotting started again two days ago and seemed to be getting heavier in that I thought right that's AF. But then nothing since!!

@Kayeyeem I hope I don't have to wait another week!! I want a wine but I guess a stupid part of me is still hoping. I've not been on the pill or anything since I was pregnant last time so don't have that excuse.

Welcome @hollymaeres 🙂 good luck to you!
@Arrierttyclock It does become an obsession doesn't it! 🙈
We planned both my previous pregnancies on when baby would be born to avoid work commitments my DH has and we're doing the same with this one 😂 not so bothered about an Xmas/Ny baby although it would be a pain lol.
@Wowthisisreal Oh frustrating! I had similar last cycle. Thought it was AF then it stopped so maybe it was spotting but AF did eventually arrive a week late. I think the stress of the TWW combined with coming off the implant messed me up. Fingers crossed for you!
@CookieMonster3001 Yay fingers crossed we both got a BFP this cycle! I'm trying so hard not to symptom check lol

@NewbieB I always used to use first morning wee as I drink a lot of water and struggle to hold it. On Sunday when I did an afternoon one though, I didn't drink anything at all from 10-2pm and then did an OPK at 2pm. I never get EWCM so cant help you with that one!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 you never know! for some reason my FB keeps throwing all these videos at me about women who didn't know they were pregnant and then gave birth! Im like HOW?! lol.. Yeah the walks and the positive thinking has really got me in a better headspace this month so going to keep at it!! How are we on a 3rd thread already!!!!

@mackjm20 hey when I used to teach, we used to do employability sessions and I always did a segment on confidence and I always used to say even if your not confident, just pretend like you are! Eventually you will get so used to it, you wont even realised that you have actually become confident and you are no longer pretending!! Trying to have that attitude about positivity and I am sure it will have the same effect!

@Kayeyeem yay another TWW'er! Me and you are probably only a day apart, I'm 2DPO today (1DPO according to my apps!) Don't you just love this time of month...….sarcasm

@hollymaeres welcome to the crazy gang!! I suppose we cant really call ourselves pre-conception planners anymore as I think we are all activity TTC! Any questions, please do let us know!!

@Arrierttyclock ahh don't worry, I don't think you are the only one, in fact I think most of us were obsessed before we even started TTC haha, its hard not to when you want something so bad! I think some women say they have a lot of flasheys before their static so fingers crossed its on its way. Given its your first cycle of the pill it wouldn't be unusual for it to be a bit haywire. I initially wanted to try and plan a baby around certain times, my sister getting married alongside other things, although 5 months on and now I am at a point where I don't care anymore, I just want to be pregnant and have a healthy baby. Funny thing is for ages I wanted to get pregnant for a certain time so it wouldn't interfere with my sisters wedding, that got postponed anyway and now if I fall this month then my due date would be a week before her newly arranged wedding. Typical! and it would be sods law this month is the month I get pregnant (not that I am complaining!!)

@Wowthisisreal that's strange! Has the spotting completely stopped? How long is your cycle usually?

Ugh. So I thought AF had come but then didn't go anywhere so I had a little bit of hope that maybe it was just spotting. But then took test this morning and BFN. But still no bleeding and I am on CD 30 which is now late. So confused and frustrated.

Love reading this thread! I'm on day 7 of flashing smileys and I'm sick of it tbh! It's silly because I didn't think I'd be so obsessed so quickly. I only came off the pill on the 23rd Jan, haven't had a proper period just a WB so I know I'm being super impatient. I don't think I'm going to ovulate and I'm breaking my diet with a glass of wine🤦🏽‍♀️
@hollymaeres I'm only first week of trying as well and it's fully taken over my life 😂

I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself because if I don't get pregnant this month but I did in March/April I could potentially have a Xmas/ NY baby which I wanted to avoid if poss. Does anyone else feel like that or is it a non issue?xx

hey!!

thought i would jump on here too, if that's okay?

my fiancé and i are TTC at the moment, only started around a week ago. we thought about it for a while and looked at various options but i'm hoping this will work for us!

my main "dilemmas" were mental health and iron deficiency, so i'm now on supplements for iron, b6, b12 and vitamin c. i'm also a low BMI so am looking at checking that with a doctor too.

@mackjm20 Wouldn't that be amazing 🤩 100% positives for every lady in this group 🤞🏼
Sorry to hear there's been BFNs for several of you ☹️
@CookieMonster3001 I'm doing ok thanks. I think I ovulated yesterday (according to Clue) so back into the TWW again. Just trying to focus of other things and enjoy DTD. I'm working on weight loss at the minute as I'm about 4 stone overweight 🙈

@CookieMonster3001 aw thank you :) that’s so nice! Haha I don’t feel positive I’m just trying to keep smiling so the negative doesn’t break my spirit :) thank you so much! The weight loss is keeping me going at the moment! I know it feels such a long time ago now :) 100 percent BFPs are on the horizon :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 sorry to hear about BFN keeping it all crossed for next cycle and think we will cross over twws :) for your first proper one eek :) hope you are okay :) can you believe another new thread :) xx

@sunflowersaremyfav93 that’s a good plan! I think I will start testing twice a say. No positive test yet and on day 12 of cycle today... looked back through flo though and had the egg discharge (sounds gross!) on day 16 last month so maybe I just am later than they predict.

Nice idea of starting new thread. 🤗

Sorry to hear about AFs on the way for some of you 😟. What a roller coaster it can be, not sure what i’ve let myself in for!

Quick question- what times of day do you find best to test using ovulation sticks? I’ve read not to use morning wee and maybe to test twice a day so don’t miss it? But what times!m? Does it matter?
Also- should the stretchy mucas arrived with it or when you actually ovulate? Sorry for the questions!! Xx

@sunflowersaremyfav93 ahh I am sorry about the negative, but at least you can focus on your next cycle now, fingers crossed for next month!! Defo get yourself out for a walk, I have been going every morning lunch and evening now which really helps break the day up and give me some fresh air. I have also started to do positive affirmations when I go for a walk and repeat them to myself in the hopes that it will attract some positive energy!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I know how you feel, I was telling my manager today that I feel like the last 6 months all the days have just blended into one, getting fed up of it now and just want to be able to see people!!
Not silly at all to want to test! I think I would be the same! If it would make you feel better, then just test but if you feel it wont then just wait until tomorrow. With me, I generally can sense if AF is going to come, but you still hold a little hope so for me testing would just confirm my thoughts and I not think about it for another day or two! But everyone is different, you have to decide what option is best for you!

Yep in my TWW now, my apps are saying I am 1DPO today but I am almost certain that I ovulated late at night on Monday so going to go with 2DPO. I don't want to test early, but I am a control freak so when I get to 8-9DPO I know I will be itching to test lol

@mackjm20 you are so amazing! I love how you always find something positive in the situation and you are so right! I am trying to take a leaf out of your book and be more positive about situations in general rather than feeling negative about stuff. You are doing so amazing with your weight loss, you will be at a healthy BMI in no time. My weight doesn't seem to be shifting at all! Gosh I cant believe how long ago that was when you were going back and forth and now March is next month! its crazy and it defo goes to show no point in waiting to TTC for the right moment, because there is no guarantees!

We have got this and will get our BFPs soon!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 @Kayeyeem how are you ladies doing?

@Wowthisisreal so sorry to hear af arrived. That’s amazing that it happened first cycle for you last time. Really hope it happens for you soon. It’s okay to be sad totally understand. Have some nice treats and lots of rest the next few days :)

@CookieMonster3001 thank you :) fingers crossed it sorts itself next month :) I’m okay it’s just beyond frustrating lol! Ah onto the tww for you :) keeping everything crossed for you lovely :)

@Arrierttyclock fingers crossed for you :) sounds like you have it covered :)

So CD22 for me opks still high but reducing each day. Still no bbt rise. I’m just hoping that this cycle ends soon as it seems that ovulation hasn’t happened :) on the plus I always have a target each month now for a bmi I would want to be if I get a positive (I would be seen by a gp asoon as I get a positive due to my blood clotting disorder) and each month it’s getting better :) at this rate it will actually be a healthy bmi before we get a BFP which Is the one silver lining in all of this waiting as will be nice to not have that to worry about whilst pregnant :) originally when COVID started and we delayed until sept to start ttc we had considered waiting until after my 30th in March (OGs from the thread may remember how much I went back and forward on this) so I’m thinking maybe as I will hopefully reach my healthy bmi in March that it was just meant to be for it to happen after then :) trying to drag any positive out of it not happening within the first 6 months lol x

@CookieMonster3001 oh ok!! Excellent - thanks very much, i may do the same 👍🏼. Just trying to wrap my head around it all!

@NewbieB I get all my tests from amazon (prime! haha) I think the Clearblue Advanced ovulation kit is around £27 and comes with 20 test strips, which would last me around 3 months as I use around 5-7 a month. And then the cheap OPKs I use are easy@home which is around £14 for a pack of 40 (and it comes with 10 cheap hcg tests too)

@CookieMonster3001 oh really?! Where do you get them from? Yeah, makes sense. X