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No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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Myjourney2021 · 26/01/2021 09:21

@HT1335 thank you. I know, and I know a lot of people are in similar or worse situations to myself it can just feel a bit though at times can’t it.
I hope you can get some answers soon. Try not to worry too much, my bloods were similar a few months back and it was just simple things that could be rectified with supplements! Good luck though, keep us posted 🙂

HT1335 · 26/01/2021 09:08

@HJen22 good luck for this month! I’ve everything crossed for you!!
@Myjourney2021 welcome this is the place to vent and air your frustrations as were all in the same boat unfortunately it’s taking us all a while to get out positive tests too! This forum will help you a lot
I’m just waiting of my gp to call I’m dreading it as I’ve a feeling something is wrong I just wish they’d call me and get it over with 😔 I also got a letter to say I need to discuss my results so there must be something showing in my bloods and a problem

Myjourney2021 · 26/01/2021 06:33

Hi everyone. I hope you don’t mind me joining in...
Been following a few threads recently but never really had the courage to comment but I’m getting to the point now where feel like I should get how I’m feeling off my chest 😫
Currently TTC #2, missed AF in Jan but convinced I ovulated around the time AF was due, due to CM and positive OPKs, I don’t know but if that’s right that puts me around 12 DPO. I’ve lost count the amount of tests I’ve done but of course all BFN. Last one this morning with FMU.
I know it doesn’t sound it but I’m really trying to be realistic and positive despite how I feel at this moment. I’m cycle 3 or 4 if you count the missed AF. DC #1 took a year to conceive and I know that makes me very lucky especially with diagnosed endo (S1) & pco so I’m so worried that it’s going to take so long and not sure I can take such a long wait especially in lockdown where there’s nothing to occupy my mind in a TWW which in my case has turned into a 4WW 🙃. Sorry for the long moany post, just needed to have a vent I think 🙂

HJen22 · 25/01/2021 23:06

@Aims1991 keep testing, I'm sure it will come soon! How long are your cycles normally?

Aims1991 · 25/01/2021 20:06

@HJen22 I bought other OPK's but still nothing 🙄

HJen22 · 25/01/2021 19:28

@ImpatientMama congratulations! I am over the moon for you 🥰 how exciting! I'm so glad that the line has gotten darker for you!

@HT1335 oh what a nightmare long cycle for you! I really hope you get some info from the doctor tomorrow!!

@Aims1991 totally, why do our bodies do this to us! Symptom spotting and delayed AF and the TWW, such fun! I hope your flashing smiley appears soon! I'm using clear blue ovulation this month; started on cd7 as I have about a 27 day cycle, one day of low and then for flashing smiley yesterday and today! So I'm hoping to go for it with DTD this week 🤞🏻 I've not told my BF it's flashing smiley so hoping by not saying and just insinuating it's less pressure! X

Aims1991 · 25/01/2021 19:12

@HT1335 Fingers crossed you get the right answers soon! I was 4 days late this month and that the first I've been late in 3/4 year! It's like my body knows we are TTC and is playing tricks on us🙄

HT1335 · 25/01/2021 18:31

@Aims1991 no I came off the pill in March and was fairly regular and now this is happening so I’m baffled.. hence I’ve seen the gp and need further investigation, hopefully get some answers tmorow 🤞🏻
Yeah best to use both! We’re just carrying on dtd at the moment as we have no idea what is happening or what stage I’m at or anything.. it’s very strange

Aims1991 · 25/01/2021 18:24

@HT1335 oh that's rubbish, has this happened to you before?

I've also bought test strips incase the clearblue one is rubbish🤣

HT1335 · 25/01/2021 17:23

@Aims1991 hope you get your smiley I used them once and I only got the flashing one!

I’m now cd59 and still no AF! I rang the doctors before and they said the doctor was reviewing my bloods and I’ve to ring up tmorow... I should be on my January AF now so this is 2 periods I have skipped 🤯🤔

HT1335 · 25/01/2021 17:21

@ImpatientMama yes it’s getting darker! Lovely news 😊 congratulations!

Aims1991 · 25/01/2021 16:10

@ImpatientMama Congrats 🎉
I'm still waiting on a smiley face on OPK and on CD13!! Been DTD every second day for a week🤣 hoping to get a BFP in February🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

ImpatientMama · 25/01/2021 14:16

I decided to be that person who tapes her tests into a notebook. Glad I did. I can really see the line progression and it looks like it is getting darker! Guess I will be calling the doctor today! Hoping this one sticks! Thanks ladies for all the support and I am still here for you! Sending good vibes your way way your bfps soon! 🙏

No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️
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HJen22 · 24/01/2021 10:19

@Marvellouslymadmum I'm so sorry to hear this sad news, heartbreaking. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and I really hope the GP can help. Look after yourself and take some time to rest ❤️ x

@ImpatientMama I really hope that your line gets darker and this is the month for you 🤞🏻 no one prepares you for this do they, I just thought you could a BFP or BFN when I first started on this journey! Had no idea about faint lines and then the worry. Everything crossed for you x

HT1335 · 24/01/2021 09:35

@Marvellouslymadmum oh I’m really sorry to hear this, I hope your gp can give you some support over this
@ImpatientMama ooh good luck let us know how you get on!

Marvellouslymadmum · 24/01/2021 01:53

@ImpatientMama thank you, I'll talk to my go Monday and see if she suggests anything I think

ImpatientMama · 24/01/2021 01:23

@Garman the line tests were cheapies and apparently aren't as sensitive as frer. The lines were so faint it is hard to tell if it is a true positive or evap line. The frer would have been clearer. And the digital test brand i used has lots of reviews about false positives. So I don't really trust it 100%. Of course I saw the reviews after I bought them. 🙄

After thinking about it more, I decided not to splurge on frer. I will just keep testing using the strips I have (I have a lot of them) and hopefully the line will get darker and more clear over the next few days. I am over buying expensive tests. For my first pregnancy I only needed one test. This second pregnancy is proving to be a lot more difficult. Not sure what I am doing differently. 🤷‍♀️

Oh no @Marvellouslymadmum! I am so sorry about your losses. Does your doctor have any suggestions for you? I hope your next bfp is a sticky and healthy baby! 🤞

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Marvellouslymadmum · 23/01/2021 23:22

Well I've finally found out the reason for my veeeeery long cycle! I was pregnant, but now I'm not 😔 currently going through a m/c so that's twice we've managed to get that bfp and twice it's ended like this at the 7.5 week mark, feeling very low and disheartened. I know it means we can get pregnant but it's taken 3.5 years in total to get to this point and they're not sticking when I do 😢

Marvellouslymadmum · 23/01/2021 17:35

@ImpatientMama definitely!! 🤞🏻 for you

Garman · 23/01/2021 17:31

You have two positive tests @ImpatientMama so how will a third make a difference convincing you?

ImpatientMama · 23/01/2021 15:15

Thanks @Marvellouslymadmum. I want to know for sure, so I think I will splurge and get a FRER. If that shows positive, then it must be true. Ha. I was loving the idea of having wine tonight, but if I need to skip it, I guess pregnancy is a good reason. Haha.

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Marvellouslymadmum · 23/01/2021 12:59

@ImpatientMama wow! I'd be inclined to trust it as that's two, but if you want to triple check frer could do that for you. Looks like congratulations are in order to me! 😊

ImpatientMama · 23/01/2021 12:57

@Marvellouslymadmum I did and it looks like it is confirmed?! But I have also read some reviews that this brand has been known to have false positives? Ugh. So I am not sure if I trust it 100%. I think I may go buy a FRER and see what it says?

No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️
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Marvellouslymadmum · 23/01/2021 12:53

@ImpatientMama I see a feint line! I say go for the digital and see what it says!

ImpatientMama · 23/01/2021 11:57

Tested this morning (12 dpo). I think there is something there but it is soooo light... I have a ton of these easy@home tests to keep testing with, but I really need to know if I am pregnant or not today. My husband and I have a date tonight and I would like to know if I am able to drink some wine. Haha. I do have 2 digital tests that I was holding on to so I could see the word 'pregnant. But I am considering using one this morning (I still have my urine in a cup). I am just so over spending money on tests!!

No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️
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