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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 18:18

@lastbany the frer did show negative for me. This morning in fact. I've had cramping and back pain and even a little nausea which I don't usually get with AF. So I was hopeful for a positive. But nope. So I am planning on taking a break from testing, and try another test when AF hasn't shown for a week.

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lastbany · 17/11/2020 18:17

@HJen22 thinking I will test Friday?! With a frer tha a week late! Thing is this will be our 4th I have two teenagers and a baby girl who will be 1 in dec, due to covid my consultant app regarding another pregnancy and when due to 3 sections wa a delayed and my doctor told me 12/18 months to wait to try when I got my consultant app over FaceTime she said no 12 months between sections! Which ment I could have been trying from 3 months!! Very annoying as due to my age and work we wanted to have babies close together so I can then drop hours at work not in a position to do yet , so we started ttc at 7 months and here we are! I spoke to my doctor at 4 months ttc (I know not a long time) but I've been very very fertile before! So was worried something wasn't right ! He was awful and said you've got 5 kids you will be fine well no I had 3 kids and 2 miscarriage he was useless! So this is really making me feel like an I aren't I? I feel I just can't be but why am I so late?!
Also this month we literally just dtd everyday for two weeks! As I'm sick of spending money on opks and preg tests it's so upsetting when you don't see what you want to!!! Also the prior month I never even got a static on opk so I was worried about tht!! Ahhhhh

HJen22 · 17/11/2020 18:08

@ImpatientMama I know it's so hard isn't it, after a few months of being pretty bad for symptom spotting I tried really hard this month to relax but on the lead up to AF I just can't help it! Why do they have to be so similar to PMS, I'm forever googling! I wish I was more laid back about it all, but I'm totally not. Every month I cry and am miserable for days but trying to be more positive this month! Same, I really don't want to get my hopes up; but as they say, we're not out til AF arrives!!

@lastbany I used cheap tests too, the only ones they had in the local co-op. I was going to wait as hate seeing the stark white space but thought if anything it will at least let me know AF is coming, I was losing sleep over thinking about it. I'm going to hold off until late a week to test again; with a more expensive test, when will you? Bless my BF is so positive and keeps saying I might still be but it just isn't coming up on tests yet 🤞🏻

lastbany · 17/11/2020 18:06

@ImpatientMama so did the frer even show neg? I feel this may be positive for me then?! I have had af cramps or cramps for over 10 days now! But just no af keeps getting strong cramp then goes but still no positive was thinking I will leave till Friday which would be 6 days late then take a frer! Just think how can I possibly be preg with negative test!!

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 18:04

@lastbany I have used 3 different tests: 2 cheap ones, 1 Clearblue, and 1 First Response. All negatives and one invalid cheap one. My cycles vary which stinks, but my average is 30 days, and I am currently at day 33.

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lastbany · 17/11/2020 17:53

@ImpatientMama hi yep I'm same usually 27 day cycle! No af (was due sat) cd 31 and bfn!! What test have you used? I have only used cheapos as I can't bear to spend £10 and it be a bfn!

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 17:43

@HJen22 We are on month 2 of trying, so I know its early in my journey. But, just like you, I want either for AF to show up or a BFP. It also stinks that symptoms before AF and early pregnancy symptoms are so similar! Sigh. I am just curious if anyone has gotten a BFP as late as a week past AF or later. I want to keep my hopes up but also be realistic. With my first I got the BFP on day 2 of no AF. Baby dust to you!

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HJen22 · 17/11/2020 16:57

Hello! I am in the exact same position! I have been TTC since April and for the past few months have had relatively short cycles, normally 24/25 days. I am 3 days late this month with 2 BFNs. It's so frustrating isn't it, just want AF to come if not pregnant to move on and start a new month! Have you been trying for long? The only upside to this is that I'm hoping this may be the start of longer cycles, if that might help x