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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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lastbany · 20/11/2020 14:17

@ImpatientMama ye caus they will just book you a booking app with midwofe who then will book your scan etc! I might leave few more days and test the morning or even Monday morning so then doc tues xx

ImpatientMama · 20/11/2020 13:56

@lastbany i was looking so hard for that line for you! But I don't see it. 😕 I would for sure test in the morning which is the best time. Good luck!

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ImpatientMama · 20/11/2020 13:53

@lastbany good luck! Definitely let me know! I am going to test again in a couple days and if it has gotten darker (which is hopefully will) I will call the doctor. And hopefully get an appointment before the holiday so I can get it officially confirmed.

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lastbany · 20/11/2020 13:49

Ok stark white on the frer I really don't think I am preg now! Day 34 late by 4/6 days cramps for 12 days! Fed up

lastbany · 20/11/2020 12:57

@ImpatientMama I've been spoilt! I fell preg with my two eldest without trying was young 19/25 I them at 31 fell preg on the coil!! Abs then at 35 with my youngest on first try month after coil removal (second coil) my baby is only 11 month so I feel surely things haven't changed tht much but then I think well could be! I'm scared I'm having early menapause I don't know why have it in my head!! I have sold some trousers on Facebook they are coming now with £10 cash I'm deffo going to shop! Gonna buy a pack of two one I'm gonna take this afternoon lol and one in morning! I've decided ! I have to because I think if neg I'm deffo out! I have a doc app over ohone Tuesday so if negative gonna leave till then ! Will let you know results later xx

ImpatientMama · 20/11/2020 12:52

@lastbany I am irregular but based on the app I use to track my periods, my average is 30 days. I feel ya about wasting money. Ha. I have been taking supplements too if that helps. Helped me get pregnant last time too. They are called Conception. This last month I took a slightly different one. I forget the name but there are lots of options on Amazon.

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lastbany · 20/11/2020 12:46

@ImpatientMama yes I see line son both most definitely! I'm cd34 but usually have 28 days cycle I wonder if to buy a frer I did take Sainsbury's they say early detection b are 25 iul and frer I think are 6/10 just hate wasting the money haha
I don't k ow what to do honestly still have cramps but very intermittent

ImpatientMama · 20/11/2020 12:41

@lastbany thank you for confirming! I'm glad I am sane. At least somewhat. Haha. I am cycle day 36 and AF is 6 days late. I tested last when AF was 3 days late. It was very very negative. Not even a sign of a second line. I honestly haven't been tracking my ovulation, but I am guessing I ovulated late since it took this long to get a very slight positive. Now to decide if I should call the doctor today or wait a couple days to see if the line gets darker then call.

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lastbany · 20/11/2020 12:30

@ImpatientMama ong deffo line in both!!! So holy for you this is great news!! Can I ask (as I need the hope) what day cycle are you? How late? When did you ovulate? Or think you did? And how many days cycle do you usually have
Sooo many questions I know but I do need the help 🤣🤣

ImpatientMama · 20/11/2020 11:51

Ok ladies. A couple days ago my tests had not even a hint of a second line. Trust me. I looked very closely for one. I caved and took my last two tests this morning. Am I crazy, or is there a VERY faint second line? I don't trust the blue dye test 100%, but the pink dye one does have a second line...right?! I am going to buy more tests and test again in a couple days to see if that line gets darker. If I am crazy, let me know, because it's possible. Haha. 😂

No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️
No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️
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HJen22 · 20/11/2020 11:06

Still no sign of AF for me today. And I stupidly did an OPK which has just caused me way more confusion. I started to think oh what it I'm in fertile window and don't know and we're missing peak time to be BD, it came back high when I fully expected it to be low. I've read you can get an LH surge before AF. I know some say it can detect Pregnancy (but it's not a good method to use) so I'm trying to ignore that, so all in all was not helpful at all really! Still don't want to do another test as I just really don't want to see a BFN again. Ugh 😞

lastbany · 20/11/2020 07:22

@ImpatientMama well I took the other Sao today bfn day 34 today usually have 27 day cycles this is a joke now! I have dicots app on Tuesday but I can't see me been pregnant now there's no possible way a don't believe it! Just don't get what has happened

ImpatientMama · 19/11/2020 23:17

I am about to break. I am REALLY thinking I will test tomorrow morning since its been a couple days since my last test. I have one FRER and one Clearblue left so I may do both and hope for the best. My local grocery store has a brand which I used with my first pregnancy that is cheaper than the name-brand. So if need be, I can grab some of those for more tests. As my name says, I am impatient. 😅 It is driving me crazy!! 🤪

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lastbany · 19/11/2020 21:18

Well I saw someone said Sainsbury's test were like 10mil actually 25! Anyways bought a pack on way home tonight just took one (should have waited I know) but littally nowt! I can se when look at diff angles a shadowy but I know it's only tht! I honestly think now I'm not preg and I'm going through change or something
Just so fed up but glad didn't spend all money on frer

sociallydistained · 19/11/2020 20:33

Wishing you the best @ImpatientMama ! It's hard when you see people positing their BFP starting with faint lines and getting darker and you don't even get a hint! I'm so happy for them and love seeing them but you think wow still nothing?!

ImpatientMama · 19/11/2020 20:06

@sociallydistained Yeah my last test was a FRER and it also showed no hint of a second line which bummed me out. I am going to try my best to wait to test again until Sunday, bit I am SO tempted to test tomorrow just to see if anything changed! Ugh. This waiting is dumb. Haha. Good luck to you! Feel free to chat with us anyways!

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sociallydistained · 19/11/2020 19:43

Thank you. I am almost certainly out I've done a FRER and not even a hint at a line and I'm sure there really would be one by now. I think I'll expect AF by the weekend. My symptoms this month have been off the chart. Really not sure how I'd guess I was pregnant before AF in the future after this 🙈 what a roller coaster!
But I'll be checking in for your results 🤞🏼

HJen22 · 19/11/2020 15:43

@sociallydistained there is nothing to feel silly about, I've had plenty of months where I've thought I was PG and wasn't, it's sucks 😔 when AF arrives it's a brand new month and another chance. The moving of fertile days is so annoying, it's happened to me and because of that we've tried to DTD over the course of the 2 weeks every 2nd or 3rd day, I guess we maybe should even a little longer if not confirming ovulation, i find it feels so planned though, and knackering! You never know though, not totally out until AF arrives!

ImpatientMama · 19/11/2020 14:54

@sociallydistained maybe try a different app. I use Ovia Fertility. I like it a lot. Got pregnant with my first one using it. They also have an app for pregnancy and parenting which I used as well.

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sociallydistained · 19/11/2020 14:49

That supposed to say precious. They certainly aren't precious 🙈

sociallydistained · 19/11/2020 14:42

I think I'm out guys. I have gone over my periods since coming off the pill at the end of august and they are more irregular than I thought. I really feel like I'm gonna be a week late now and that's part of the course of my periods adjusting. I was only tracking periods on Fitbit and it has moved my fertile days now I've input my precious periods correctly so I don't even think I was fertile when I thought it was.
I just feel so stupid for suspecting I was pregnant now and telling DP I thought I was. Honestly wishing everyone here their BFP's soon though!

ImpatientMama · 19/11/2020 12:45

I have been cramping a lot and having discharge that is watery. Throughout the day I go to the bathroom thinking AF started, but nope. 🙄

Freshman year of college I had 1 maybe 2 periods the whole year. I went on birth control to regulate it. Was on it until July 2018, 4 months before I got pregnant with my son. Never missed a period between coming off the pill and my BFP (which I got day 2 of no AF). I was on birth control again several months after my son was born and took my last pill mid-August. I thought it would be a similar conception experience. But nope. I guess it's true that every pregnancy (if I am pregnant) is different.

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HJen22 · 19/11/2020 12:34

@sociallydistained definitely hope for us yet, I really wish you all the best too! It's such an agonising wait during a normal cycle, let alone this! I just came out a walk to take my mind off things and get some fresh air!

Hopefully cramps and no AF is a positive thing, I had cramps last week in the lead up to AF which have totally disappeared. The only thing I have is feeling constantly like AF has started!

@ImpatientMama that's crazy someone had to wait that long! Hopefully next test is a BFP and no need for the appointment! Really hope this weekend has some answers for us! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

sociallydistained · 19/11/2020 12:22

@HJen22 There is still hope for us both. Really wishing you the best. My tests haven't arrived yet and I need to leave or work so another agonising afternoon checking in the loo and thinking about test taking 🤦🏻‍♀️

I have had cramps on and off for ages and as of Sunday I felt they were increasing slightly and definitely a sign of AF but I swear I've said the same thing every night that they are definitely stronger today meaning AF tomorrow. Feeling the same right now but also a little sign of hope that I've been thinking the same all week 😂 ... crazy stuff.

ImpatientMama · 19/11/2020 12:21

Day 5 of no AF. Holding out testing until AF hasn't shown for a week. I have 1 Clear Blue and 1 First Response Early Response left to use. I guess I will just use both on that day and hope for the best. If I am still negative, I will definitely set up a doctors appointment and request a blood test. I just need to know either way and move on. I hope they don't turn me away or make me wait another week to test. Someone on my tracking app says she is 6 weeks late and her doctors just continue to tell her to wait a week and test again. That is beyond frustrating. There is no way I would make it to that point. I would go to another doctor. Anyways, hoping that something happens this weekend whether it be AF or BFP. 🤞

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