No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

@sociallydistained it's so hard isnt it! After my 3rd BFN on Friday I haven't tested and have tried to take my mind off of it and keep busy. But now it's back to working (from home) and easy to start thinking about it! I feel like I could cry at any minute today! I have no idea when I ovulated either, but if it was any later than cd20 I'll not be PG anyway as only DTD that day and then was expecting AF so had a rest 😂 wishing everyone those BFPs too! Every day I expect AF but nothing. Not even really had the same cm as I was having last week, just the constant feeling of it starting. I'd tried so hard this month not to symptom spot on the lead up to AF too and now it's not came and it's all I've done!

Hey everyone still waiting for AF ... I have gone through many motions since testing last week. I wrote here previously that I think my calculations were all off and also I have had a longer cycle before I just didn't realise... so since Thursdays test I have chilled out and now expecting period anyday but because it hadn't arrived at the weekend I'm back on the could I be train of thought and looking up more things on google so convinced myself I could be again... however back to square one now as my discharge has become thicker signalling AF i also have cramps but I've had them for an entire month so that doesn't really mean anything. I predict tomorrow or weds for AF but If not then I plan to test again weds am! ... still reading all of your journeys and wishing you those BFP's!

It would have been so nice wouldn't have it! Trying to remain positive and the whole it will happen when it happens, what is meant to be etc but it's just so hard when I just want to cry today. I would love to keep in touch too, I am really glad to have had you both to chat too. I have avoided really properly talking to my BF about it since the BFN on Friday, he thinks I'm crazy worrying all the time.

I know, at least with AF coming when she's meant to you know, and can have a few down days and then start again! This is so frustrating just waiting!!

@HJen22 I did exactly the same!! My daughter is one in dec and I thought ah for Xmas I could have announced it! By putting it on her top saying have you seen baby new top! Or baby is getting a baby for Xmas! Something like tht !
Well @HJen22 and @ImpatientMama I would love to keep ontouch with you both on our journeys

@lastbany that's totally understandable! Everyone has their own reasons of why and when, it would be lovely to have two younger ones closer in ages. And definitely to cut hours. I can't wait to only work part time 😂 that's crazy you have to pay back your lunchtimes! I try to think oh what's another month but I always find myself thinking when I'd be due, when I could tell people etc. I was gutted to not be PG in October as then I knew it would be into the new year earliest that I'd be able to tell people if I was expecting.

I'm 33 in March and my BF is 38, I've not got any children yet and it's all I've ever wanted. I just didn't realise how hard it was going to be. I've always had a fear it would take me a while, no idea why, and then when my sister struggled it worried me even more. She has two beautiful boys and I want nothing more than to give them a baby cousin and her a niece or nephew. I have an 11 year old step daughter and I want her to be at the age where she will still be super into a baby, she's loves my sisters kids. All of my friends are also having babies, one just had twins, one is due December and one in January and I just really wish I could join them!

@HJen22 deffo I think it's because (don't want it to come across wrong caus not only reason!) I'm a nurse currently we wirk three 13 hour shifts a week with every 4th week been 4 13 hours shift (to pay bacn our lunch time! Unbelievable I know) I'm due bacn January and wish to cut my hours to spend more time with my babies! However because we want another baby I want to wait to cut hours as will effect my mat pay! So was hoping to go bacn to work 3/4 months preg so that I don't have to much time there before I'm bacn home with baby! I'm living Ben a hoise wife! Plus my eldest goes uni next year so want to spend much time with him as possible!!! Plus my age! 37 soon so knocking on 🤣🤣 plus would love small gap with babies supose will just have to stop been silly about it all and think few morw months won't mean anything!

@ImpatientMama good idea, I already have a doctors app tomorow which I'm going to speak about me possibly having irregular periods and why? Cais when I look back I've had 10 periods since baby and they have been cycle days, 27,42,22,27,27,33,22,27,27 and this one 36!!! I thought at first was due to body cha hung back from baby! But now thinking something not right

Same, I've lost all hope and feel like I'm clutching at straws just because AF hasn't arrived. Now I'm just getting annoyed that AF isn't here yet and feeling frustrated and emotional today! And I'm annoyed that it happened to be a month I didn't do OPKs so I've no idea what's going on!

@ImpatientMama yeah they can maybe give you a telephone appointment! I don't find the OPKs too stressful, they were quite helpful when I used them as the showed I was ovulating earlier than predicted. However, who even knows how accurate they have been! But I know they aren't for everyone, and plenty manage without!

@lastbany it's always so gutting the first day isn't it, I tend to be miserable all week but I'm really going to try my hardest not to be this time round. I hope you feel better today, and yeah another month another try!

Sorry about tht at! @ImpatientMama tbh on the back of me I knew that even though there's still hope I know that I would have got a bfp if I was preg! So knew I wasn't deep down just no af gives you false hope I know ppl say they didn't get a bpf for weeks and weeks after af due but tbh in my experience tests are pretty accurate!
It's cruel I was gutted yesterday when I started af however know I'm ordering cheap opks and now it's on and up to next month!

Oh I really hope not 😔 how many DPO should you be today? Perhaps give the doctor a call. I don't know much about chemical pregnancy's, I just read up a bit there. Still you haven't had any sign of AF have you?

@ImpatientMama I don't think I can face testing again today, I've really got it into my head I can't possibly be pregnant if it's not come up on tests yet (last one was Friday) and I either didn't ovulate or my body is still trying to! I did another OPK yesterday and it came back high, I think I'll carry on and see if I get a peak. Always something else I can bring up with the doctor too! And if it hits peak some more BD 😂 everything crossed for your tests today!! Really hope that line is there and darker!!!!

@ImpatientMama everything crossed for you! This just isn't an easy ride is it!! Really hope you get the line and the digital too! I'm the same as you, I don't want to do a digital until I've had a BFP on a FRER or something! I've got a call scheduled with the doctor on Tuesday to discuss the bloods I had done back in august, so will be able to tell her then about my lack of AF if still not arrived. Got a feeling she'll just say test again later so the plan is if still no show do it next Friday!

@ImpatientMama oh I'm sorry what a stress for you 😞 it could just be those tests aren't as sensitive, the two you did before looked positive, I don't know much about evap lines but the chances of getting two with that surely isn't much? I would continue to test! And maybe either way call the doctor and explain and get some advice? Google is great but it also really scares me with all the things we read and worry about could be going on! Things I didn't even know existed! I really just thought you got a late period, tested and got a positive. Oh how I wish it were that simple!

@lastbany yeah I'd try OPKs, and you're right your body could still be adjusting. I find OPKs useful as it tended to be earlier than the apps predicted. Who knows what's happened this month, I didn't track OPKs and wish I had. And then with a normal cycle your ovulation day and fertile window will prob change and not be as late as you expect - which is just predicted after a longer month this month! That's what I'm thinking anyway, I'd be doubtful I'd ovulate when the app is predicting - given it keeps getting further away as the cycle goes on!

@ImpatientMama that's ok! Oh I really hope not, stay positive and test again, have you got another test?

@HJen22 ye gonna buy opk think I'm ovulating different times! Each month annoying but supise have had a baby within 12 months body could still be adjusting! Not gonna temp like you say too much lol gonna try a month of dtd every other day lol

@ImpatientMama no sign of AF for me yet. But still very much in limbo, haven't tested since Friday!

Ah yeah test again will have just been the muddle up with timings I'm sure!!

I'm sorry @lastbany it's always so gutting and waiting even longer doesn't help it 😔 new month and another fresh opportunity 🤞🏻 I started off with OPKs and didn't find them too stressful so I'd recommend it for guidance. I find BBT a bit stressful and get a bit obsessive but I plan to do it next month and only look at it for ovulation confirmation and nothing else after that!

@HJen22 well I'm out! AF has arrived! Which
1/ I'm gutted about
2/ glad I know either way
But I am so annoyed feel like I would actually nearly ve ready to start trying again of would have had a normal cycle!!
I'm undecided if to order cheap opk so that I know when ovulating according to app it's moved from day 13 to day 21!!!! We did dtd day 22 but obv tht only time till 29!! So no wonder didn't conceive! Part of me thinks stuck to every other day three month and not track then other half thinks track so I know?! A just dunno what to do so annoyed and upset